Ukungathembeki komlingane kungonakalisa umtshato. Amaphesenti angama-40 eembini ezitshatileyo zichaphazeleka ngokungathembeki. Nangona le pesenti enkulu ekhohlisa, ininzi iya kuthi ukukopela kuyiphutha. Awunakukwazi ngokwenene ukuba kutheni umlingani wakho engathembekanga. Umlingane wakho akakwazi ukuyiqonda ngokwenene.
Izizathu zokukopela zingawa kwizinto ezintathu eziqhelekileyo
- Izizathu ezizimeleyo, ezifana nomlingisi okanye ubuntu.
- Izizathu zobudlelwane, ezifana nolwalamano olunganelisekiyo.
- Izizathu zesimo, ezifana nokuba kwindawo ebeka umngcipheko wokukopela enikwe ithuba elihle.
Abantu abaninzi bakhohlisa emva kokuphazamiseka emtshatweni wabo. Iqabane liyenze imizamo emininzi yokusombulula ingxaki ngokungenanto. Okanye, umntu akanakho isakhono esetyenziselwe ukunxibelelana neemvakalelo kunye neemfuno ezenza ukuba ukungathembeki. Kukho nawabatshatileyo, nangona bebancinci, abangayixabisi i-monogamy, bengabi namfesane, okanye bakhathaleli nje ngemiphumo.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ukuba ungeyonto ekhohlwayo, awukho uxanduva lomlingane wakho ukwenza isigqibo sokukhohlisa. Awufanele uxanduva lokuziphatha komlingane wakho. Kodwa ke, ufuna ukuhlolisisa indlela i-dynamics phakathi kwakho nomlingane wakho ekukhokelela ngayo kweli nqaku. Nangona awuyikusola ityala lomlingane wakho, uya kufuna ukulungisa iingxaki eziphantsi kobudlelwane bakho.
Nazi ezinye iZiqhelo eziqhelekileyo Izizathu zokuba umlingani unomdla
- U kuphepha Ulwalamano
- Iingxaki ezingaphendulwanga
- Umtshato ongenasondo okanye ukunganeliseki ngokwesondo
- Imithwalo yabantwana
- Uvakalelwa kukungaxabiseki
- Ego okanye ukuzidla
- Ithuba
- Ukungqubuzana okugqithisileyo
- Iingxaki zomsebenzi
- Ukukhangela umdla okanye umdla
- Boredom
- Qinisekisa ubudoda okanye ubufazi
- Yenza ukuzomeleza
- Njengendlela yokuphelisa umtshato ongonwabanga - isicwangciso sokuphuma
- Uloyiko lokukhula
- Ukuziva ulungisa
- Iqhayiya lokuxoshwa
- Inqweno yokuhlwayela i-oats zasendle
- Ubungenakonwaba
- Ndiziva ndihoywa
- Ukunyamekela umntwana omtsha
- "Ukuzisola komthengi" kunye nengcamango yesibini emva komtshato
- Ndivalelwe
- U khu seleko
- Buyise
- Ngenxa yokuba uyakwazi
- Ingqiqo yemfanelo
- Uxinzelelo lwezemali
- Ukusasazeka kwimihla ngemihla
- Kholelwa ukuba yena unokukwazi ukuhamba naye
- Iingcamango zokuba "ngaphezu komthetho" kokubili ngokuziphatha nangokomthetho
- Ukungabi nemiphumo yangempela kwizenzo ezifanayo
- Ukukhangela ubusuku obunye busuku
- Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo
- Iinguqu zeHormon
- Ubuhlobo besikhathi eside ngaphandle komtshato
- Ukuzidla okanye ukuzimela
- Ngaba ungumdlali oyisigxina / ongapheliyo
- Ukuba nesiganeko sokugula ngengqondo (oko kukuthi, umntu) okanye ukusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi
- Ukukhathazeka komntu onjenge-narcissistic okanye umngcele
- "Ukukhala uncedo"
Iimvakalelo zokufuna i-Affair yangaphambili-mtshato eyahlukileyo yiGender
Ngokuqhelekileyo, amadoda afuna ukulala ngesondo okanye ukunakwa. Amadoda abonisa uthando lwabo ngendlela engokwenyama. Ngokuqhelekileyo abanalo "abavakalelwa ngamazwi" abafazi babo. Ngoko, isondo siba yindlela ebalulekileyo ekunxibelelaneni nasekusebenzisaneni. Xa abafazi bawahlalisa ngokulala ngesondo, bathabatha ukugatya entliziyweni, kwaye unokuguqulela ngokulula ukuziva 'ungathandwa.'
Xa abafazi bekopela, bahlala befuna ukuzalisa umva. Abasetyhini bahlala bekhalaza ngokunqanyulwa kumlingane, abafisa ukufunwa kwaye baxabiseke. I-affair idla ngokuba ngumntu "wenguqu" womfazi. Ujonge kakhulu ukushiya emtshatweni wakhe kwaye lomnye umntu uyamnceda ukuba enze loo nto.
Kungakhathaliseki isizathu esenza ukuba iqabane liphange, lingabhubhisa umtshato okanye libe ngumqobo wokuyakha kwakhona, kuxhomekeke kwindlela ukungathembeki ngayo.