Jongana nayo. Kukho amaxesha apho iqabane lakho liyakucasula. Mhlawumbi iqabane lakho liyakucasula nawe. Mhlawumbi iqabane lakho liyakucasulwa nomntu okanye into engenzi lutho nawe.
Unokukhubaza umlingane wakho nangakumbi ukuba awuvumeli iimvakalelo zomlingane wakho, ukuba uzama "ukulungiswa ngokukhawuleza," okanye ukuba uyayichaza isizathu sokuba umlingane wakho athukuthele.
Umlingane wakho unokukukhathaza ngokungenangqiqo okanye ukuba uthe wawela imida ethile okanye imimiselo yomtshato kumtshato wakho.
"Ngexesha elizayo xa ucatshukiswa nomlingane wakho, endaweni yokuhlaselwa ngomsindo othukutheleyo, kuthathe ixesha lokuhlaziya kuqala. Xa uziva uxolo kwakhona, unokusebenzisana ukwakha ubudlelwane obunamandla." kwiNkqubo Yomtshato Yomtshato .
Nantsi into eningayithandiyo kumfazi okhusayo:
- "Akuyona into enkulu." Ewe, kuyinto enkulu kumlingane wakho. Iimvakalelo zomlingane kunye neengcamango zakho malunga nombandela zibalulekile.
- "Ndiyakwenza oku ngcono kuwe." Ukucinga ukuba unesisombululo kwiingxaki zomlingane wakho okanye ukukhupha kuya kuthatyathwa njengento yokugada. Umlingane wakho ufuna ukuqonda ngokuchasene nokuthuthuzela.
- "Ndandinomhla obi ngakumbi kunoko." Umdlalo owodwa-mdlalo awuzukuphumelela. Musa ukuyidlala.
- "Noba yintoni." Ukuba ufuna ukufumana njengento engapheliyo, tshela "nantoni na." Eli binzana liya kukuqinisekisa ukuba uya kuba nomlingane okhuselekileyo.
- "Andizange ..." Ukuzikhusela kuya kwandisa nje ingxabano okanye ukukhupha abo babini ojongene nayo.
- "...." Ukushiya nto okanye ukushiya kwigumbi ngaphandle kokuthi ufuna ukuphumla okanye isikhala esithile akuyona ingcinga efanelekileyo xa unomlingane othukutheleyo.
- "Awuqondi." Umlingane wakho unokuthatha into eyahlukileyo kwimeko, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba izinto ezixhalabisayo zakho azivumelekanga okanye ukuba iqabane lakho lifuna inkulumo evela kuwe.
- "Unditshintshile xa unomsindo." Ukucetyiswa ukuba bobabili ulala ngesondo xa unomfazi okhuseleyo unokubonwa njengento enyanyekayo kwaye engenakukhathazeka.
Nantsi indlela omele uphendule ngayo umfazi okhuselekileyo:
- Yazisa ukuba uqabane lakho liyakhathazeka. Musa ukuyihoxisa imeko okanye uzame ukwenza ihlaya malunga nalo.
- Jonga ulwimi lomzimba. Ukuphulaphula kuthetha okungakumbi kunokuva oko okuthethwa ngumlingane wakho. Ukuqaphela ukuthetha okungabonwanga ngamazwi obonisayo kokubili kunokukunika ukuqonda okungakumbi.
- Gwema i-eye roll. Ukugqithisa amehlo akho kunokunyusa ukuxhatshazwa phakathi kwabo bobabini.
- Musa ukuhamba nje. Ukuba udinga ixesha lokucinga ngeemeko okanye indawo ethile okanye ucinge ukuba iqabane lakho lifuna indawo, yithetha njalo ngaphambi kokuphuma kwigumbi.
- Yamkela iimvakalelo zomlingane wakho zilungile. Awuyithandi indlela umlingane wakho azizwa ngayo kodwa kufuneka uhloniphe loo mvakalelo kwaye ubonise uvelwano.
- Yabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho. Unokwabelana ngeengcinga zakho malunga neengxaki kamva. Musa ukulibazisa ukwabelana ngendlela ozivakalelwa ngayo.
- Yithi "Ndiyakuthanda." Yithetha amagama. Musa ukucacisa. Yithi nje.
- Musa ukwenza izigqibo ezinkulu. Akusiyo ingcamango efanelekileyo ukukhawuleza kwiinqununu ezinkulu ngelixa unomntu othukutheleyo.
- Yazi ukuba nini uxolo. Ukuxolisa okunentsingiselo kufuna okungakumbi kunokuthi "Ndiyaxolisa."
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