Kutheni sifuna abanye bacinge ngendlela efanayo
Ukuthambekela kokugqithisa indlela abanye abantu abavumelana ngayo kuthiwa yaziwa phakathi kweengqondo zentlalo njengenjongo yokubambisana. Olu hlobo lwenkolelo yolwazi lukhokelela abantu ukuba bakholelwe ukuba ixabiso kunye neengcamango zabo "ziqhelekileyo" kwaye uninzi lwabantu luba neengcamango ezifanayo.
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Kutheni Kuthiwa Ingozi Yobumbano?
Esinye sezizathu ezinokubangela ukuvumelanisa okungekho mthethweni kuquka into eyaziwa ngokuba yi- heuristic . Xa sizama ukuqikelela indlela eqhelekileyo okanye mhlawumbi into esiye siyijonga ngayo imizekelo efika engqondweni.
Ukuba uzama ukugqiba ukuba abanye abantu babelana ngeenkolelo zakho, mhlawumbi uyacinga ngabantu abafana nawe, njengentsapho kunye nabahlobo bakho, kwaye kungenzeka ukuba banokwabelana ngezinto ezininzi ezifanayo nawe.
Abaphandi bacebise ukuba kukho izizathu ezintathu eziphambili ezibangela ukuba kubekho ukuvumelana kwamanga:
Intsapho kunye nabahlobo bethu banokufana nathi kwaye banokwabelana ngeenkolelo kunye neempawu ezifanayo.
Ukukholelwa ukuba abanye abantu bacinga nokuba benze ngendlela efanayo sinokuzuzisa ukuzithemba kwethu . Ukuze sivale kakuhle ngathi, siyakhuthazwa ukuba sicinge ukuba abanye abantu bafana nathi.
Thina siyazi kakuhle zethu iingcinga kunye neenkolelo zethu. Ekubeni ezi ngcamango zihlala ziphambili kwiingqondo zethu, sinokubona xa abanye abantu beba nesimo sengqondo esifanayo.
Izinto ezichaphazela le Mphumo
Isisombululo sobuxoki siba namandla ngakumbi kwiimeko ezithile. Ukuba sinokuqwalasela into ebaluleke kakhulu okanye sinokuzithemba kwindlela esiyijonga ngayo, isantya sovumelano lobuxoki siba namandla ngakumbi; oko kukuthi, sinokucinga ukuba abantu abaninzi bavumelana nathi.
Ukuba uxhalabele kakhulu ngendalo, umzekelo, mhlawumbi uya kuba nobuninzi bokugqithisa inani labantu abaxhalabele kakhulu ngemicimbi yendalo.
Isiphumo sinamandla nakwiimeko apho siqinisekile ukuba iinkolelo zethu, izimvo, okanye iingcamango zichanekileyo. Ukuba ngaba u-100 ekhulwini uqinisekile ukuba ukudlula umthetho othile kuya kunciphisa inani lolwaphulo-mthetho kuluntu lwakho, unokukholelwa ukuba uninzi lwabavoti abahlala edolophini lakho liya kuxhasa ukuhamba komthetho.
Ekugqibeleni, siyakwazi ukufumana ukuvumelana ngokusesikweni kwimeko apho imeko yeemeko idlala indima enkulu. Ngokomzekelo, cinga ukuba uya kuwubona ifilimu, kodwa ucinga ukuba i-movie iyatshatyalaliswa kuba imiphumo ekhethekileyo ihluphekile. Ekubeni ucinga ukuba bonke abantu ababukela i-movie babelana ngamava afanayo kunye nokwenza imibono efanayo, unokucinga ngokuphosakeleyo ukuba bonke abanye ababukeli baya kukwabelana nabo ngeenkolelo ukuba ibhayisikobho iyatshatyalaliswa.
Uphando
Isiphumo sokubambisana kwamanga saqale saqanjwa kwaye sachazwa ngasekupheleni kweminyaka yee-1970 ngumphandi uLee Ross kunye nabalingane bakhe.
Ngomnye umzamo, abaphandi babenomdla-nxaxheba abafundayo malunga neemeko ezibangelwa yimpikiswano, kunye neendlela ezimbini ezahlukeneyo zokuphendula kwingxabano.
Abathathi-nxaxheba bacelwa ukuba bathethe yiphi na indlela ekhethwa ngayo, cinga ukuba yeyiphi enye indlela abantu abanokukhetha ngayo, kwaye bachaze uhlobo lwabantu abaza kukhetha nganye yeendlela ezimbini.
Abaphandi bafumanisa ukuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba yeyiphi inxaxheba ekukhethiweyo abathathi-nxaxheba, baye bakholelwa ukuba uninzi lwabantu luya kukhetha oko khetho. Abaphandi bafumanisa ukuba abantu babefuna ukunika iinkcazo ezigqithiseleyo iimpawu zabantu abaza kukhetha ezinye iindlela.
Imithombo:
> Pennington, DC (2000). Ukuqatshelwa kwentlalo. ELondon : uRoutledge.
> Taylor, J. "Iingcamango Zengqiqo Ngokuchasene Nezinto Eziqhelekileyo." I-Psychology namhlanje ngoJulayi 2011