Ingcali uKevin Roberts inikeza iingcebiso malunga nokulawula umlutha we-cyber kubantwana abane-ADHD
I-intanethi, imidlalo yekhompyutha, i-Facebook, i-Twitter, ii-smartphones, ukuthumela imiyalezo, imiyalezo esheshayo-ezi ziindlela ezithile esihlala sizixhunyiwe kuzo, sizidibanise kwaye sidibanise noluntu nabanye. Akukho nanye kulabu buchwepheshe bububi, kodwa kwabanye abantu - ingakumbi abo abane- ADHD - le mi sebenzi ye-cyber ingaba lula ukuboleka.
U-Kevin Roberts uyingcali eyaziwayo ngokubanzi kunye nombhali we- Cyber Junkie: Ukukhusela i-Gaming ne-Intanethi (i-Hazelden 2010). Uphinde ugijime amaqela enkxaso ukunceda abaxhamli be-cyber abazabalazela ukubuyisela ubomi babo kumkhondo. Lo mmandla unomntu ngokwakhe kuKevin, njengoko yena udlala umdlalo wevidiyo.
Q: Iyintoni ikhonkco phakathi kwe-ADHD kunye nokusetyenziswa ngokugqithiseleyo kwe-intanethi, imidlalo yekhompyutha okanye yevidiyo?
A: ABA-ADHD baxhomekeke ngakumbi ekutyaleni zonke iindidi, ngoko ke banokubakho ukunyanzeliswa kwe-cyber ezibandakanya iikhomputha, imidlalo yevidiyo kunye ne-Intanethi. Imihlatshelo yehlabathi ye-cyber inikezela ngokubambisana okutshintshileyo ngokuqhubekayo, ukunika i-ADHDers indlela ebonakala ixhamle kwi-wiring yayo yinkimbinkimbi.
Umbuzo: Ngayiphi indlela uxhalabuntlalo olunokuthi lunxulumane ne-ADHD ludlala ngoku?
A: Ndiyakwazi ukuxelela kuwe ngamava akho ukuba uxhalaba luyinto ebangela ukunyanzela i-cyber.
Ndijongene nokuxhalabisa ubomi bam, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo i-video yokudlala ibhola yayingaphambi kwexesha lokuxhalabisa okukhulu. Kwabo abanenkxalabo yentlalo , ukudlala kwevidiyo kunye ne-Intanethi kubonelela ngokukhuselekileyo "ngokukhuselekileyo" ekusebenzisaneni nabantu, kodwa enye ibonakala ibangela ukuphuculwa kwezakhono zentlalo kunokuba iphuculwe.
Umbuzo: Ziziphi ezinye zeempawu ukuba wena (umntwana wakho, umlingane okanye omnye othandekayo) unokufumana umlutha we-cyber?
A: Nalu uluhlu lweempawu ezilumkiso :
- Ixesha le-warp, ukungakwazi ukufumana ixesha le-cyber
- Ukukhohlisa malunga nokuziphatha kwe-cyber
- Utshintsho okanye ukuphazamiseka kokulala
- Ukurhoxiswa kwiintsapho kunye nabahlobo
- Ukulahlekelwa ngumdla kwezinye izinto ezithandwayo kunye nemisebenzi yokuzonwabisa
- Ukusebenza kakubi esikolweni okanye emsebenzini
- Iiyure ezimbini ngosuku, ngaphezulu kweentsuku ezine ngeveki yezinto ze-cyber
- Masibe nesifo se-backache, i-carpal tunnel syndrome, intamo eqinile, intlungu yesibindi, ubunzima bamehlo
- Ukungakwazi ukufumana imiphumela emibi ye-cyber
- Ukutya ukutya kwikhompyutha
- Ukuhamba kweemvakalelo
- Izimpawu zokulahla emva kokudlala imidlalo okanye imisebenzi ye-cyber, njengentloko, i-malaise, i-head headness
Umbuzo: Uphi umntu onokuya kunceda?
A: Ndiza kukhangela umgqirha wengingqi oqhelana nezilingo ze-cyber. Amaxesha amaninzi, xa abantu bechitha ixesha elide kwiikhompyutha, kwi-intanethi, okanye kwimidlalo yevidiyo, kungumxholo we-iceberg. Eminye imiba inokudlala kakuhle. Uncedo lobugcisa lunokuba luncedo.
Umbuzo: Ziziphi na amanyathelo umntu angathatha ukuze abuyele ekuphumeni?
A: Okokuqala, kufuneka uvume ukuba unengxaki. Emva kokuba uthathe isinyathelo esibaluleke kakhulu, kufuneka ufumane umntu oncedisayo okanye oncedisayo onokukunceda uqonde ukuba zeziphi izixhobo ezifunekayo ukuhlangabezana neengxaki zakho ngempumelelo.
Umbuzo: Yintoni umntu angayenza xa beqaphela ukuba umthandana wabo unomlutha we-cyber, kodwa lo mthandayo ukuphika ngokupheleleyo ukuba kukho ingxaki?
A: Ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka ukhangele into oyenzayo ukuyenza ingxaki. Loo mntu makanyanzeliswe ukuba ahlangabezane nemiphumo, kwaye kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba awukwenzi nantoni na ukukhusela loo nto.
Q: Kwaye kubazali bezingane abane-ADHD, banokukunceda njani umntwana wabo ukuba ahambe kwihlabathi le-cyber ngendlela ephephile, enempilo?
A: Okokuqala, kufuneka uqaphele ingozi eyingozi kwaye wazi izibonakaliso ezilumkiso. Okwesibini, kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba izizathu zengane yakho ziyiyo: i-adventure, i-fantasy, ukuphunyuka, ukuzonwabisa, ukuhoxiswa, ukuphumelela, ukukhululeka kokuxhalabisa, njl njl.
Emva koko kufuneka ufumane iindlela zokufumana umntwana wakho ahlangabezane nelo mfuneko kwihlabathi lenene.
Ukuba umntwana wakho ufuna ukunyaniseka okanye ukuzonwabisa, mhlawumbi lixesha lokujonga ibhola lepalball (ukunikela ingqwalasela enkulu kwisixhobo sokukhusela), kunye nemidlalo emininzi. Ukuba umdlalo wendima ubonakala uyishukumisayo, yenza umntwana wakho abandakanyeke kwimidlalo yaseshashalazini, eklasini esebenzayo, eklasini yeekomidi okanye kwikampu yehlobo lehlobo. Izizathu zomntwana wakho zibambe iqhosha lokungenelela.
Ukongezelela, zama ukubandakanyeka kwimisebenzi ye-cyber yomntwana wakho xa esemncinci ukuze ulungele kule nxalenye yobomi bakhe. Khumbula, kunokuba kunzima ukufumana "iinqwelo" ezikhuthazayo ze-ADHDer, ngoko ke ukuba imisebenzi ye-cyber ithwale i-motivation potential, ungafuna ukuyisebenzisa!
URoberts ufumana iwebhusayithi ebonelela ngolwazi olunxulumeneyo: www.thecyberjunkie.com
Umthombo:
Kevin Roberts. Udliwano-ndlebe ngo-Oktobha 18, 2010.