Ingaba i-teenager yakho ibonakala ibe yinto encinane kuneyona ndlela okanye isenokuba nzima ukuhlala esikolweni, kunokuba nzima ukuqonda ukuba umntwana wakho unokufumana incedo kwizakhono zobungcali.
Ngokuqinisekileyo unyango aludingeki ukuba lugcinwe kwiziganeko eziguqula ubomi okanye ukukhathazeka okukhulu. Ukudibanisa nomthinteli kunokuthintela imiba encinci ukuba ingaguquki kwiingxaki ezinkulu.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho unokufumana inzuzo ekutheni uthethe ugqirha, unganqikazi ukumisela i-aphoyintimenti kunye neengcali. Xoxa notitshala wakho wezilwanyana okanye uhlele i-aphoyintimenti ngqo kunye nomgqirha. Ngamanye amaxesha, iiseshoni ezimbalwa zokwenza unyango zingenza umehluko omkhulu kubomi bakho bentsha.
Intsha inokufumana inzuzo ekudibaneni nomgqirha ukuthetha malunga neentlobo ezahlukeneyo, ukusuka kwimibandela yobudlelwane kunye nemibuzo malunga nolwazi lwezesondo. Nazi izizathu ezilishumi ezilishumi ezenza intsha iya kwonyango:
1. Uxinzelelo
Izifo zengqondo zidla ngokuqala ngexesha leminyaka eliselula. Yaye ukuba ithe yashiywa ingaphendulwanga, ukuxinezeleka kunokuhlala kudala. Ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakala enomsindo, edabukisayo, kwaye uhoxise, khuluma nomntwana wakho. Ukuxilongwa ngokuchanekileyo kunye nokungenelela kwangethuba zizinto eziphambili kwonyango olululo.
Ukukhathazeka kwezixhala
Nangona kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana bakhathazeke ngamanye amaxesha, abanye abatsha banenkxalabo enkulu.
Ingaba umntwana wakho unzima ukuthetha phambi kweklasi, okanye uhlala exhalabisa izinto ezimbi, kuya kunceda ukuba afunde indlela yokulawula iimpawu zakhe.
Iingxaki zokuziphatha
Ukuxhaswa esikolweni, ukuphinda ukuphulwa kwexesha lokufika, kunye nokuziphatha kakubi kungaba yimpawu zeengxaki ezinzulu.
Ingcali inokukunceda ukufumanisa iingxaki zempilo yengqondo, ukulahleka kwezakhono, okanye iingxaki zentlalo enokubangela ukuziphatha komntwana wakho.
4. Imiba yokusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi
Ngelishwa, iziyobisi kunye notywala zinokuba ziingxaki ezinzulu kubaselula. Umcebisi weziyobisi ngokweziyobisi unokuvavanya ukusetyenziswa kwezinto ezisetyenziswa ngumntwana wakho kunye nokukunceda ukufumana inkqubo efanelekileyo kakhulu yonyango. Ulwaphulo lomntu ngamnye, unyango lweqela, i-detox, okanye unyango lweendawo zokuhlala lunokukhetha ngokuxhomekeka kwimiba yeengxaki zentsha.
5. Uxinzelelo
Abaselula banokugxininiswa . Ingaba kukho ingcinezelo yokwenza kakuhle kwiimviwo okanye ukuxhalaba malunga noko ukwenza emva kwesikolo esiphakeme, uxinzelelo lunokuthatha umthwalo onzima. Ulwaphulo lunokunceda ulutsha lufunde izakhono zokulawula uxinzelelo-kwaye yinto eya kubaphatha kakuhle ebomini babo.
Izihloko eziphathelene nezikolo
Iimbambano, amaqhinga ahlulekayo, ii-clique, kunye nemiba enxulumene notitshala zizinto ezimbalwa zeengxaki ezinxulumene nesikolo abaninzi abafana nazo. Iintsholiso kaninzi aziqinisekanga ukuba ungaphila uncedo. Ulwaphulo lunokunika intsha inkxaso kunye nokunika izakhono eziya kubancedisa ukuphumelela esikolweni esiphakeme ngempumelelo.
7. Iingxaki zomthetho
Ukuba, ukusela kwangaphantsi , okanye ukulwa nje zimbalwa zezizathu zentsha ezithatha ingxaki ngomthetho.
Ngamanye amaxesha, banikwe igunya lokuvavanya-okanye abazali babo-ukufumana iingcebiso. Ulwaphulo lunokunceda umntwana ukuba afunde indlela yokwenza izigqibo ezinempilo ukuze kube lula ukuthintela iingxaki zomthetho.
8. Ukuzimela okuphantsi
Nangona ininzi intsha ilwa neengxaki zokuzithemba ngezinye iinkcukacha, abanye bafumana izinto ezinzulu zokuzithemba. Xa le miba ishiywe ingagxininiswa, intsha isengozini ephezulu yeengxaki ezifana nokusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi kunye nokuhluleka kwezemfundo. Unyango lunokunceda ukuzithembela kwentombazana.
9. I-trauma
Ingaba lihlelwa kukufa okanye ukuhlaselwa ngokwesondo, iziganeko ezibuhlungu zingenza impembelelo engapheliyo kwintsholongwane.
Unyango lunokunyusa ukuzinza nokunciphisa impembelelo yesiganeko esibuhlungu ebomini yobomi. Ukungenelela kwangethuba kunokubalulekileyo ekuncediseni umntwana ukuba abuyele kwiimeko ezibuhlungu.
10. Usizi
Iintsholongwane zijongene nentlungu ehluke kakhulu kunabantu abadala kunye nokulahlekelwa ngumntu onomthandayo kunokuba nzima kunzima xa usana. Umntu ngamnye, usapho, okanye iqela lonyango lingancedisa ulutsha ukuba luveze iimvakalelo zabo kwaye lube nengqiqo yokulahlekelwa kwabo.
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> Amaziko okuLawula nokuSithintela izifo: iMpilo yengqondo yabantwana.
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