Kuthetha ntoni ngempela amaphupha akho?
Ngaba amaphupha anentsingiselo ejulile? Inani elimangalisayo labantu bakholelwa ukuba impendulo yalo mbuzo nguwebo. Ngokwe-poll eqhutywe yi- Newsweek , i-43% yamaMerika ekholelwa ukuba amaphupha abonisa ukuba unqwenela iimfuno kunye nezifiso.
Umntu onentsapho ye-psychoanalyst u- Sigmund Freud wachaza amaphupha njengendlela yokumkani engenazi nto kwaye wacetyiswa ukuba ngokufunda umxholo ocacileyo wamaphupha, sinokubangela ukuba izikhanyiso ezifihlakeleyo ezingenanto zikhokelela kwi- neurosis .
Ukuhlaziya iimpawu zephupha kunye nokuchaza intsingiselo kuye kwaba ngumthombo oqhelekileyo wokuzonwabisa kunye nokuzibonakalisa ngokwakho kwintlalo eyaziwayo. Ngaba amaphupha afihlakeleyo intsingiselo? Ngaba ungazifunda iiminqweno zakho kunye neminqweno ngokutolika amaphupha akho?
Nangona ezininzi iingcamango zamaphupha zanamhlanje zibonisa ukuba impendulo ayikho, oku akuyekanga ukutolika nabahlalutyi ukushicilela uluhlu olubanzi lweengcaciso ezichaza iphupha elichaza ukuba zeziphi iindondo eziqhelekileyo kunye nezibonakaliso zithetha.
Masiqwalasele ngokuphandle kwezinye iiphupha eziqhelekileyo kunye nokuba zeziphi ezinye iincwadi ezithandwayo zokutolika ngephupha zithetha ngazo.
1 - Iingoma malunga nokuwa
Iingcamango malunga nokuwa kwiindawo eziphakamileyo ziqhelekileyo. Nangona kukho intsomi eyaziwayo ukuba xa uhlaba umhlaba ephupheni lakho uza kufa ebomini bokwenene, akunjalo nje. Ngoko yintoni na ukuba amaphupha ngokuwa ayenokuthetha?
Ngokutsho kwamagama amaninzi athetha ukuphupha, amaphupha awelayo awuphawu lokuba into ethile ebomini yakho ayifani kakuhle. Ingasikisela ukuba kufuneka uphinde ucinge ngokukhetha okanye ucinge ulwalathiso olutsha kwindawo ethile yobomi bakho.
"Ukuphupha kokuwa kuqhelekileyo. Kubonisa ukwesaba ebomini bokwenene-mhlawumbi ngokusilela emsebenzini okanye ebomini bakho bothando," kusho uRussell Grant, umbhali weThe Illustrated Dream Dictionary . "Ukuwa ngokuqhelekileyo kubonisa isidingo sokuvumela ukuba uhambe ngakumbi kwaye ujabulele ubomi ngakumbi."
2 - Iingoma malunga nokuNyulwa kwaBasebenzi
Ngaba unamanye a maphupha angenangqondo apho ubonisa khona esikolweni okanye iofisi kwimeko yakho yokuzalwa? Ungaxhalabi. Ukuphupha malunga nokuhamba ngeyona nto engavamile.
U-Penny Peirce, umbhali we Dream Dream for Dummies , ubonisa ukuba ukuphupha ubunqunu bomntu kunokubonisa ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba ungumphony okanye ukwesaba ukutyhilela ukungapheleli kwakho kunye nokungaphumeleli.
3 - Amaphupho Ngokuxoshwa
Iingcamango ezibonisa ukuba zilandelwa ngumhlaseli owaziwa okanye ongaziwayo unokubangela ukwethusa. Kodwa la maphupha athetha ntoni malunga nezinto ezenzeka ngaphakathi kwengqondo yakho? Iingubo zeetoli zibonisa ukuba loo maphupha kuthetha ukuba uzama ukuphepha into ethile ebomini bakho bemihla ngemihla.
