Imiba engaphantsi komtshato iya kunyuka kwi-Intanethi
Oo, yiyiphi i-web-tangled ekhutshwe njengokuba inani elikhulayo labasetyhini kunye namadoda abatshatileyo bexhamla kwiindawo zeengxoxo ze-intanethi zintando yesithandane okanye zesondo, i-University of Florida yokufunda ifunyanwa.
"Akuzange kube nanini ngaphambili ukuba umhlaba wokuthandana usukulungele ukuba amadoda namabhinqa abatshatileyo befuna ukuqhuma," utshilo uBerriz Avila Mileham, owenza uphando ngophando lwakhe loqeqesho kwi-UF.
"Nge-cybersex, akukho sisisidingo sokuhamba ngokufihlakeleyo kwii-motels. Ukuqhagamshelana nge-intanethi kunokuthi kwenzeke kwindlu enye kunye nomlingane wakho."
Ngamazwi omnye umntu oneminyaka engama-41 ubudala ekufundeni, "Yonke into endiyenzayo ndiyibuyise ikhompyutheni yam, kwaye ndinamawaka amabhinqa anokukhethayo. (It) ayinakufumana lula kunoko." Imibutho yokucebisa ibiza iingxoxo zengxoxo zihamba ngokukhawuleza-imbangela ephezulu yokwahlukana kobudlelwane, kwaye ingxaki yodwa ibonakala yanda ngakumbi njengoko inani labasebenzisi be-intanethi liqhubeka likhula, u-Mileham uthe.
"I-intanethi iya kuba yindlela eqhelekileyo yokungathembeki, ukuba ingekafiki," watsho. Ngokungafani nezinye izinto ezibulalayo, ukucofa okulula kwenkinobho yemouse kuphelisa umnxeba - ukuba umntu ufuna ukuwuqhawula - ngaphandle kweenkcazelo okanye uxolo, wathi.
I-Mileham yaqhutyelwa ingxoxo enzulu kwi-intanethi kunye namadoda angama-76 kunye nabasetyhini abali-10 ubudala, abaneminyaka engama-25 ukuya kuma-66, abasebenzisa i-Yahoo ethi "Ukutshata kunye noThathane" okanye iMicrosoft "Yatshatile Kodwa Ukuthandana," iindawo zeengxoxo ze-intanethi zijoliswe ngqo kubantu abatshatileyo.
Abathathi-nxaxheba abafundayo, ababemele onke amazwe, babandakanye oomama abahlala ekhaya, abasebenzi bezakhiwo, oonjiniyela, oongikazi kunye nabaongameli beenkampani ezinkulu.
Abanye bahamba kwi-intanethi ngokukhawuleza "ukulungisa ngesondo," ngelixa abanye baqhagamshelana ngokunxulumene neengxaki zabo kunye nemibandela yomtshato, u-Mileham uthe.
Abanye babenethemba lokuthi babe nobomi boqobo. Kanti abanye befuna ukubandakanya kwi-cybersex, ukutshintshana ngeso lengqondo kunye nomntu ngelixa ehlawula umzimba, watsho.
Uninzi lwabantu luthandana nomtshato wabo kodwa lwafuna ukudibana ne-intanethi ngenxa yexhalaba, ukungabikho komlingani wesithandwa ngokwesini okanye isidingo sokuhluka kunye nokuzonwabisa, u-Mileham uthe. Omnye umntu otshatileyo wabhala wathi: "Andiyi kukukhohlisa. "Ndiyifumene nezinye iiblantshi esizivakalayo xa siselula kwaye siqala ukuthandana nokuthandana."
Isikhalazo seNombolo 1 esivela kumadoda sasingabikho kwesondo kumtshato, "kusho uMileham. "Abaninzi babo bathi umfazi wabo wayebandakanyeke ekukhuliseni abantwana kangangokuthi wayengenomdla wokulala ngesondo." Ngenxa yokuba akukho nto ichaphazelayo ekubandakanyekeni kwintetho ye-intanethi, abantu abatshatileyo bahlala becinga ukuziphatha kwabo njengenjabulo, uMayham uthe. Abathathi-nxaxheba abangamashumi asibhozo anesithathu abathathu abathathi-nxaxheba bathi bathe bazingqineli, kwaye i-17 ekhulwini ekhoyo ibona "uhlobo oluthathaka" lokungathembeki olulungele ukulungiswa, wathi.
