Nangona kubonakala ngathi ukuthatha umhlala phantsi kufuneka kube yithuba apho unako ukuphumla kwaye ujabulele iziqhamo zomsebenzi wakho, ngamanye amaxesha kunokukhokelela ekuvezeni ukudandatheka. Kutheni kwenzeka oku kwaye unokwenza ntoni ngawo?
Izizathu zokudandatheka Emva kokuthatha umhlalaphantsi
Kubantu abaninzi, umsebenzi uveza ingqiqo yokunceda kunye nenjongo. Kukho umnqweno wokuphila ngoncedo lwentsapho, uncedo kunye nenxalenye ebalulekileyo yoluntu.
Umntu womntu ngokwakhe uyazibophelela kakhulu kwizinto azenzayo ukuze aphile; kwaye, ngokuthatha umhlalaphantsi, ukulahlekelwa yintsholongwane, kunokushiya umntu elwa nzima ukuqonda ukuba ngubani kunye nokuba yeyiphi ixabiso.
Esinye isizathu sokudakumba kukuba i-dynamics ekhaya iya kutshintsha. Xa omnye okanye bobabini bahlala bephume ekhaya kwaye bebekho inxalenye ebalulekileyo yosuku, ngoku ke bobabini abatshatileyo bangasebenzisa ixesha elingakumbi ekhaya. Imisebenzi ingatshintshwa kwaye imfuno enkulu yokwenza izigqibo ezidibeneyo zenzeke. Kuze kubekho ulungelelwaniso olutsha lufikeleleke, kunokubakho iingxabano njengoko elinye iqabane lilungelelanisa imeko entsha.
Ekugqibeleni, umhlalaphantsi unokubonwa njengesikhumbuzo sokuba umntu uguga, ukwesaba ngokufa, ukugula nokukhubazeka okuvela.
Indlela Yokujongana Nokuxinezeleka Emva kokuthatha umhlalaphantsi
Iingcali ezininzi zibonisa iingcebiso ezilandelayo ukunceda abatshintshisayo abatsha ukuba benze utshintsho lula kwixesha elilandelayo lobomi babo:
- Hlala usebenza. Yenza izinto zokugcina ingqondo kunye nomzimba osebenzayo uthatha iklasi, ukuthatha inxaxheba kwimidlalo, ukwenza umsebenzi wamavolontiya okanye nokuba uthathe umsebenzi wexeshana.
- Qinisekisa ubudlelwane boluntu kunye nosapho. Ukutyelela abantwana bakho okanye ukunikela kubantwana bakho. Yenza ixesha lokuthatha inxaxheba kwimisebenzi kunye nabahlobo. Ukutyelela uluntu lwasekuhlaleni kwaye ujonge imisebenzi oyenayo ukuze wenze abahlobo abatsha.
- Fumana ingcinga entsha yenjongo. Mhlawumbi ungenza umsebenzi wokuzithandela ohambelana nomsebenzi wakho wangaphambili? Okanye mhlawumbi uhlale unenkxalabo malunga nesizathu esithile? Ukufumana indlela entsha yokubonelela intsingiselo yobomi bakho kuya kubuyiselwa ingqiqo yenjongo oyifumene ngomsebenzi.
- Ukuzalisa amaphupha akho. Mhlawumbi uhlale ufuna ukufunda ukudlala isixhobo somculo okanye mhlawumbi ukuhamba? Ngoku ixesha eligqibeleleyo. Unenkululeko kwaye usencinane ngokwaneleyo ukuba uyonwabele. Ziphose kuyo!
- Ukuphuhlisa ishedyuli. Xa usetyenziselwa ukucwangcisa lonke usuku lwakho malunga nomsebenzi wakho, kunokuba kunzima ukuphazamiseka ukuya kwikhosi elingaqulunqwa ngokupheleleyo. Endaweni yoko, misela ishedyuli ngokwakho, udale amaxesha afanelekileyo xa uza kwenza umsebenzi wendlu, usebenze okanye wenze umsebenzi wokuzithandela.
Kuthiwani Ukuba Ukuxinezeleka Kwanga Kubaluleke Kakhulu?
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ukudakumba kwakho kungekude okanye kuqala ukuphazamisa kakhulu ubomi bakho, kunokwenzeka ukuba ufuna ukufumana uncedo oluyingcali kwi-Major Depression Disorder. Iimpawu zoMngcipheko omkhulu oPhephayo ziquka:
- Ndiziva ndibuhlungu, ndixinezelekile okanye ndingenanto
- Ukulahlekelwa ngumdla kwizinto oye wazenza ukuzonwabisa
- Uziva unomsindo okanye ungenasiphelo
- Ukuba neengxaki zokulala okanye ukuvuka ekuseni
- Ukuba utshintsho kwisondlo okanye ubunzima
- Ukuba neengxaki ngokucinga, ukwenza izigqibo okanye ukukhumbula izinto
- Ndiziva ndikhathele lonke ixesha
- Uziva ungenanto okanye unetyala
- Ndiziva ndingenakunceda okanye ndingenathemba
- Ukucinga ngokufa okanye ukuzibulala
Ukuba ufumana ezininzi zeempawu, ngoko kukubona kakuhle ukuba ubone ugqirha wakho weentsapho ukuvavanya. Uya kukubuza imibuzo ethile kwaye enze uvavanyo ukuze uqinisekise ukuba iimpawu zakho zokudandatheka zingenzeka ngenxa yezizathu ezithile, ezifana nesimo sengonyango okanye unyango oluthathayo. Ukuba ezi zinto zingagqitywa, ngoko unokuba noxinzelelo.
Ukuba unesixinzelelo, kukho iindlela ezininzi zokwelapha, ezinjengeemithi ezichasayo , ingqondo yengqondo kunye nokucebisa, oku kunokukunceda ukuba ubuyele kwi-keel.
Ugqirha wakho angakhetha ukunikezela ngamachiza, okanye unokukhetha ukukudlulisela kwisifo sengqondo okanye enye ingcali yezempilo yengqondo ukuze uncede. Ngokuqhelekileyo, unyango olungcono kakhulu wokudakumba luya kubandakanywa ngamachiza kunye neyeza okanye ukucebisa, kodwa ugqirha wakho uya kusebenza nawe ukufumanisa okulungileyo kuwe.
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