Ukuba ulinde uze uziva ukuba uxhalaba lwakho lwentlalo luphantsi kolawulo ukuze ulululwe ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela , awuze ufike kuloo ndawo. Okwangoku, kutheni ungayifaki "uyenze uze uyenze" ngokwenza izinto ezincinci ezinokukunceda uzive ungakumbi ekulawuleni uxhalaba lwakho loluntu, endaweni yalo ekulawuleni?
I-Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs
Ngaba uvile ngeemfuno zolawulo lukaMaslow ?
Yipiramidi yezidingo ezivela kwizinto ezisisiseko ukuya kwizona ziphambili, kunye nembono yokuba awukwazi ukuqhubela phambili kwinqanaba le nqanaba elingezantsi lidibene.
Bahamba kulo myalelo:
- I-physics: ukuphefumla, ukutya, amanzi, isondo, ukulala
- Ukhuseleko: izibonelelo, umsebenzi, impilo, intsapho
- Uthando / lobulungu: ubuhlobo, intsapho, ukuthandana ngesondo
- Ziyabona: ukuzithemba, ukuphumelela, intlonipho
- Ukuzimela ngokuzimela: ukudala, ukuziphatha, ukuzithemba, ukwamukelwa
Ngokomzekelo, ukuba iimfuno zakho ezisisiseko zomzimba okanye ukhuseleko azihlanganiswanga (awunalo ukutya okanye indawo yokuhlala, okanye impilo yakho iyancipha), kuya kuba nzima kuwe ukufuna okanye ukufezekisa uthando okanye ukuhlala ngenxa yokuba ugxininise zakho zidingo.
Kwisona santloko sendibano "yinto yokwenza izinto." Yilo nqanaba apho abantu bafuna ukuzaliseka kwinqanaba eliphezulu. Unokucinga ngale nto njengale "phezulu kwipiramidi" izinto osebenzela kuzo xa unayo yonke into ebusweni bakho.
Ukusebenzisa i-Maslow's Hierarchy kwi-Social Concern
Ukuba usebenzisa le ngxakini yentlalo, unokucinga ukuba umntu olwa ne-SAD uya kubambelela kwizinga leemfuno zokhuseleko. Ukuba ulwa nzima imihla ngemihla ngenxa yokukhathazeka kweentlalo, ungazive ulawulwa ngqondweni wakho nomzimba wakho. Kwakhona unokuba neengxaki zokufumana okanye ukugcina umsebenzi, ukudibana nabantu kunye nezinye iimeko.
Oku kuya kunzima ukuba ufune ubuhlobo, ukuphucula imbopheleleko yentsapho, uzive kakuhle ngawe, kwaye uzibonakalise uhloniphekile.
Kodwa kunokukwenza kube nzima ukuba ucinge ngezinto ezinjengokudala, ngokuzenzekelayo, nokwamkela. Xa ihlabathi lakho lonke ligxininisekile xa kuhlaselwa kwesigxina esilandelayo, kuya kuba nzima ukubuyela emva kwaye uzamkele ngokwakho, khetha izinto zokudala, okanye wenze izicwangciso ezizenzekelayo.
Kodwa ngaba kufuneka ukuba njalo? Ngaba iMaslow yayifanelekileyo kuzo zonke iimeko?
Iziphumo ezivela kwisifundo se-2011 esashicilelwe kwi- Journal of Personality and Social Psychology zacetyiswa ukuba umntu angakwazi ukufikelela ekuziphatheni ngokwabo kunye nolwalamano olulungileyo lwentlalo nokuba ngaba iimfuno ezisisiseko nezokhuseleko azihambelani ngokupheleleyo.
Ngaba oku kuthetha ukuba unokwenjenjalo ungene kwi-self-actualization, nangona usenako ukuzulazula kwiindawo ezinzulu zokugula ngengxaki yentlalo? Ngaba kwakungeke kubonakale kukufanelekile ukufumanisa ubuncinane?
Amanyathelo okuLawula ukukhathazeka kweNtlalo
Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba unganamandla ebomini bakho (baninzi banokukhathazeka kwentlalo), ukwenza izinto ezincinci ezenza uzive ukhululekileyo kunokuncedisa ukukuqhubela phambili kule piramidi yezidingo. Ukuthetha ngeengqondo.
