Ukuba utshatile kumntu ogqithiseleyo, unokuziva ngathi utshatile iqabane elingathembekanga elitshintshisane nobudlelwane obusondeleyo kumsebenzi wakhe. Ingqiqo yokuba yedwa, inani lezithembiso eziphukileyo, iimvakalelo zomsindo kunye nokudumala, kunye nenkolelo yokuba awubalulekanga kakhulu yonke into efana neyabatshatileyo kunye nabatshatileyo.
Le miba, ukuba ingashiywanga, ingabangela ukutshatyalaliswa kokutshata okanye ukugqithisa kodwa ukutshatyalaliswa; Enyanisweni, ngokutsho kukaMaureen Farrel obhala "Ngoko Utshatile U-Workaholic" ku-Forbes ngo-2007, "ngokuqhelekileyo, izibini apho iqabane elinye liqhawula umtshato ngokuphindwe kabini kwizinga eliphakathi."
Xa omnye umlingani esebenza ngokugqithiseleyo, akayikunyusa umtshato, kwaye kungenakulungile ukugcina ubomi obunzima, obunokukubeka lula endleleni yokungathembeki okanye umtshato. Ngamanye amaxesha kuthatha i-call-up call ezifana neyodwa okanye impilo yeengxaki kwi-workaholic yokukhupha kule mpawu. Kukho izinto onokuzenza oko akunakuze ulinde ngeenxa zonke ukuze kube yinto ebangela ukuba utshintshe.
Iingcebiso Zokugcina Umtshato Wakho Unempilo
Ukuba ufumanisa uxhalabhile kunye neqabane lakho lokunyanzelana nomsebenzi, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba nangona ungavumelani nombono wakhe kumbandela, imeko ngokwayo ibeka wena kunye nomlingani wakho phantsi kobunzima obukhulu; Ngenxa yoko, ingxoxo malunga nokuba ngumsebenzi okhuselekileyo kufuneka ikhulunywe ngokucophelela kwaye inemfesane.
Njengoko kukhwankqisayo njengoko kungenakukugxeka lakho iqabane ngenxa yokunyamekela kwakhe, ukugxeka akuyi kusebenza. Esikhundleni saloo nto, yabelana ngetoni elungileyo oko umlingani wakho olahlekileyo ngokusebenza emva kwexesha okanye ngokuzisa umsebenzi ekhaya kwaye engekhoyo kuwe nabantwana bakho. Ukongezelela, kufuneka uzame ukuyeka ukuvumela umlingane wakho ukuba asebenze ngokugqithiseleyo-unokuthi uncede umlingane wakho okanye umnqweno wokusebenza ngokulibazisa ukutya kwentsapho, ukugcina abantwana ixesha elide, ukunyusa imisebenzi, okanye ukuchitha imali yakho kwizinto kunye neenkonzo (ezifana nokuthatha) ungenza ngaphandle.
Kunoko, cinga ukuvumela iqabane lakho libe nemiphumo yokusebenza ngokugqithiseleyo ngokubakho isidlo sakusihlwa ngexesha eliqhelekileyo kwaye wenze iqabane lakho lidle ukutya okubandayo xa ekugqibeleni ivela, emva kweeyure emva komsebenzi. Ukuba iqabane lakho lingafuni ukuphuma endlwini yakho, shiya iqabane lakho ekhaya uze uthathe abantwana kwi-movie, okanye ukuba iqabane lakho lixakeke kakhulu ukuba lingathatha iintsuku ezimbalwa, uthathe uhambo lweveki ukutyelela usapho ngaphandle kweqabane lakho-ungafaki ubomi bakho okanye ubomi bakho kubantwana bakho ulindele ukuba iqabane lakho likunike ixesha.
Ngaphandle koko, unokuzama ukukhohlisa iqabane lakho ngaphandle kwimodi yomsebenzi ngokucebisa umsebenzi onokukwenza kunye kunye. Nangona oku kungathathwa njengento ekhohlisayo, unike ithuba lokuba iqabane lakho liyolonwabela liyakwenza uxinzelelo phakathi kwakho kwaye uvumele ukuxubusha ngokunyanisekileyo ngeengxaki ezivela kumkhwenkwe womlingane wakho.
Nini Ukufuna Uncedo Lobugcisa
Ukuxazulula imicimbi yakho yomtshato enxulumene nomlingane onomdla unokuziva ngathi unomsebenzi ongenakunqwenelekayo, kwaye kaninzi kunzima ukuzenza wedwa. Ngethamsanqa, nangona kunjalo, iingcali zengqondo kunye nabacebisi bomtshato ziyafumaneka ukunceda ukuxoxisana ngengxoxo evulekile phakathi kwakho kunye nezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo.
Ukuba umtshato wakho unenkxalabo enkulu ngenxa yeqabane lakho esebenza iiyure ezininzi, ngoko ukucebisa umtshato kunokukhetha ukuba kuya kunceda. Nangona unako ukufumana umlingane wakho kwiseshoni yokuqala, usenokukwazi ukumnceda ukuba aqonde ubunzima beengxaki kunye nexabiso elikuyo kunye nolwalamano lwakho.
Kubalulekile ngethuba leeseshoni ukuxubusha imida yokumisela endivumelana nayo leyo ayiyi kunceda kuphela iqabane lakho ukuba liyanqobe ukuziphatha kwakhe komsebenzi kodwa likuncede ukuba nilumelane ngokucacileyo kunye novelwano novelwano.
Ukuba iqabane lakho livumelana nomhla kunye nawe okanye kwiiyure ezimbalwa, ukubeka imida efana "akukho fowuni kwixesha lokutya" kunokunciphisa ngokunyanisekileyo uxinzelelo lomsebenzi ngexesha lakho lodwa.
Kwimeko nayiphi na, isinyathelo sokuqala ekubhekaneni nemibandela yomtshato enxulumene nokuhlala nomlingane ogqithiseleyo kukuqala ingxoxo, uchaze indlela ukuziphatha okukwenza ukuba uzive ngayo, kwaye usebenze kunye ukuze ulungelelanise kunye nolwasemlinganeni wakho umsebenzi uzalisekile.
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