Abanye abaselula bayonwabile ukuya kwonyango. Bayakujabulela ukuba nomntu omdala onokubancedisa ezinye zeengxaki zabo.
Ukukholisa intombazana esenqabileyo ukuya ekucebisi, nangona kunjalo, unokuziva ngathi unqabileyo. Ushiya abazali abaninzi becinga ukuba kufuneka baphoqele umntwana wabo ukuba abone ugqirha, banikele isimbofu, okanye bayeke nje ingcamango yonyango ngokupheleleyo.
Ukuba uyakrokrela ukuba umntwana wakho unengxaki yempilo yengqondo, ingxaki yokuziphatha, okanye umcimbi wokusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi, kubalulekile ukuba unyango lube luleke. Kukho izinto ezininzi ongayenza ukuze uncede umntwana wakho athole unyango alufunayo.
Ngaba Ufanele Uxhobise Iintsana Zakho Ukufumana unyango?
Ukutsalula umntwana wakho ukuba abone umcebisi akakwazi ukuphumelela. Emva koko, ukhululekile kangakanani ukuba uthethe nomfokazi ukuba umntu enyanzelekile ukuba uyenze?
Umntwana osemtsha oziva ephoqelekile ukuba athole unyango akayi kukhuthazwa ukuba atshintshe. Ngoko nangona badibana kwiindawo zabo zokuqeshwa, abanakukwazi ukuthetha ngemicimbi yabo-ubuncinane kungekho ngendlela evelisayo.
Oko akutsho ukuba akufanele uyenze ukuba i-teenager yakho ibambe ubuncinane ubunqunyulwa. Ngamanye amaxesha, ochwepheshe abanezakhono banokunceda umntwana ukuba azive ekhululekile emva kweeseshoni ezimbalwa.
Ewe, kukho iimeko apho umntwana wakho efuna uncedo kungakhathaliseki ukuba uyavuma.
Ukuba usemngciphekweni wokuzilimaza okanye omnye umntu, memela u-911 okanye umthabise ekamelweni eliphezulu. Ukuba uthe waziphatha ngendlela engozi, njengamachiza, unyango lufanele lube luyimfuneko kuba akakwazi ukwenza ukhetho oluhle.
Indlela Yokukhupha I-Subject With Your Teen
Yabelana ngantoni na ukuba ucinga ukuba ukululeka kubalulekile kwaye nokuba kunokuba luncedo njani.
Buza igalelo evela kwintsapho yakho kwaye uzimisele ukuphulaphula izimvo zakho.
Kuqhelekile ukuba intsha ibe neentloni ngeengxaki zabo kwaye kunokuba nzima ukuba bavume ukuba bafuna uncedo. Ngoko kubalulekile ukuba ugweme ukuthumela umyalezo onokumenza abe neentloni.
Indlela obonisa ngayo iinkxalabo zakho yenza umehluko omkhulu kwindlela umntwana wakho ongasabela ngayo. Ungacacisi ukuba umntwana wakho udidekile okanye ukuba akahlakaniphile ngokwaneleyo ukwenza ukhetho olufanelekileyo.
Yithi into enje, "Ndiyazibuza ukuba kuya kuba luncedo kuwe ukuba umntu uthethe ngaphandle kwam." Okanye uthi, "Andihlali ndiyazi ukuba unokukunceda njani ngeengxaki ngoko ndicinga ukuba kunokukunceda ukuba uthethe nomntu osebenza nabafana."
Thetha noDokotela wakho weNtsha
Ingaba uxhalabele malunga ne-ADHD, okanye ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho unentsholongwane, qalisa ngokuthetha nomgogodla wakho wokunakekela umntwana oyintloko. Ugqirha unokuvavanya iimfuno zakho zeveki kwaye uncede ubone ukuba umntwana wakho ufuna ukucebisa.
Ukuba unyango olongezelelweyo luyimfuneko, ugqirha unokukwazi ukubona iinkonzo ezifanelekileyo kakhulu kunye neengcali zonyango kumntwana wakho. Nangona umntwana wakho engakulungelanga ukuya kwiinkonzo, ukuqonda iindlela zakho kunye nezibonelelo kubalulekile.
Kwakhona, ukuba umntwana wakho akafuni ukuphulaphula iziphakamiso zakho malunga nendlela ukucebisa okunokuba luncedo ngayo, unokufuna ukuphulaphula ugqirha wakhe. Ugqirha wakhe unokukwazi ukucacisa indlela uphando ngayo kunye nendlela unyango olunokujongana ngayo neempawu.
Izinketho Ukuba Umntwana Wakho Unqaba Ukucebisa
Ukuba umntwana wakho wenqaba ukuya kumcebisi, ungadikibali. Unokhetho oluninzi malunga nokufumana uncedo.
- Funa ukululekwa ngokwakho ngaphandle kwentombazana yakho . Ngokuqhelekileyo, uqeqesho lwabazali lunokuba yindlela efanelekileyo kakhulu yokunceda intsha. Ingcali ingakwazi ukukufundisa indlela yokuqeqesha umntwana wakho. Ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi ukuba uya kumcebisa ukuba akhulume ngaye, unokunomdla wokuba wabelane 'ecaleni' lakhe kweli bali.
- Thetha nomcebisi wakho we-school guidance counselor . Xoxa ukuba kukho na iinkonzo ezikhoyo kwinkqubo yesikolo ukunceda umntwana wakho. Umntwana ongasayi kudibana nomcebisi ngaphandle kwesikolo unokulungela ukuthetha nomcebisi-ncebiso.
- Yenza isivumelwano kunye nentsha yakho . Ukuba kuyinkathazo enokukhathazeka ngayo, yenza isivumelwano kunye nentsha yakho. Tshela umntwana wakho kufuneka ahambe kwinani elithile leeseshoni, ezinjengo-ezintlanu, ngaphambi kokuba enze isigqibo malunga nokuba aqhubeke unyango.
- Cinga ngoluleko lwe-intanethi . Ngamanye amaxesha, abatsha abangenakuthetha nomntu ubuso nobuso baya kuqwalasela ukuthetha nomnxeba we-intanethi. Ukwelashwa kwe-intanethi akufanelekanga kuyo yonke imimiselo ngoko kubalulekile ukuthetha nomgqirha okanye ugqirha wakho wengane malunga nokuxhamla kunye nokuqhawulisa ngaphambi kokuba uqale unyango.
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