UTony Crisp, umbhali we Dream Dream , ubonisa ukuba ukuxoshwa ephupheni kunokubonisa umnqweno wokubalekela ukwesaba okanye iimfuno zakho. Isihluthulelo sokuqonda ukuba lithetha ntoni iphupha lixhomekeke kwi-identity of your pursuer. Ukuxoshwa yizilwanyana kunokubonisa ukuba ufihlekele kwintliziyo yakho, ukuthanda, kunye nezinye iimvakalelo.
Ukuba umlandeli wakho ungumntu ongaqondakaliyo, ongaziwayo, unokubonakalisa ubunzima bentwana okanye udandatheko oludlulileyo. Ukuba uxoshwa ngumntu wesini esahlukileyo, uCrisp ucebisa ukuba uthetha ukuba uyamesaba uthando okanye uxoxwa ngumtshato olwadlulileyo.
4 - Amaphupho Ngokulahlekelwa Amazinyo
U-Penny Peirce, umbhali we Dream Dream yeDummies , ubonisa ukuba ukuphupha malunga nokulahlekelwa kwamazinyo kunokuthetha ezininzi. Kusenokuthetha ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nomtsalane okanye ukubonakala kwakho. Kwakhona kunokubonisa ukuba unomdla malunga nokukwazi kwakho ukuthetha okanye ukukhathazeka ukuba usenokuthetha into ehlazo.
Uyachaza ukuba, "Okwenene amazinyo ukuluma, ukunqumla, ukukrazula nokugaya," kuchaza. "Ukuba amazinyo akho aphelile, ulahlekelwa ngamandla akho kunye nokukwazi kwakho ukuqina, ukugqiba, nokuzikhusela."
5 - Amaphupho Ngokufa
Ukufa ngenye into eqhelekileyo yamaphupha kwaye enye inokuba yinkxalabo. Abanye abaphuphayo baphupha ngokufa komntu othandekayo okanye nokuba nephupha lokufa. Ngezinye iinguqulelo zamaphupha ezidumileyo zibonisa ukuba amaphupho anjalo abonakalisa uxhalabo malunga noshintsho okanye ukwesaba okungaziwa.
"Njengokufa, utshintsho lunokuba luncedo ngenxa yokuba - kufana nokufa - asiyazi into 'ngapha nangapha,' yenguqu, oko kutheni ingqondo ephuphayo ibonisa utshintsho ngokufa," kuchaza uLauri Loewenberg kwincwadi yakhe ethi Dream Kulo: Vula iiDreams zakho, Shintsha Ubomi bakho .
ULoewenberg ukholelwa ukuba ukuphupha ngokufa komntu omthandayo kunokubonakalisa ukwesaba okufanayo kwenguqu, ngokukodwa ngokubhekisele kubantwana abafikelela kwimigqaliselo kunye nokukhula. Utshintsho olunjalo, ucebisa, bonisa ukuba umntwana uyakhula kwaye ingqondo yomzali iqala ukubuza ukuba ingakanani inkqubela yomntwana ehambayo. Ngaloo maphupha okufa, ngoko, kubonisa uhlobo lokulila kwinqanaba elingenakuphepha.
6 - Amaphupho Ngokuthatha Uvavanyo
Ngokutsho kukaCraig Hamilton-Parker, umbhali we -Hidden Iintsingiselo zeeNkanuko , ukuthatha uvavanyo lwamaphupha akho unokubonakalisa ukwesaba kokungaphumeleli. Iimviwo zivavanya amava apho uyenze ukujamelana nokusilela kwakho, "ubhala. "Ukuphupha ukungaphumeleli uvavanyo, ukukhawuleza, okanye ukungazilungiseleli ukuba uzive ungakulungeleli umngeni wokuphila."