Olunye uphando luye lwabonisa, nangona kunjalo, ukuba abaninzi abatshatileyo bazive benokungcatshiswa, benomsindo kwaye bebuhlungu ngenxa yokungathembeki kwi-intanethi njengoko bebeya kwenza ukuba ukukrexeza kwesikhumba kwenzeni, wathi.
Ucwaningo lwe-UF lufumene umgangatho oqaqambileyo kulaba baqhagamshelwano kwi-intanethi. Abaninzi babike ukuba okokuqala kwaqala njengento engenamacala, ukutshintshisana kwabamanyanisekileyo kwaqhubela phambili ngokukhawuleza kwiminqweno enxulumene nolwabelana ngesondo, wathi.
Abangamashumi amabini anesithandathu kwabafundi abathathi-nxaxheba be-86 baya kudibana nomntu ababenokusebenzisana naye kwi-intanethi, kwaye ke, zonke ziphela ziphelile zinezinto zokuphila kwangempela . Omnye umntu oneminyaka engama-66 ubudala waphela waba nemicimbi engama-13 ngale ndlela, wathi.
Uphando lubonisa ukuba amadoda angaphezu kwamabhinqa asebenzisa ama-chat rooms, wathi uMileham, owakufumene nzima ukufumana abafazi ukuba baphendule uphando lwakhe. Abafazi basoloko bombhelwa ngemilayezo kwaye banokukhetha nokukhetha imilayezo abayiphendula ngayo, uthe. U-Al Cooper, ingcali ekhokelayo kwintlalo ye-intanethi kunye nombhali wencwadi ethi "Ulwabelana ngesondo kunye ne-intanethi: I-Guidebook yaKlinikhi," kutsho uphando lukaMileham lubalulekile ekuncedeni ukuqonda le nto ibonakala yinto eqhelekileyo.
"Siphulaphule kwii-psychologists ezijikelezayo kwi-intanethi ebonisa ukuziphatha ngokwesondo kuba yimbangela enkulu yeengxaki zomtshato," kusho u-Cooper. "Kufuneka siqonde kangcono izinto ezichaphazelayo ukuba siyakwazi ukubalumkisa abantu malunga nomthambeko othobayo oqala ngokudlala ngothando kwi-intanethi kwaye kaninzi uphela umtshato." Ngaphandle kwababini abathathi-nxaxheba besifundo, bonke bafihla imisebenzi yabo ye-intanethi kwizabo zabo, ngokuqhelekileyo "bathetha" emva kokuba amadoda okanye abafazi babo belele, uMilham uthe. Kodwa abanye basebenzise le ndlela yokungabikho kwamandla okuba baphumelele, ngelixa iqabane lawo lihlala egumbini, wathi.
Omnye umntu onjalo wathi, "Nangona ndisekhompyutheni umfazi wam nje ucinga ukuba ndibhalela ingxelo ngomsebenzi." Omnye umntu uthe umfazi wakhe, owaziyo okwenzayo kwaye akayithandanga, wayekhangela ngamagxa ngamanye amaxesha xa ebhala, uMileham uthe. Ininzi yezibheno ze-intanethi kubantu abatshatileyo kukungaqinisekanga, kudibanisa nenxalenye engathintiyo, abayibona njengelayisenisi yokulala ngokwesondo, kusho uMileham.
Omnye unokubonakalisa iincwadana zesondo kunye nolwabelana ngesondo nakwasemzini ongabonakali nanini na imini okanye ubusuku, wathi.
Abathathi-nxaxheba abambalwa babonisa ukuba baxelele ngakumbi malunga nabo kuma-intanethi kunabesifazane babo okanye amadoda. "Saqala ukuxoxa ngokuphila, umtshato wethu, into esiyifunayo ukuyidla, zeziphi izikhundla zesondo esithandayo," kubhala indoda enye kuMileham.
"Ndaziva ngathi ndiyamazi kwelinye ubomi." UMileham ukholelwa ukuba ixesha lifikile ukuba i-Intanethi ibaluleke kakhulu njengengxenye yeengxoxo zangaphambili zomtshato njengoko kungakhathaliseki ukuba kungabikho abantwana. "Ukuthintela iingxaki zexesha elizayo, imibhangqwana eselula, kunye nezibini ezithatha ixesha elide, kufuneka zithethe malunga nendima ye-intanethi eya kudlala ngayo ubudlelwane babo."
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