Indlela yokugcina ucoceko lwakho xa ubhekana nabangqineli
Ukusebenzisana nokujongana nomntu onobudlova kunzima. Ininzi yexesha, izenzo zakhe ziyinkimbinkimbi, zidideka kwaye zisetyenziswe rhoqo njengendlela yokujamelana nokuxinezeleka, uxinzelelo kunye nokungaqiniseki. Abantu abanobukrakra badla ngokukhawuleza ukuba banobuhlungu, bathuka okanye bacaphukile. Sekunjalo, baya kuguqulwa kuwe ngeendlela ezifihlakeleyo kunye neengxaki.
Ngokomzekelo, bangabanika abantu ukunyanzeliswa, baxoshe abantu beqela, basebenzise ubundlobongela obunqabileyo njengeencwadi okanye iingcango eziqhawulayo, okanye bahlanganyele kwiindlela ezifihlakeleyo zobudlova.
Kodwa umntu osisigxina sokufumana akakwazi ukuba kutheni le nto ihamba ngayo. Emva kwayo yonke into, umntu onobukrakra wayephikile ukuba wayenomsindo.
Ngamaxesha amaninzi, abantu abanentlonelo bayakrokraza, nangona ukukrakra kuyimpendulo engafanelekanga. Kwaye xa bejongene nokuziphatha kwabo, baya kudlula njengokuba ihlaya lidla ngokumangalela ukuba lixhoba lokuba linyameko. Laba baxhaphaza banamathuba okufuna abantu abangayi kukhankanya izenzo zabo okanye babalekele. Ngenxa yoko, baxhoba abantu abanoyiko lokuxabana okanye ababandakanyekayo kubantu abathandekayo. Ngokwenza njalo, akufuneki bathembeke ngeemvakalelo zabo okanye bathathe uxanduva kwizenzo zabo, kodwa banokuthi baveze ubundlobongela babo ngaphandle kokulwa.
Iimpawu eziqhelekileyo zokuThuthukisa
Akusoloko kulula ukuyijonga olu hlobo loxhatshazo. Abanye abaxhaphazelayo banobuqhophololo abanye baxolisa abanye ngokuthula xa kungekho mntu ukhangeleyo aze enze okuthe tye xa ejongene naye.
Abanye baya kukhwankqiswa kunye nokuphikisana. Ingqungquthela kukuba ngaphantsi kwesi sinyamezelo sinobugobe obuphantsi, iimvakalelo zokungaqiniseki kunye nokungafaneleki kunye nokungakwazi ukubonisa umsindo ngendlela ephilileyo.
Enyanisweni, abaxhatshazi abanokubandezela abanakho ukuqonda ukuba bacaphukile okanye bazive benomsindo ngenxa yokuba iimvakalelo zabo ziphephe.
Ngenxa yoko, bahlala bekhalaza ukuba baqondwa kakubi kwaye bahlaselwa. Bakholelwa ukuba abanye babambelele kwimigangatho engenangqiqo xa bejongene nazo. Nazi ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha ezinokukunceda uqonde abantu abanomdla.
Ukulahla inyaniso . Umntu onobudlova akafane athethe oko akucingayo, okungadidanisa abantu ekupheleni kokufumana. Ngokomzekelo, xa intshutshiso ibonisa ukuba intombazana ibhekene nesenzo esithethayo, iya kubonakalisa ukungabi namlandu okanye iphikise ukuba yayinenkohlakalo nangona izenzo zakhe zithetha into ehluke ngokupheleleyo.
Ukumangalela . Umntu onobudlova akafaneli athathe uxanduva kwizenzo zakhe. Ukuba akayikusola into eyenzekayo, ngoko uya kubeka ityala ngutitshala wakhe, umphathi wakhe, kunye nemozulu. Umntu onobudlova akanakuze amkele ukuba unetyala. Ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo, kufuneka ibe yiphutha lomnye umntu. Ngenxa yoko, usebenza ekunciphiseni nasekuhlaselweni kwexhoba rhoqo.
Imiyalezo edibeneyo . Abantu abahlaselayo-bahlasele isifuba sabo ngokucelwa ukuba benze into ngokuhlala. Ngenxa yoko, banokuvuma ukwenza into kodwa bayathukuthela ngokucelwa ukuba benze.
Ukuze kunqunywe ezinye iintlungu zabo, banokunika umntu owenza isicelo eso cwaka. Okanye, banokuthetha ngomntu owenza isicelo kwaye basasaze iindlebe okanye ukuhleba. Ngamanye amaxesha, awanakuze alandele oko kuceliwe.
