Iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokwenza izinto ezicwangcisiweyo kwiNkathazo yakho yoLuntu
Ngaba uye wakha wacinga ukuba ingaba yinto efanelekileyo yokuzihlazisa ngokwakho ngenjongo? Lo mkhuba, owaziwa nangokuthi "uhlazo oluyakhayo," lufana nokwenza ukutyhila kwi- ctnitive-behavioral treatment (CBT) .
Iingcamango kukuba ngokwenza izinto othotyelwa kuzo iintloni, uya kufunda ukuba unokukwazi ukuhlangabezana neemvakalelo zakho kwiimeko.
Amanyathelo okugqiba lo msebenzi alula, nangona isenzo sokuziqhuba singase sizive ungakhululekile ngaphambi kokuba uqale:
- Khetha imeko apho usebenza khona.
- Ngena kwisimo esifanelekileyo sengqondo.
- Gqibezela isenzo othotyayo.
Nangona le nkqubo ayilula, kulungile ukwenza ukuba utshintshe indlela obona ngayo imeko.
Khumbula, isitshixo asikuzibophelela ukuba uhlazo kodwa ukufumana iimvakalelo zokuthotywa. Injongo yakho kukuzihlazisa ngokwakho, into echaseneyo yintoni oyenzayo kwimihla ngemihla. Oku kuguqulwa kwengqondo okuya kukunceda ukuyeka ukucinga ngeemeko ezinjalo ezimnyama kunye nemhlophe. Unokufumanisa ukuba ugqiba ungakhange ube neentloni okanye ukuba abanye abaqapheli ngokwenene into oyenzayo. Ngeke ukwazi ukuba uzama!
Xa uqhuba le mi sebenzi, qi ni sekise ukuba ube nesimo esihle sengqondo esilungileyo.
Smile, zihlekise uze ukhulule. Mhlawumbi kulula ukutsho ngaphandle kokwenza, kodwa ngexesha kuya kuvela ngokwemvelo. Kulungile, sebenzisa le ndlela yokuzivocavoca nabanye abaxhalabisayo emphakathini . Yenza umzamo weqela, ngokufana nento enokuthi yenzeke "ekuphumeni" ngexesha lokunyanga kweqela .
Ngezantsi uluhlu lwezinto ezinokubakho "uluhlu oluthile lokuhlazeka".
Kukho inkalo ezininzi izinto onokuzongeza ezo zinto ziza kubakho ukwesaba kwakho. Njengoko kuvezwa, khetha ezilula ukuba wenze kuqala uze wakhe ezona zikhuni.
Unokucinga ukuba ukwenza ezinye zezi zinto kukuchitha ixesha lakho kunye nexesha labakujikelezile. Kulungile! Khumbula ukuba umnqweno wakho awuzukufumana into ekwenzeni umsebenzi wokwenene kodwa ukufuna loo ntliziyo yeentloni kwaye ulungele oko kwenzekayo.
Uluhlu lweendlela ezona ndlela zokuzithoba
- Yenza sengathi ulungele ukukhwehlela.
- Gqoka ingubo egqamile kwixesha eliqhelekileyo.
- Dweba isicatshulwa esibi kwaye ubuze abantu ukuba bacinga ntoni.
- Thumela umntu umntu ongeyiphutha lekhadi lokubingelela ngethuba.
- Zizenza ukulibala inombolo yakho yefowuni xa umntu ebuza.
- Gqoka izihlangu zakho kwiinyawo ezingalunganga.
- Hlala kwisihlalo esingalunganga kwi-moya.
- Buza apho udoti kwindawo yokutyela xa umile ngasecaleni.
- Shayela ivenkile kwaye ucele ukuba ulandele ukutya abangazange bakhonze.
- Hamba uye kwi-movie emva kokuba sele iqalile.
- Ukuhlawula into ethile ngemali engalunganga.
- Yenza i-cartwheel epakini.
- Zizenza uhambo.
- Shayela umntu ngegama elingalunganga.
- Buza i-telemarketer ukuba unokumbiza.
- Zama ukuthenga amathikithi e-movie kwi-movie engadlalayo.
- Gcoba isiselo sakho kwindawo yokutyela.
- Kwi-elevator, vula uze ubhekane nomntu kunokuba ulindele phambili.
- Shiya indlu ngokutya ebusweni bakho.
- Ukuba ungumfundi, buza umbuzo eklasini ukuba uloyibuza ukubuza ngoba unokuba ukhangelekile.
- Ipaki ehambayo xa uyazi ukuba ubambe i-traffic.
- Thatha ixesha elide kakhulu kwi-ATM uze uthethe.
- Thatha into ehlazo ku-checkout ngaphandle kwethegi yentengo.
- Yiya kwindawo yokutyela ngomhla wakho wokuzalwa apho uyazi ukuba baya kukubethela. Batshele ukuba ngumhla wokuzalwa kwakho.
- Yeka phantsi kwesitalato kunokuhamba.
- Ngaphandle kwintetho ngenjongo.
- Yenza izandla zakho zigubha ngenjongo xa usayine into ethile.
- Yenza umyalelo wokutya okudliwayo njenge-spaghetti ngosuku.
ILizwi
Nangona le mi sebenzi ibonakala ingenakunaniseki ekuqaleni, ngokugqithisa kwexesha unokwazi ukuba ukwesaba kwakho okwenzeka ngakumbi kuncipha. Ukufuna ukuhlazeka kunokunyaniseka xa uchitha ubomi bakho ukuphepha. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uzama kwaye ungaphumeleli ukugqiba nayiphi na le mi sebenzi, mhlawumbi ukuxhalaba kwakho kusekunzima kakhulu. Khawucinge ukuthetha nodokotela wakho malunga nokukhetha ukufumana uxhalaba lwakho.
> Umthombo:
> Scott Young. Ukholosa Ukwakhiwa Kwentloni.