Yintoni enokuyenza xa umnqweno wakho umnqweno wezononografi uwonakalisa umtshato wakho
Ukusetyenziswa komntu wezocografi akuqhelekanga. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba iqhubekile ukususela kwiminyaka yakhe yobutsha. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi akufanele bathuke xa abayeni babo beqhubeka nokusebenzisa imifanekiso engamanyala nangona batshatile.
Ngoko, i-pornography iba yintoni ingxaki nini? Nantsi oku kufuneke ugxininise kulo:
- Ukhetha i-pornography malunga nokulala nawe
- Ukusetyenziswa koonobumba kukuphazamisa uxanduva lwakhe oluqhelekileyo lwemihla ngemihla
- Akakwazi ukuvula ngaphandle kokusebenzisa iifostile
- Ukusetyenziswa kwakhe kobugqwetha kufihliwe kwaye kudibene
- Uyenqaba ukuthetha ngokucacileyo malunga noonobumba kunye nawe
- Iphonografi enobudlova okanye iqulethe izinto ezingekho mthethweni
Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuqwalasela umgangatho wobudlelwane bakho ngokubanzi. Ngaba uxhumekile ngokomoya? Ngaba unobomi obusempilweni obusempilweni? Kwakhona, cinga ngesimo somlingane wakho. Ngaba ubonakala ecindezelekile? Ngaba usebenzisa iziyobisi okanye utywala ngokugqithiseleyo?
Ukuba ulinganisa oko ufunda nje ukuba i-pornography yinkathazo yangempela emtshatweni wakho kwaye ufikelele kwinqanaba elithi "Ndiyena okanye i-pornography," ngokucacileyo umtshato wakho ubonakaliswe yimifanekiso engamanyala. Xa umyeni wakho ukhetha i-porn ngenxa yakho, kufuneka ubhekane nenyani ukuba akayi kutshintsha le ndlela.
"Ngoko kwenzeka ntoni na unyawo lwakhe - 'I-Porn okanye mna!' - kwaye uthembisa ukuba uya kumisa ukubukela. Abanye abafana bayayima, kodwa abanye baya kwenza oko bakwenzayo xa babe-14 - baya kukwenza ngasese, bazive bebuhlungu kwaye banethemba lokuba abayi Ukubamba ubuxoki malunga nokulala ngokwesini, unokucinga ukuba kuya kuthini na loo nto. "U-Vicki Larson, Ngaba Ukujonga Ukujonga Ubunono Kukhokelela Ekuqhawuleni? e HuffingtonPost.com
Izinto Ongayenza Xa Uonografi Ubuhlungu Umtshato Wakho
- Yiba nentetho kwaye wabelane ngeemvakalelo zakho. Unokuba unomnqweno wokuba nomcebisi ekuncedeni ukuba iinzame zakho zangaphambili zifumene apha.
- Yamkela ukuba ukuba umyeni wakho akayekanga ukubukela iphonografi emva kokuba eqonda ukuba kunokuphelisa umtshato wakho, mhlawumbi akayi kutshintsha le nqwenelo yokubukela i-pornography. Ukukhanga kwakhe kwimizimboniso yoononophala kunokunyamelela kunokuba uyakuthanda.
- Ukuba umtshato wakho kunye nolwabelana ngesondo aluphuculanga emva kokuba wena kunye neqabane lakho nithe nathetha ngokunyanisekileyo malunga nendlela ovakalelwa ngayo kunye nokucinga ngoonografi, sincoma ukuba ufune isiluleko somtshato ukuze ubone ukuba ezinye iingxaki emtshatweni wakho ziyabangela ukuba okanye ukulala kwakhe ngokubukela iifoto.
- Yenza isigqibo. Amathuba amane afaka ukuhlala esatshatileyo nokunyaniseka ukusetyenziswa kwakhe koononophala, ukuqhawula umtshato, ukuhlala esatshatileyo nokuvuma ukuxhatshazwa kwi-pornography (iikhompyutheni ezahlukileyo, ulwalamano olusasazeka ngokwesondo, njl njl njl), okanye uhlale utshatile kodwa uqhubeke ulwa nomyeni wakho ubukele i-pornography.
- Ungavumeli ukuba umyeni wakho asebenzise imifanekiso engamanyala ayichaphazela njani indlela ozivakalelwa ngayo. Inkolelo yakho kuwe yinto ebalulekileyo kwintlalo yakho yolonwabo. Inyaniso yokuba iqabane lakho libukela ubuninzi bobuqhetseba alunanto malunga nendlela obukeka ngayo okanye indlela ozenza ngayo. Ingxaki yakhe.
- Ungamkeli nayiphi na ityala okanye ityala ngenxa yokuba iqabane lakho lifuna ukujonga imifanekiso engamanyala. Akuyena iphoso lakho. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kuyinkinga kuwe, kodwa wenza isigqibo sokubukela i-pornography kwaye ukuvumela ukuba yonakalise ubuhlobo bakho bomtshato. Oko kubeka uxanduva kumagxa akhe, kungekhona kwakho.
Isinyathelo sokuqala kukuqinisekisa ukuba iqabane lakho lijongene neengxaki zoononografi.
Kungaba nguwe omele ukhululeke kakhulu malunga nawo ukuba ngaba nobabini banxulumene nothando kunye nobomi bezesondo obuphilileyo. Kodwa, ukuba akunjalo kwaye ukholelwa ukuba kukho ingxaki yangempela, lixesha lokujongana ngqo nale nkxalabo. Ngokuqinisekileyo unokufuna uncedo lwezobugcisa ukuba awukwazi ukufumana nayiphi na intambo.
UkuFunda okongeziweyo:
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* I-Article ihlaziywe nguMarni Feuerman