Izizathu Zokuba Akufanele Ulondoloze I-Roller Coaster Yakho Umtshato
Ewe, ndiyakholwa emtshatweni. Kodwa ndiyazi ukuba inyaniso yezibini ezithandanayo kukuba ziphela ekupheleni komgca kulwalamano lwabo.
Umtshato unokuba yintsikelelo enjalo, kodwa umtshato unokuphelisa intliziyo yakho ... ngakumbi xa ucinga ukuba ufikelele ekupheleni kwendlela. Ukuba ucinga ukuba lixesha elide ukugcina umtshato wakho, kuyimfuneko ukuqonda ukuba ulwalamano lwakho luhamba ngetekisi elibi okanye umtshato wakho unobuthi obuyingozi kangangokuba ixesha elifanelekileyo lokuyivala.
Ubundlobongela luyintsebenziswano
Nangona kukho abantu abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba umtshato onguphela kuphela emtshatweni ukuxhaphazwa ngokwenyama, ndikholelwa ukuba imitshato ethile ayifanele iphile, ngakumbi xa kukho ukungathembeki kwintambo kunye / okanye ukuxhatshazwa ngokomzimba okanye ngokomzimba. Uhlobo olungenamsebenzi, umtshato ongahambelaniyo alupheli kwaye lufanele luphele.
Nangona inyaniso kukuba ukuqhawula umtshato kunzima, kuba kuninzi kunzima, kunokubuhlungu, kwaye kunobungozi ukuhlala ngokuxhatshazwa kunye nokuphazamiseka ngokomzwelo kumntu ohlukumezayo.
Akukho ndlela elula kule sigqibo. Uhambo ngo-uncoupling luhlukile kubo bonke abantu. Mamela ilizwi lakho langaphakathi kwaye ungavumeli ukwesaba kwabangamaziyo kukugcine umtshato ophazamiseke kakhulu.
Musa ukulinda uphawu ukushiya
Kuyinto enzima kwaye enzima ukukhetha ukunqumla umkhombe nokuphelisa umtshato wakho, kodwa xa ulwa nemfazwe elahlekileyo okanye uzizwe ungenamandla kwaye ungenamandla kumtshato onokukulimaza, ungalindeli uphawu oluvela eluhlaza ukuxelela ukuba uhlale okanye uhambe.
Uyazi emathunjini akho ngexesha lokushiya ubudlelwane obubi. Kufuneka wenze isigqibo esicingayo kwaye uzikhusele wena nabantwana bakho. Zibuze into ephilileyo ngomtshato wakho nento engekho. Ukucebisa ngeengcali kungakunceda ukuba uwenze uhambo olubuhlungu ngaphandle komtshato ongasebenzi.
Izizathu Zokungabi Nxamnye Ukulondoloza Umtshato Wakho:
Akukho myalelo othile, nantsi iimpawu ezinokuthi zihlale zibi kwaye ekugqibeleni zingakhokelela ekuqhawuleni umtshato.
- Hayi, unike kwaye uthathe, ayiyi kuthoba.
- Abini benu baneenjongo ezahlukeneyo okanye nijonge ubomi ngokuhlukileyo.
- Imiba ephindaphindiweyo.
- Ukusebenzisa ngokweqile.
- Ubuxoki obuqhubekayo, obungathembekanga.
- Ukulawula kakhulu imali, abahlobo, njl.
- Ukudlala umdlalo wecala.
- Ukungabi novelwano.
- Ngoko umvo woxanduva.
- Umtshato ongenasondo.
- Akukho uthando okanye ukuthandana.
- Ukungathembeki.
- Ayikholelwa kwi-monogamy.
- Bigamy okanye olunye ulwaphulo-mthetho.
- Andiyi kuxoxela iimpazamo, ungazisoli okanye uzisole.
- Andizimisele ukuzama ukugcina umtshato.
- Ukulahla umlutha, akayi kufuna uncedo.
- Ukunyaniseka.
- Ukungabi nhlonipho, ukuhlahlisa.
- Ukubeka phambili izinto eziphambili ezifana nokuba ingaba nabantwana.
Iingcebiso ezingakumbi malunga Nokuba Kulungile Ukuthi Kuphelile:
"Ukuba umntu osondeleyo kwicala lokuthanda-okanye-okanye-thina-banawo-ucingo, ungayisebenzisa. Kodwa ukuba kungenjalo, nokuba nomntwana ngumgomo wakho wobomi, unokuba ukhangela ekupheleni komtshato wakho, "utsho uAlisa Bowman.
URonnie Tyler: "Sikholelwa ukuba kufuneka ube nobudlelwane obuhle kwaye kungekhona nje ulwalamano olusindalayo. Nangona lonke ubudlelwane luhamba nezilingo zalo, kukho umda omkhulu phakathi kwesiphelo esibi kunye ne-5, 10, okanye iminyaka engama-20 ukubandezeleka, ukulwa kunye konke ukungasebenzi. "
Umthombo: URonnie Tyler.
"Izizathu ezili-10 Ufuna ukuzithoba umtshato obi." Babble.com. 2013.
UJill P. Weber: "Xa kungekho sisombululo sokunyamezeleka kwengxaki yomtshato, bobabini abasemanyeni bahlala kwiimeko zokulwa-okanye-zendiza. Basenokufumana ubunzima bokulala, ukutya okunempilo, ukuxhalabisa ngememori emfutshane, ukufumana ubunzima , musa ukuya kugqirha uze uhluleke ukuzondla ngokwabo. Iqhokhwe yabo igcwele kakhulu phakathi komsebenzi, abantwana kunye nemvakalelo engapheliyo abava ngayo, akukho ndawo yokuzinyamekela. ingabonwa phantsi. Kukho uphando oluthile lokubonisa ukuba ukungathandabuzekiyo okanye ubudlelwane obushushu kunokunciphisa ubomi. "
Umthombo: Jill P.
Weber, Ph.D. "Izizathu Eziphakamileyo Ezi-5 Ukuba Kuthatyathwa Kanjani Umtshato." HuffingtonPost.com. 12/22/2014.
I-CNN yabika ngo-2014 ukuba abaphandi "bafumene ukuba umtshato ombi ubangela ingozi ngakumbi entliziyweni kunokuba umtshato omhle unika iingenelo ezintle kwimpilo yengqondo." Uphononongo lwaxhaswa ngemali yiNational Institute of Aging kwaye yahlaziywa kwedatha esuka kumadoda angama-1 abesetyhini kunye nabasetyhini ngaphezu kweminyaka emihlanu.