Iphi Isimo Sengqondo Esingafaniyo Neengcinga Ezilungileyo?
Xa abantu bethetha ngentsimi enxulumene nenwaba yeengqondo ezilungileyo, bathetha ngokucinga okulungileyo, ukuqinisekiswa okuqinisekileyo, kunye nokuxhomekeka kwengqondo.
Xa ndithe ndathetha nabantu malunga neengqondo ezithandekayo, igatsha elonwabisayo nelitsha elitsha leengqondo, abantu bahlala bekhankanya ukuba bangabalandeli beengqondo ezilungileyo kwaye sele basebenzise ukucinga okulungileyo ebomini babo iminyaka.
Ngamanye amaxesha ndivakalelwa ngandlela-thile ukuba i-psychology ebonakalayo iyinto yokuzikhohlisa (okanye naluphi na uluvo olungalunganga malunga nokucinga okulungileyo) kwaye ezo ndlela zisekelwe kwisenzo esinobuchule zingcono kuneendlela zokucinga. Okuthakazelisayo, zombini ezi mpendulo zisekelwe kwingcinga efanayo yokuba "ukucinga okulungileyo" kunye "neengqondo zengqondo" zinto enye. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuhlukana phakathi kwezi zibini, kungekhona nje kuphela kumanqanaba okulawula uxinzelelo, kodwa ukuhlala kakuhle, ulonwabo kunye nokwaneliseka komphefumlo. (Kwaye andiyikugqithisa oku!) Masiwutyhule.
Ukucinga okulungileyo kungaba yindlela emnandi yokunciphisa uxinzelelo. Ingabandakanya ukulungiswa kwengcamango yokulwa nokuphazamiseka okuqhelekileyo; inokubandakanya ukugxila ngokugqithiseleyo kwiintlobo zengxaki kunokuba zithintele, okanye ukugxila kwiimeko ezimbi; ingaquka inzame yokuzama ukuyeka ukugxila kwiingxaki ebomini.
Iquka ukuxhomekeka kunye nokubulela nokuxhaswa, kwaye kunokuquka ukuqinisekiswa okuqinisekileyo kunye nomzamo onzima wokuyeka ukukhalaza. Isekelwe kwinxalenye enkulu kwingcamango (ingcamango-esekelwe kwisicatshulwa) iindlela zokufumana isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo sengqondo, ngokuqonda ukuba xa sicinga ngokuthe tye, siziziva sizibhetele, kwaye sisebenza kwindawo esomeleleyo, esebenzayo ngaphakathi kwethu.
Yindlela yokuzicingela ekuziphatheni okungcono kunye nokukhuthazeka okukhulu, kunokuba siziphathe ngendlela eya kwisimo esithile sengqondo. Ukucinga okuntle kunokunceda kunokuncedisa ukukhululeka ngeendlela ezininzi.
I-psychology enempilo ihlukile. Ingabandakanya zonke ezi zinto, kodwa luyilo lwenzululwazi yinto eyenza abantu baphumelele, kwaye kuhamba phambili kunokuba abantu abaninzi babecinga ukuba "iingcamango ezifudumele kunye neengxaki" kunye nokungenelela okunokutya okusekelwe kwiziphumo zophando. I-psychology enempilo ijolise kwiimpawu ezingakhokelela kwisimo sengqondo esilungelelaniswe ngakumbi kwiindlela zokucinga ezikhokelela ekuziphatheni okungakumbi, njengengonyango yokuziphatha (CBT). Kodwa xa kuthelekiswa ne-CBT, i-psychology enengqondo igxininisa ngakumbi kwinto eyenza abantu basebenzileyo sele bekhula ngakumbi, kunokuba kulungiswe ingxaki engabangela ubunzima ebomini bomntu. I-psychological positive inokunceda abantu abakwenzayo kakuhle kakhulu, kwaye banokunceda abantu abajamelana nokunyamezeleka ngokufanelekileyo ngokuba ngabantu abanokuphelela ukuxinezeleka kwaye banandipha ubomi babo ngokubanzi.
I-psychology enhle yintsimi enkulu yokufunda, kodwa ibandakanya izinto ezimbalwa.
Ezi zilandelayo ziminye imibono ephakamileyo kunye neengcebiso ezivela kwintsimi yesimo sengqondo esichukumisayo, enye yam amagatsha endandithandayo yenzululwazi yokuxinwa kwengcinezelo.
- Ukubulela: Indlela esebenza ngayo, nendlela yokuyisebenzisa ngayo ebomini bakho.
- Iimnandi: Ezi zinto zinokuthi mhlawumbi zingabi nantoni na, kodwa zinokukunceda ukuba uqiniseke ukunyamezela.
- Iibratification: Ezi zinto zithatha umgudu omncinci kunezinto ezonwabisayo, kodwa zifaneleke ngokufanelekileyo ngokwemiqathango; banokutshintsha ngokwenene ubomi bakho.
- Injongo: Kubalulekile ukufumana intsingiselo ebomini. Nasi isizathu-kwaye njani.
- Injongo: Yintoni ekuthethwa ngayo ngokuqinisekileyo (kungekhona oko abantu bacinga), kwaye kusinceda njani?
- Iingingqi zoBomi: Ngaba uyazi ukuba kukho iindawo ezili-16 zobomi bakho ezinokuhlolwa kunye nokwenyusa ukuzisa ulonwabo olukhulu, ukunyamezela kunye nokwaneliseka komphefumlo?