Ngokuqhelekileyo ubonise umsindo . Abantu abanobudlova-bantlanu bahlala bevutha umsindo wabo. Basenokubonakala bevuya kwaye behlala ngaphandle kwexesha elininzi. Kodwa qaphela. Baya kuthatha isenzo xa bevutha umsindo ngenxa yokubambelela kumntu ongezantsi. Ngokwenza njalo, bayekela enye yengqumbo yabo ngaphandle kokuvuma ukuba bacaphukile.
Umntu onobudlova udla ukuba uphathwa ngokungafanelekanga. Kwakhona uziva exhatshazwa kwaye ecaphukile. Ngenxa yoko, akuqhelekanga kubaxhatshazi obundlobongelayo ukuba bathathe inxaxheba kwisicatshulwa-cinga. Ukuba umntu uphazamiseka ngenxa yezinto azenzileyo, ngoko engqondweni yakhe loo mntu uyamxhaphaza. Wayengasoze azibone njengomxhaphazi.
Imiba yeMida . Abantu abanomdaka-ntlontlu bavame ukungabikho kwemida baze bathabathe abanye ngaphandle kwemida. Ngenxa yoko, bavame ukwenza abo baxabana-bachithe ingqwalaselo yabo yobundlobongela ngokudala idrama.
Ukujamelana noButshabhaka obushushu
Ukujongana nomntu onobudlova esikolweni okanye kumsebenzi kudinga ukunyaniseka. Ukubiza ukuziphatha ngaphandle kokuxolisa kunye nemida yokubeka kubalulekile. Khumbula, ukugwenxa ngokugqithisileyo kuyindlela yobutshaba kwaye kufuneka iphathwe njenjalo.
Okona, abantu abanobundlobongela abaxoxanga ngokucacileyo imiba engabakhathaza. Ngenxa yoko, xa bejamelene nabo bangenza amazwi angalunganga baze baveze ngaphantsi komoya wabo. Ungakuvumeli oku kukugcina ungaboni ngokuziphatha kwabo. Nazi ezinye iindlela zokunqoba umphumo ongalunganga wokujongana nobudlova.
Yiba ngqo . Xa usebenzisana nomntu onobudlova, qiniseka ukuba uqinisekisile kwaye ucacile ngokumalindela kwakho. Ufuna kwakhona ukumisela imida apho kuyimfuneko. Qiniseka ukuba yonke into oyithethayo iyinyani kwaye ayiyiyo imvakalelo. Ukucaceka kunye nenqanaba eliphezulu kukuzikhusela ngokufanelekileyo kumntu onobudlova.
Lawula impendulo yakho . Gxininisa ukuhlala uzinzile, ugcine ilizwi lakho lingathathi hlangothi kwaye ubeke iimvakalelo zakho. Okungaphantsi kokusabela kwizenzo zabo, ukulawula okungaphantsi kwabo. Khumbuza ukuba ngelixa ungeke ukwazi ukugcina umntu onobudlova ukusuka kwiingcango ze-slamming kunye nokukhupha, unokulawula ukuphendula kwakho. Qinisekisa ukuba uphendule ngendlela ephilileyo kwimimiselo yabo engafanelekanga.
Qaphela ukuba awukwazi ukutshintsha umntu onobudlova. Ngethuba ukujongana nobudlova ngokuziphatha kwakhe kuyisinyathelo sokuqala esihle, akukho siqinisekiso sokuba umntu uya kwamkela into oyithethayo. Kunoko, gxininisa into ongayenza ukuphucula imeko efana nokubeka imida okanye ukuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo malunga nendlela izenzo zakho ezichaphazela ngayo.
Gwema ukukhubeka . Khumbuza ukuba intlungu yomntu onobudlova ivela kwimvelaphi yakhe kwaye ayikho uxanduva lwakho. Akunakufuneka unqabise umntu onobudlova. Gcina kwizinto owaziyo ukuba zilungile kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngumntwana okanye ubunzima bakhe.
Yiba novelwano. Kunzima ukuba novelwano kunye novelwano kumntu onzima kakhulu ukuhlala. Kodwa ekugqibeleni, inokusebenza kakuhle. Ungatsho into efana nale: "Kubonakala ngathi udidekile ngento eyenzekayo ngezolo. Oko kufuneka ukuba kunzima. "Khumbula, abantu abanomdla-ntliziyo baziva bengacatshangwanga. Ngoko ke, ukuba uzama ukuqonda apho bavela khona, kunokuhamba ixesha elide ekuncedeni ukuhlangabezana nokuziphatha kwabo.