Umbuzo: Umqeshwa wam osebenza kunye naye ulahlekile umsebenzi omningi kwaye uthi kungenxa yokuba unexinzelelo. Ngenye imini ndaye kwintengiso kwikhefu lokuhlwa sasemini ndaza ndambona ndithengisa kunye nodade wayo kwaye ndingazijonga zonke izinto ezidandathekileyo. Oku kuyandithukuthelisa kuba ndisebenze ixesha elide lokuzama ukuthabatha xa sele ephuma emsebenzini. Ndiba novelwano oluninzi kubantu abanesifo sengqondo, kodwa andifuni ukuthatha inzuzo kuwo.
Ndicinga ukuxelela umphathi wethu oko ndabona. Ingaba kunjalo ukuba uyayicinezela?
Impendulo: Ndiyayiqonda kakuhle ukuba kutheni unokuba udidekile malunga noko ubonile. Ukuhamba ngokubonakala kwangaphandle kuphela, kulula kakhulu ukucinga ukuba umhlobo wakho unokuthi aphelise ukugula kwakhe. Nangona kunjalo, into esinayo sinomzuzwana nje ngexesha. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu ekunqumeni ukuba unesifo sokudandatheka kakhulu ukuya emsebenzini kukuba ubomi bakhe bufana nobani. Mhlawumbi wayenzima kakhulu ukulala ubusuku kwangaphambili kwaye wayengenako ukuphuma ebhedini de ngaphambi kokumbona? Mhlawumbi wayekuse-mall kuphela kuba udadewabo wamrhola ngokufuna ukumnceda ukuba azive engcono. Akunakwenzeka ukuba siyazi ngokusekelwe ekumboneni ngethuba elincinci ukuba endixinezelekile.
Into endikuxelela yona kukuba ukudakumba kubangela ukugula okungabonakaliyo. Uninzi lweempawu zalo zengqondo kunye nemvakalelo kwaye imiqondiso yayo ayisoloko ibonakala kumntu ongapheliyo.
Abantu abanenkxalabo bahlala bebukeka beqhelekileyo ngaphandle ngaphandle kuba bahlala bekulungele ukuzibamba ndawonye ngelixa bephuma esidlangalaleni, bebeka ukumncumo lobuxoki ukuze bafihle ingxubusho abavakalelwa ngaphakathi. Emva koko, xa bodwa bodwa, bawahlukana.
Iimpawu zokubukela
Nangona ukuxinezeleka kunokubunzima ukubona, ukuba ukhangelelene ngokusondeleyo, unokwazi ukubona ezinye zeempawu zayo kumsebenzi osebenza naye.
Ngaba ukhona:
- Kubonakala kunenkathazo yokucinga, ukukhumbula izinto okanye ukwenza izigqibo?
- Ubona ngokwenene udiniwe kwaye unamandla?
- Xoxa ngovakalelwa unetyala, ungenanto okanye ungenakunceda?
- Kubonakala ingenathemba okanye ingathembeki ngobomi?
- Ngaba unengxaki yokulala kakuhle?
- Kubonakala kunomsindo okanye ungaphumli?
- Kubonakala kungabi nentshisekelo kwizinto ayenandipha ngazo njengezinto zokuzilibazisa?
- Kubonakala kukulahlekelwa okanye ukufumana ubunzima ngaphandle kokuzama?
- Ukugxeka intlungu, iintloko okanye iingxaki zokugaya ezibonakala zingcono nakwiyonyango?
- Ubonakala buhlungu okanye uxhalabile?
- Xoxa ngokuzibulala okanye ungafuni ukujikeleza?
Ukuba ubonakala ebonakalisa emininzi yale miqondiso, ngoko kunokwenzeka ukuba uyathetha inyaniso malunga nemeko yakhe. Mhlawumbi into engcono kakhulu ongayenza, kunokuba utshele umphathi wakho oko ubonayo, kukufikelela kumntu osebenza kunye naye unike inkxaso yakho. Ukuba ngokwenene uyayigcina ingcinezelo yakhe kwaye ngoku kudala kuya kucaca. Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, unyanzelekile ngokwenene, amathuba ayenokukusebenzisa umhlobo.
Umthombo:
"Iimpawu zoxinzelelo." WebMD . WebMD, LLC. Ukuhlaziywa nguJoseph Goldberg, MD: Agasti 21, 2014.