Ukuba wenza iphutha lokukopela kwaye wabanjwa, unokuthi ubuze umbuzo othi, "yintoni na?"
Umtshato wakho akudingeki ukuba uphele ngenxa yokuba unobungozi. Nangona ukuvuma umtshato kwiqabane lakho kuya kubangela intlungu kunye nomsindo, umtshato wakho unokuphila. Oku kuya kwenzeka kuphela xa uyazisola ngokuqinisekileyo isigqibo sakho sokukopela kwaye ukuba awuyikuzisola ukuba ubanjwe.
Ukuba unquma ukuvuma into enxulumene nayo, qiniseka ukuba uyayenza ngenxa yezizathu ezifanelekileyo, kungekhona nje ukulahla ityala lakho.
Abanye abantu basebenzisa imicimbi njengendlela yokwesaba ukuphelisa umtshato. Kukho ukungaxhamli okukhulu okwenziwe ngumcimbi ukuzalisa ukungabikho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba zezizathu, imitshato eminye iya kuhlaziywa kwaye ezinye ziyakwazi ukuphela.
"Akunjalo yonke imitshato ethinteka ngokungathembeki inokwenza okanye ifanele igcinwe. Ngamanye amaxesha umonakalo omkhulu uye wenziwa, okanye zombini amaqabane awenziwanga. Ukusuka kwiMayoClinic.com, Ukungathembeki: Ukulungisa Umtshato Wakho Emva Kobuhlobo
Ukuvuselela umtshato wakho kwaye uphilise intlungu kwaye ungathembeli umlingane wakho emva kokuba ukhohlise, uya kuba neenkcukacha ezininzi ofuna ukuzenza:
Yeka Ukukhohlisa
Oku kuyandila kulula, kodwa uya kumangaliswa ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukuba abantu bawuphelise loo nto kanye kunye.
Kufuneka ugqibe! Awunanto yokuthintana nayo nayiphi na umntu.
Yeka ukuLola
Yeka ukwenza izizathu zento. Musa ukuzithethelela ukukrexeza kwakho. Akukho zizathu zokukhohlisa.
Yamkela uxanduva
Ungamangaleli umlingane wakho. Unokukhetha. Unokuphelisa umtshato wakho ngaphambi kokukopela, kodwa wanquma ukuba nomcimbi.
Kukho emahlombe akho kuphela. Ukuxolisa kumlingane wakho.
Yenza isigqibo
Nquma ukuba ufuna ukuhlala utshatile. Fumana ukuba iqabane lakho lifuna ukuhlala litshatile. Ukuba nonke nifuna ukugcina umtshato wenu, ngoko umtshato wenu awuyi kutshabalaliswa. Nonke nineenjongo ezifanayo.
Nyaniseka
Kumele uthembeke, wena kunye neqabane lakho ukuba ufuna ukuqhubela phambili. Uza kufuneka unqamle i-web yamanga enokuthi ikhutshwe ukwenzela ukufihla umcimbi. Ngoku yisikhathi sokugqiba ngokucacileyo, ulawulo, kunye nokuvuleka ukwenzela ukukunceda ulwalamano lwakho lufikelele kumhlaba oqinileyo.
Gcina I zi thembiso
Ukuba uthe uya kuba kwindawo ethile, kuba khona. Ukuba uthe uya kwenza into, yenza njalo. Yithembeke kwaye musa ukuphulaphula izithembiso zakho. Awukwazi ukunceda lakho iqabane liphinde lenze ithemba xa ungathembeki kwaye unokwethenjelwa.
Vula
Izinga lomlingani lakho liphantsi. Vula ukuba uvule iqabane lakho ukuba ungubani, unobani, kunye njalo. Musa ukufihla okanye ukukhupha.
Nika Umfazi Wakho Isikhundla Esithile
Kukulungele ukuthatha "ukuphumla" ukuba iimvakalelo ziphakamileyo okanye omnye wenu unomphefumlo. Oku akuthethi wena okanye iqabane lakho liya kuthatha ixesha elide. Kuthetha nje ukuba izinto kufuneka zipholise ngaphambi kokuba uhlale unxibelelana kwakhona okanye uxoxe ngezihloko ezinzima.
Sebenzisa ixesha kunye nomlingani wakho
Kanye nokuvumela iqabane lakho libe nexesha elilodwa, kufuneka ube kunye nexesha. Cwangcisa ubusuku bobusuku kwaye xa iqabane lakho lilungele, thabatha uhambo oluhlangeneyo.
Linda
Ungalindeli ukuba umlingane wakho athembele ngokukhawuleza. Kuya kuthatha ixesha lokuphinda umethembe.
Vumelani ukufumana Uncedo lobuNtu
Ukuba lakho iqabane lifuna ukubona umcebisi womtshato, yebo ewe. Ukuthi u-no kubonisa ukuba awuyiyo ingxaki ngokuvuselela umtshato wakho. Kufuneka uvulekele ukuxoxa kunye nokuchonga imiba kunye neengxaki ebomini bakho kunye nomtshato wakho. Ulwaphulo oluthile olujoliswe emoyeni luyindlela elungileyo yokusebenzisa intlungu yokungathembeki kunye nokunceda ukuvuselela iindlela ezintsha zokusebenzisana.
Yamkela ukuphela komtshato wakho njengoko uyazi
Nangona uhlala kunye kunye, umtshato wakho njengoko wawuyazi ukuba uphele kunye nomcimbi. Yakha umtshato wakho omtsha kunye nokunyaniseka nothando kwaye ujonge kwikamva lakho kunye, kungekudala.
Yiba Nomnqweno Wokuxolela
Kufuneka uxolele. Oku akuthethi ukuba unokuzivumela ukuba uhambe, kodwa akudingeki ukuba uthwale amabhakethi enetyala ngenxa yobomi bakho bonke.
"Ungalokothi ukhuthaze iqabane lakho ukuba 'liphumelele.' Endaweni yoko, maneka ukuva iintlungu zomlingane wakho uze ungene kuyo. Ungalindeli ukwesaba ukuba uphinde ukhuphe kwakhona. Esikhundleni, vula iingxoxo ngokuzivumela ukuba iqabane lakho likwazi ukuba uqhubeka ucinga ngomcimbi kwaye Awuyi kumshiya yodwa ukuba athwale intlungu. Yiba khona ngokuzeleyo ukuva umsindo kunye nentlungu ngexesha elide lithathayo, elinokuvakalelwa ngonaphakade.Ukuba ufuna ukuba iqabane lakho livumele ukuhamba intlungu, kufuneka yibambe." UJanis Abrahms Umbhali wePrince emva kwe-Affair
Wena (okanye nonke bobabini) unokungonwabi kumtshato wakho ixesha elide. Ukukopela akusiyo impendulo njengoko ngokuqinisekileyo yenza izinto zibe zibi nakwiimeko, nangona ukuba zive kakuhle ekuqaleni. Kukhethileyo isibonelo sokuba sibone ukuba unokwenza izibhambathiso zakho kwaye wenze umsebenzi ofunekayo ukuze uphilise ubudlelwane bakho kwaye uqhubeke phambili.