Ndingayifumana Njani Ukuyeka?
Intombi yam kunye nam sele sithandana malunga nonyaka. Unenene ngokwenene, inxalenye yento endiyithandayo ngaye, kodwa ukuba ndiyathetha into eyichukumisayo emva kokuba siphuze, undibethe. Kwaye akusilo i-punch light. Andive ndikwazi ukuthetha okanye ukwenza nantoni na xa oko kwenzeka, kodwa ndivakalelwa kukuba uyahlukumeza. Ukuba intombi yam iyandichukumisa xa sidakiwe, ndingamfumana njani ukuba ayeke?
Isigqibo Sakho
Nangona imeko ingenakuvakalelwa ekulawuleni kwakho, unokukhetha ukuba uqhubeke nolwalamano, kwaye ekugqibeleni uya kuba ngumntu omele aphile naluphi na isigqibo owenzayo.
Nangona kunjalo, ingozi yokuhlala ubudlelwane obundlobongela buphezulu kakhulu. Ininzi la mabhinqa awathabathi amantombazana abo.
AWUKHO wedwa
Nangona kunjalo, oko ufumeneyo kukuxhaphaza kwaye luhlobo lobudlobongela obusondelene nabo. Amanye amadoda amaninzi, kunye nabasetyhini, bahamba emzabalazweni ofanayo. Uphando kumazwe ahlukeneyo nakwezinye iinkcubeko lubonise ubungqina obuqinileyo phakathi kokuxilisa ulwaphulo-mthetho kubalingane obusondeleyo, nokuba ngaba betshatile, bahlala kunye, badibana, okanye badibana, nokuba ngaba amaqabane angama-gay okanye aqonde.
Nangona oku kwenzekayo xa uthi intombi yakho ikushaya xa uthetha into ephazamisayo, awuyikusola into eyenzekayo. Ngelishwa, akukho ndlela yokuqinisekisa ukuba uyayeka. Ingaba uhlala ulwalamano okanye awukho, ukuqala okulungileyo kukumxelela ukuba ubundlobongela abuvunyelwanga kuwe
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Ukusela utywala kunxulumene nokuba ngumenzi wexhoba kunye nexhoba lobundlobongela phakathi kwezibini.
Nangona kunjalo, uphando luye lwabonisa ukuba abafazi, kunye namadoda, ababetha abahlobo babo bokuthandana emva kokuba baphuze, banamanani aphezulu kwiimpawu ezingafaniyo kunye nokuziphatha. Impawu ezingabonakaliyo zibandakanya ukungabi nangovelwano kwabanye abantu, iimpembelelo zokulimaza abanye, nokungabikho kokukhathazeka ngokulandela imithetho yezenhlalakahle kunye nokulindela.
Ukungabikho komntu kulo mongo akuthethi ukuba unamahloni, ungathandeki ekubeni nabahlobo okanye ezinye iinkonzo zentlalo, okanye ukuba akayiqondi kwaye asebenzise izitho zentlalo okanye ukugqoka kwaye azibone kakuhle. Abantu abaninzi abachasene nabo bafaka umzamo omkhulu ekubonakalweni okwamkelekileyo kunye nokuthandwa ngabantu. Bokuba baninzi "abahlobo" kunye nabanomdla kwaye banokubonakala bakhulu kunobomi.
Ngelishwa, abafazi abaneempawu ezingafaniyo zidla ngokukhawuleza, kwaye amadoda angabethandwa kubo naphezu kokuqonda kwabo. Uthi unesibindi, kwaye leyo yinxalenye yokokukhanga kuye, kodwa yintoni inkohlakalo? Ingaba udibana naye, unxinekile, ungenanto okanye uyamangalisa; Ngaba oku kukunika umonakalo wokonwaba kwimeko engafanelekanga?
Ubundlobongela, ngokukodwa ngokudibanisa notywala okanye ezinye iziyobisi, akuyona indlela ekhuselekileyo yokufuna umdla. Yaye ngoxa ubuhlobo bakho bungenakho ukukhululeka kwexesha lokuzikhukhumeza, awuvuyi kakuhle kulo mhlobo ongenakulinganiswa.
Utywala ngokuqhelekileyo kubandakanyeka kwiziganeko ezinzima kakhulu zobundlobongela obusenyongweni. Inqanaba lokuxiliswa kotywala kunokusetyenziswa nje kotywala, kubonakala kudala imeko apho kubakho ubundlobongela.
Ngoko yinto efanelekileyo yokumisela umda xa usela kunye nentombi yakho.
Indlela efanelekileyo yokwenza oku kukubala ngezinga lakho legazi leziyobisi.
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Nangona ukulawula ukusela kwakho kuya kunciphisa umngcipheko wokutshatyalaliswa kwakhona kwinqanaba elithile, qwalasela ukuba ufuna ukwenza nayiphi na ixesha kunye namandla kubudlelwane obangele ukuba buhlungu kunye nokuxhalaba.
Ukuyeka ulwaphulo
Enye indlela yokumisa ubundlobongela kukuphelisa ubudlelwane, kodwa khumbula ukuba ukuphelisa ubudlelwane nomntu onobundlobongela kwandisa ingozi yobundlobongela.
Zama ukungazihlazi okanye ukumcaphukisa kwinkqubo. Gcina uhlobo lwabahlobo kunye nosapho, kwaye unganqikazi ukubiza 911 ukuba ubonisa ekhaya okanye emsebenzini emva kokuba umxelele ukuba ubudlelwane budlulile.
Ukuba ugqiba ukuqhubeka nobudlelwane bakho, bobabini nidinga uncedo ukuze ulwaphulo-mthetho luyeke kwaye luphinde lwakhiwe ukuthembela komnye nomnye. Wena kunye nentombi yakho inokuzuza kwiibini zengcebiso , ukuhlolisisa indlela ubuhlobo bakho bufikelela ngayo kubundlobongela. Kwakhona uya kuncedwa yinkxaso yolawulo lwengqumbo, kwaye mhlawumbi uya kuxhamla kwi-alcohol advice.
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