Ukuqaphela Ubumano obusondeleyo emva kokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo
Kunokuba nzima ukubuyisela izilonda zesini ukuze ukwazi ukuba ubuhlobo obusondelene obusondeleyo bunjani. U-Maureen Canning, MA, i-LMFT, yena osindisayo ngokusweleka komntwana, umlwelwe wesondo kunye nolwalamano lolwalamano , uchaza impawu ezili-10 eziphambili zobundlobongela obuphathekayo ngokwesini emva kokunyangwa kwezocansi kwincwadi yakhe, "Ukukhanukela, ukuthukuthela, Uthando: Ukuqonda ukuLungiswa kwezesondo kunye neNdlela Ukusondelana. "
I-1 - Ukwabelana ngesondo inikeza uluvo lweNtlalo
Iimvakalelo zokhuseleko, uxhumano kunye nokuqinisekiswa kwenzeka kwintsebenziswano efanelekileyo yesondo. Kungathatha ixesha ukuhamba kwiimvakalelo zengozi, ukukhutshwa kunye neentloni, kodwa kulungele umonde nokunyamezela.
2 - Ukuvalelwa ngokomzwelo nangokwenyama kubonakala
Ulwalamano olusenyongweni oluhle, bobabini amaqabane baqaphela ukukhathazeka kwabo ngokwasemzimbeni kunye nokuvakalelwa ngokomzimba. Ezi zihlangene ngokuqinisekileyo ngaphandle kwesidingo sokuphazamisa okanye "ukuxosha i-orgasm."
3 - Ukudala kunye neNtshukumo ibuye kwakhona
Oku akukhawulelwanga kwimisebenzi yesondo kodwa kunokubuyiselwa komsebenzi owenziweyo wokudala, njengokudlala umculo, ukupenda okanye ukubhala. Ukwabelana ngesondo akusadingeki ukuba kube yedwa intengiso yesimo sengqondo.
4 - Uzihlakulela kwiindlela ezingezizo zokuzalwa
Ubulili obuphilileyo asiyena umzila okhethekileyo wokuzondla kwaye ufumene ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba uhlala ujabulela ngezinye iindlela. Khangela uvuyo kwimisebenzi yenyama kunye nemimiselo efana nokuthatha ibhola yokutshisa ibhotile, ujongela indebe efudumele yeeyi okanye ukudansa kwimvula.
5 - Ukubandezeleka kunye nokuxinezeleka kutyeshelwa njengeNgxenye yoBomi
Ukukwazi ukujamelana nokudumala, ukhathala, nobunzima ngaphandle kokusebenzisa ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kukuyingxenye ebalulekileyo yokuphucula. Ezinye iindlela zokuhlangabezana nazo ziquka ukubhala, ukuphulaphula umculo, ukusebenzisa, ukubiza umhlobo kunye nokuziphucula.
6 - Unokuzixhalabisa ngokwemvakalelo
Nangona ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesini kuyika ukungcatshiswa nokuxhatshazwa kweemvakalelo zabo ukuzikhusela ekungciphekweni, ulwalamano olusenyongweni oluqinileyo uyazi ukuba ukukhuseleka kukubalulekileyo ekuthethaneni ngokunyanisekileyo nabanye.
7 - Uphuhlisa kwaye ulondoloze iMida yeMpilo kunye nabanye
Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesini kunobungozi kwimida enempilo, nokuba yinyanzelo okanye ingaqapheli ukubaluleka kwemida ekugcineni abantu bobudlelwane babo bakhuselekile. Ukuphuhlisa imida enempilo kukuvumela ukuba ube sisengozini kwaye ukhuselekile ngexesha elifanayo.
8 - Ukuziphatha ngokwesini kulungelelanise kwaye kulungelelanise
Nangona izilonda zesini zihlala emagqabini obundlobongela obugqithiseleyo, zijongene nokuxhaphaza ngokwezesondo zoxhatshazo okanye ukunyanzeliswa, iimvakalelo zesondo, xa uhlakulela ukukhula ngokwesondo, unokulawula ukuhamba okufanelekileyo kwezesondo.
9 - Unomdla kwaye unakekele ngeempendulo zabanye abantu
Esikhundleni sokuba uthathe oko abantu bathetha ngokwabo baze baphendule ngokwemvakalelo, ukusondelana ngokusondelene kukuvumela ukuba uzame ukuqonda oko kwenzekayo kubo. Sonke sicinga kwaye senza ngendlela eyahlukileyo, ukukhulumisana okuvulekileyo phakathi kwakho nabanye kubalulekile ekufundeni ukuvelisa nokuqonda abanye.
10 - Ufunda ukuthemba abanye
Xa unqoba ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesini, kufuneka uqale ugxininise ekuthembeleni uze ufunde ukuqonda inyaniso yakho. Emva koko ungasebenzisa imida ephilileyo ukuze uzigcine uphephile ngenkathi uthembela inyaniso yabanye njengoko uhamba kwiinqanaba lobuhlobo.