Abantwana baphumelele kakhulu kwintsapho yenyukliya, kwaye ngelishwa, zininzi iintsapho eziye zahluleka. Nangona bobabili umyeni nomfazi benembopheleleko yokwakha nokuqinisa imitshato yokubonelela indawo ezinzileyo kubantwana, kukho izinto ezininzi amadoda angenza njengabayeni kunye nooyise ukuzama ukukhusela nokugcina ubudlelwane babo bomtshato kunye nokuphepha umtshato kunye nemiba ezayo kuyo.
Ukuqhawula isahlukaniso kwiingcinga zakho
Ukuba unengcamango yokuba uya kuba ngcono ngaphandle komtshato, ukuba ucinga ukuba yedwa kunokubangela ukuphuka okukhulu ekukhuthazeni kwakho ukwenza kube ngcono. Ukugqiba nje ukuba ukuqhawula umtshato akuyiyo inokukunceda ukuba ugxininise into ongayenza kunokuba ungafuni ukwenza.
Hlonipha kwaye Hlonipha uMlingani wakho
Kuyavunywa, iqabane lakho lingenalo mntu ofanayo xa utshatile. Kodwa ufanelekile ngenhlonipho nangenhlonipho. Ungumntu onokumangalisayo ngokwakhe. Cinga ukwenza uludwe lweempawu zakhe ezimangalisayo kunye ezimnandi ukuze ukwazi ukukhumbula ukuba kutheni waqala ukuthandana.
Ukuthetha, Ukuthetha nokuthetha
Akukho ndawo ithathe indawo yokuthetha rhoqo kunye nayo yonke into. Abafazi bethu baziva besondelelana nathi xa sichaza ngokucacileyo ngobomi bethu, iimfuno zethu, amaphupha ethu kunye nokulindela kwethu. Umhlobo wentsapho yonyango wam umzekelo ubonisa ukuba amadoda nabafazi babeka eceleni imizuzu engama-30 ngosuku ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka apho isibini sinokuthetha kuphela.
Ukunxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo yindlela ebalulekileyo yokuqinisa umtshato.
Yabelana ngeeMali kunye neBhajethi
Ukupheliswa kweentsapho ezininzi kuxhomekeke kwiimali. Ngokuqhelekileyo sizisa izinto ezilindelekileyo malunga nemali nobudlelwane kunye nokuza kwisivumelwano malunga nendlela esisebenzelana ngayo imali kunye nxalenye ebalulekileyo yempumelelo.
Vumelana nohlahlo lwabiwo-mali kunye nendlela yokwenza ityala kwaye uhlala kwimida yakho. Funda ukuhlula phakathi kwesidingo kunye nokufunwa, uze uqinisekise ukuba izidingo zakho zidibene.
Mnike iNani elaneleyo leZithuba-iMali ayifunayo
Esinye sezilinganisi ezinzima kakhulu ukufumana yimalini yexesha lokuchitha kunye kunye. Kuninzi kunzima; kuncinci ukungaqondi. Ngoko xa efuna indawo ethile kuye okanye kunye namantombazana, makabe naye. Xa efuna ixesha elingakumbi kunye nawe, yenze ixesha lakhe. Ukuba ixesha lakhe livela kuwe liqala ukukhula, lixesha elihle lokuhlala phantsi kwaye uthethe ngezilindelo kunye neemfuno.
Zikhathalele
Abafazi abaninzi endithe ndathetha nabo baye badideka ngomtshato xa iqabane liqala ukuhlukana ngokomzimba. Shave kunye nokuhlamba ngeveki; yenza ixesha lokuzilolonga kwaye udle ngobuchule. Ukufumana isisindo kwaye ungazinyamekeli ngokufanelekileyo kukukhutshwa kuye. Kwaye unononophelo olungcono ozithathela wena, mhlawumbi ukhathalele ngakumbi ngokubonakala kwakhe.
Qhubeka Uhamba
Enye yezona ndlela ezilungileyo endingaziyo ukugcina inxalenye yentsholongwane emtshatweni kukuba wenze ixesha lokutyala inkosikazi yakho. Yenza ixesha "lobusuku bemini" nganye ngeveki, nokuba ngaba yinto yokukhangela ubisi. Xa izihlandlo zazixhomekeke kuthi, mna nomkami sasiyothengisa ukutshatyalaliswa kwesinye isibini, sibeke umntwana kwi-stroller kwaye sihambe ngeenxa zonke.
Mshiye amanqaku akhe omthandayo apho uya kubafumana khona. Mthabathe ikhefu elinye. Amancinci amancinci athatha ixesha elide ukugcina umtshato uqinile.
Xolela Ngokukhawuleza
Ngokuqhelekileyo imitshato iqala ukuhlukana xa omnye umlingane okanye omnye ephethe ingqumbo. Ukuxolela kuyisipho ozinikela ngaphezu kweyodwa onika iqabane lakho. Ngoko wenqaba ukubamba amagqabi kwaye ube nomoya wokuxolela.
Musa ukuzama ukufumana uncedo
Ukuba usenomngeni, cinga ukufumana iingcebiso okanye izibhedlele zonyango. Ngokuqhelekileyo indawo yokusebenzela (okanye i-hers) iya kuba nokufikelela kwinkqubo yokuncedisa abasebenzi okanye i-EAP, apho unokufumana uncedo lokuqala kunye nokuthunyelwa kwabanye.
Unokucinga ngokuqala ngelungu elithembekileyo lenkolo ukuba unokwabelana ngelifa lenkolo uze uhambe ngaphaya xa kuyimfuneko.
Ungazami Ukulawula Umlingani Wakho
Mnike ikamelo lokuba ngumntu kwaye ufunde ukusebenzisana.
Xela uze Uxoxe nabanye abahlobo
Abahlobo badla ngokukrokra xa amadoda ebudlelwane obungaphandle komtshato, nangona kunjalo bamsulwa.
Amanconywa amancinci
Khangela into enhle ukuyithetha ngodade wakho othandekayo imihla ngemihla.
Khumbula ukuba unguMama, Njalo
Ngamanye amaxesha abantu bayakulibala ukuba umfazi naye unomama onomatasa kunye neemfuno ezininzi ngexesha lakhe. Akakho nje ukuba abe ngumdlali odlala naye. Ngoko unganamathele kwiimfuno ngexesha lakhe kwaye ululawule umthwalo xa unako.nezinye iimfuno ezininzi kwixesha lakhe. Akakho nje ukuba abe ngumdlali odlala naye. Ngako-ke qwa lasela iimfuno ngexesha lakhe kwaye umlenze umthwalo xa unako.