Nangona ungaziva ulawulwa ngobomi bakho, ukuziphatha kwakho kwengqondo, okanye uxhalaba lwakho lwezenhlalakahle-kuthini ukuba ufanele usebenze ngokungathi ukhona ? Behave ngeendlela ezihambelana nokuziva ngakumbi ekulawuleni. Nguye omdala "oyifumayo uze uyenze" indlela.
Cinga ngezo zinto onokuzenza nangona ubhekene noxinzelelo lwentlalo olungapheliyo. Ukuba wenza ezo zinto ngokwaneleyo, mhlawumbi, ekugqibeleni, uya kuqala ukuziva ungaphantsi kolawulo. Ngoku, yenza uluhlu lwezinto ezincinane ozenzayo ezinokukwenza uzive ukhululekile ekulawuleni. Qiniseka ukuba uludwe luqulethe izinto ezizodwa. Kwakhona, gxininisa into ongayenza kunokuba ungenzi nto .
Ngezantsi ziingcamango zokuba uqalise. Ezi zinto akuzona zonke ngokuphathelele ukuzimela, kodwa kunoko ezo zinto ziza kuqwalaselwa "phezulu kwipiramidi" kumntu onenkinga yokuxhalaba kwentlalo.
1. Yenza ukhetho oluphikisanayo abanye abangenalo, kodwa oko. Imizekelo ingabandakanya ukulandela umviwa wezopolitiko, ukhethe indlela ethile yomsebenzi, okanye uthi "cha" kwinto engahlali kakuhle nawe.
2. Yiba yintaka yokuqala xa unako. Yiya emsebenzini kuqala. Fika kwiqela kuqala. Yenza ingcaciso yakho kwindlela (iya kuqala).
3. Zama izinto ezintsha. Hamba endaweni apho ungazange ube khona. Bhalisela iklasi yobugcisa. Yiya kwicawa ukuba awuzange ube. Hamba uhambo oluhamba ngokukhawuleza (olukufutshane okanye olude kakhulu ngokuxhomekeka kwindlela yakho).
4. Cinga abanye . Thumela amakhadi. Yenza abanye ngcokola ngokubabuza imibuzo. Zazise. Fundisa abanye. Yenza umntu azive ekhaya ekhaya lakho.
5. Hambisa i-bod y . Hayi nje ukusetyenziswa. Fumana iindlela zokuhambisa loo mngeni. Zama iklasi yokudanisa, isigaba se-yoga, okanye into evelayo kuwe.
6. Zihloniphe ngamazwi othethayo kuwe . Thetha ngokwakho kakuhle. Yithetha izinto ofuna ukuba umntu athi kuwe. Yithetha izinto oza kuthetha kumnye umntu ukuba azakhe.
7. Yiba ne-gratitud e . Bhala izinto ezi-3 ozibulelayo imihla ngemihla ubusuku bonke kwiphephancwadi .
8. Chaza ixabiso lakho. Ngaphantsi unemilinganiselo engundoqo-ukumba abo. Yilwela into okholelwayo kuyo. Amavolontiya ekuncedeni kwindawo othanda ngayo.
Ngaphandle kokwenza ezi zinto ukuzitshintshela kwi-self-actualization, khumbula kwakhona izinto onokukwazi ukuzilawula, njengokuba abanye abantu bacinga ngawe, yintoni abanye abantu abaya kukucinga ngawe, kwenzekani kwixesha lakho elidlulileyo, ukusilela emzimbeni / kwengqondo kunye nekamva. Xa ukhulula ukugxila kwakho kule ndawo, uya kufumana ukuba unokuzonwabisa ngokulula kwiimeko apho uya kuthi uzive uxhalabile.
> Imithombo:
> Enkulu kakhulu, iYunivesithi yaseCalifornia, eBerkeley. I-Theory yeMaslow ibuyele kwakhona.
> Tay L, Diener E. Izidingo kunye nentlalo ngokuzimeleyo emhlabeni jikelele. J Pers Soc Psychol. 2011; 101 (2): 354-365.