Indlela ukuKhanya kweNkunkuma kukhulisa ngayo ingozi yesondo

"Ukukhanya kwegesi" okanye "Ukukhanya kweGesi" yindlela yokwenza utywala obunobungozi obuya kwenzeka ngaphakathi kobudlelwane bezesondo. Kuhlobo oluthile lokunyanzeliswa kakubi ngokomzwelo. Iquka ukuziphatha ngumxhaphazi owenza umntu ophathwa kakubi aqale ukubuza iimgwebo zabo kunye neyabo. Ixhoba lokukhanyisa lingaqala ukubuza ukuba ngaba li-paranoid okanye liyaphambuka.

Ixesha lokukhanyisa ukukhanya livela kwi-1930's "Gaslight" evuyisayo apho i-protagonist ibonise le ndlela yokuziphatha. Kule filimu, indoda yokukhohlisa yenza umfazi wakhe angathandabuzi ukungcola kwakhe ngokuzibandakanya ngokunyanzeliswa. Umzekelo, ubeka umlindi wakhe esikhwameni sakhe kwaye uyamqinisekisa ukuba uyayiphakamisa ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuba wenze njalo. Uzama ukumkholisa ukuba ucinga nje ukuba izibane zegesi zinyuka kwizindlu, ukumkhusela ekuqapheliseni ukuba ziyatshintsha ngenxa yokuba uhlola indlu ngenxa yexabiso elilahlekileyo.

Nangona kunjalo, ukukhanya kwelanga akusoloko kucacile. Ngamanye amaxesha uluhlu oluthembekileyo lokuziphatha. Ngokomzekelo, xa ibhinqa elitshitshisa iqabane lakhe liyamkhohlisa ngenxa yechungechunge lweziganeko azijongayo. Iqabane lakhe lingamkhanyela ngokucetyiswa ukuba liyi-paranoid okanye lilawula ukuze liguqule ekulandeleni ubungqina bokungathembeki.

Unokuzama ukumqinisekisa ukuba wayesebenza ngokukhawuleza, nangona engazange athathe ifowuni eofisini xa ebiza ukuba abone ukuba uza kuba nini ekhaya.

Ukukhanya kweGesi kunye nokungathembeki

Nangona kubakho imvelaphi yezobugcisa, ukukhanya ngumoya ebomini ngokwenene akukho malunga nomzamo wokufumana ixhoba liziko ukuze umenzi wobubi angacinga iigugu zentsapho.

Kunoko, uphando malunga nokukhanya kwezinto ngokuqhelekileyo malunga nokuziphatha kwimeko yomtshato kunye nokunye ukunganyaniseki. Ukongezelela koko, kwimiba yobudlelwane obunjalo apho ukuziphatha okukhanyayo kuboniswe ngokucacileyo kwingozi yesondo ngeendlela ezininzi.

1. Umlingane ohlukumezayo unokubandakanyeka kwisondo esingakhuselekanga kwiintsebenziswano ezininzi ngaphandle kokuxelela abaxhobayo. Oku kufaka iqabane elixhatshazwayo kwingozi yokugula ngesondo kunye neminye imiphumo. Kananjalo liphika ixhoba labo ukuzimela kunye ne-agency ukuze benze izigqibo ezinolwazi malunga nobulili babo. Yenza kube nzima kubo ukuba banike imvume evumelwaneni, bangazivumeli imvume yentshiseko.
2. Ichaphazela ubuchule kunye nenkolelo yexhoba ekuziphatheni kwabo. Oku, ngokulandelana, kunciphisa ukuzenzekela kwabo ngokuzithengisana nezenzo zokuziphatha ezifana nokusetyenziswa kwekhondom. Kwakhona kuba nzima ukuba bathethe inxaxheba zabo ngezinye iindlela, kuba baqala ukuvakalelwa ukuba abanakho ukuqonda ngokuthe tye.
3. Ichaphazela ukukwazi ukuxhuma nabanye kunye nokufumana uncedo kwinkqubo yabo yokuxhasa. Oku kungenza kube nzima ukufumana unyango lwezempilo olufanelekileyo. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba awuzithembi ukuqonda kwakho ihlabathi, awukwazi ukukhupha ugxalaba wakho kunye nogqirha wakho. Ingakumbi ukuba ubulili bakho busekelwe kwisiseko sendlela kwaye kutheni ukhanya.

Ukukhanya kweGesi kuyindlela yokunyaniseka ngenxa yeendlela ezenza ukuba amaxhoba abo angathembeli ngayo ingcamango yabo. Oku kunokuba yinto enokubangela ukuba uzive ufanelekile kwaye unako ukuzinyamekela. Awukwazi ukuxoxisana nolwalamano lwakho lwesondo xa ungazivakalelwa ukuba unalo lawulo lomzimba wakho. Awunakuvakalelwa ukuba unalo ulawulo lomzimba wakho ukuba uvakalelwa ngathi ulahlekelwe ngumsebenzi wakho kwihlabathi.

_Imithombo:

_{Gass, GZ & Nichols, WC (1988) "Ukukhanya kombane: I-syndrome yomtshato." Ulwaphulo lweNtsapho yoNyaka 10 (1): 3-16}