7 - Amaphupho Ngokungathembeki
Ukuphupha ukuba iqabane lakho okanye umlingane wakho omthandanayo ukukopela kuwe nomnye umntu unokuba nzima kakhulu. Kwezinye iimeko, abantu baqala ukucinga ukuba iphupha liyakwenyani ngokwenene. Ngaba ukuphupha ukuba iqabane lakho lingathembeki lithetha ukuba kungenzeka? Okanye ukuba sele sekunokwenzeka?
Nangona ngamanye amaxesha amaphupha anjalo angabonakalisa ukwesaba okungathembekanga, uTrish noRob MacGregor, umlobi we- Complete Dream Dictionary: Isikhokelo seBhede sokukwazi ukuba iinjongo zakho zithini , kholelwa ukuba mhlawumbi amaphupha awasho ukuba lakho iqabane likopela okanye liya kukopela.
"Le yinto enye 'ntoni ukuba' uphupha - uvavanya umda wenyaniso, 'bathetha.
U-Eva Adamson kunye noGayle Williamson, abalobi be- Complete Complete Idiot's Guide Dream Dictionary , banokuthi amaphupho anjalo ngokungathembeki abonisa imiba ngokuthembela, ukunyaniseka kunye noqhagamshelwano nolwalamano. "Ukuba wena okanye iqabane lakho nikhohlise ephupheni lakho, omnye wenu akafumani nto oyifunayo kuloo ntsapho ngoku," babhala.
8 - Iimpondo malunga nokuhamba
Iingcamango malunga nokuhamba ngeenqwelo ezindizayo zingonwabile kwaye zikhulule kodwa ngezinye izihlandlo zisenokukwesaba (ingakumbi abo babesaba phezulu). Ngokutsho kukaTony Crisp, umbhali we Dream Dream , amaphupha ngokuhamba ngeenqwelo ezivame ukumela amacala amabini ahlukeneyo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, loo maphupha angabonisa iimvakalelo zenkululeko nokuzimela. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, banokubonisa ukuba nomnqweno wokubalekela okanye ukubalekela kwizinto ezingobomi.
Uyabhala wathi: "Ukuhamba ngeenkwenkwezi kwodwa kubonakala kuninzi ngokuzimela." Kodwa ngenxa yokuba kudla ngokubandakanya iimvakalelo ezintle, indiza ibonisa ubulili bethu ... ngakumbi iinkalo zayo zibonisa inkululeko kwimimiselo yoluntu kunye nokuthintela. "
9 - Iingoma malunga nokukhulelwa
Iingubo zeetoli zivame ukuphakamisa ukuba amaphupha ngokukhulelwa amelela yonke into esuka ekudaleni ukwesaba. UDavid C. Lohff, umbhali we Dream Dream , ukholelwa ukuba amaphupha okukhulelwa ngamanye amaxesha angabonisa ukwesaba kowesifazane ukuba ngumama ongonelanele. Ngolunye uhlangothi, uMbhali uTony Crisp, ubonisa ukuba amaphupha anjalo abonisa ukuba umphuphi uphuhlisa indawo ethile okanye unokunyusa ubudlelwane. Inguqulelo yephupha uRussell Grant ubhala ukuba la maphupha alwela amaxesha anzima.
I-10 - Ilizwi
Ucinga ntoni na? Ngaba ezinye zeenguqulelo zephupha zibonakala zichanileyo? Ukuba akunjalo, ungakhathazeki - amaphupha akho ahlukile kwaye aphezulu. Ngeke ukwazi ukufumana nantoni na ngaphandle kokuzonwabisa ngokulula kwiincwadi zokuguqulela eziqhelekileyo kunye nezichazili zephupha. Kunoko, qwalasela amaphupha akho umqondiso wobomi bakho obuvuzayo, ubonakalisa ukwesaba, uxhalaba, iiminqweno, ithemba, kunye neenjongo zekamva.
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