Amadoda amaninzi asebenzisa kakubi amanxulumani kwiintsuku zokusela
Akunandaba nokuba ulungele okanye ulingane, zonke izibini zingaphathwa ngobundlobongela obusondelene xa utywala uphonswa kumxube.
Yintoni eyahlukileyo kukuba ubundlobongela bemvelo buye kwahlulwa phakathi kwesini esinikwa ngesini esifanayo, kwaye izibini ezibudlelane bobulili obufanayo zincinci ukufuna uncedo ngenxa yezibonelelo ezincinci ezikhoyo kwi-LGBTQ yoluntu.
Izibalo zoLudlo obusondeleyo kunye noTywala
Ukusetyenziswa kotywala kunye nokuxiliswa kweziyobisi kuhlangene ngokubambene kunye nobudlova obusondelene nabo. Ngokutsho kweBhunga likaZwelonke malunga nokuTywala nokuThengiswa kweMithi, utywala ngokuqhelekileyo luyinto ebangela ubundlobongela apho umhlaseli kunye nexhoba bayazana. Iibini ezithathu zala maxhoba zahlaselwa ngumlingani osondeleyo (kuquka umlingani wamanje okanye owayengumlingane, inkwenkwe okanye intombi) kwaye wabika ukuba utywala babandakanyeka.
Iziganeko eziphantse ezingama-500 000 zenzeka ngonyaka ngamnye phakathi kwabantu abalingani abasondelene nabo kwaye baquka abantu ababeselayo.
UkuFundiswa koBundlobongela beMzimba ngabantu ngobudlelwane obuchanekileyo
Xa kuziwa kwizibini ezichanileyo, amadoda atywala utywala kunye neendawo ezinobundlobongela bezobundlobongela kubalingane babo abasenyongweni banokuthi banobundlobongela kwiintsuku zabo zokusela, ngokutsho kovavanyo luka-2003 oluchazwe kwi-Journal of Consulting kunye neCliniki Psychology. . "
Olu pho nonongo luhlolisise amadoda angama-135 abundlobongela basekhaya abangena kwinkqubo yokunyanga utywala malunga neenyanga ezili-15 kwaye bafumana ubudlelwane obubalulekileyo phakathi kokusela kwamadoda kunye nogonyamelo kumlingane wabo.
Iingxaki zobundlobongela besilisa nabesibhinqa zaziphindwe ngamaxesha angama-11 kwiintsuku xa amadoda atywala utywala kunokuba iintsuku zingekho utywala .
Ukuthelekiswa neentsuku zokungabi niselo, ukugqithiswa kwindoda yobundlobongela kwiintsuku zokusela kakhulu ngamadoda asetyenziswayo (ukusela isithandathu okanye iziphuzo ezongezelelweyo kwiiyure ezingama-24) zaba ngaphezu kwamaxesha angama-18 kwaye iziganeko zobundlobongela obukhulu bezingaphezulu ngaphezu kwamaxesha angama-19.
Ukuxhatshazwa kwabalingani kwizitshatweni ezifanayo zesini
Iingxaki zobundlobongela obusondeleyo phakathi kwamabhangqwana ase-LGBTQ ziyinyani njengoko kusemgangathweni yoluntu, kodwa zifundo ezimbalwa zikhoyo zigqamisa imbambano.
Izifundo eziqhutywe zibonisa i-LGBTQ kuluntu:
- Ukufumana iimpawu ezininzi zokusela utywala kunezibini ezitshatileyo
- Amanani aphakamileyo obundlobongela
- Ubonise izinto ezingaphezulu ezimbi ezihambelana nokufuna unyango
Izibini ezitshatileyo zesini kunye nezinye iindibano zokuqhelana ngokwesondo ngokuvamile azifuni unyango ngenxa yokuba zinoyika i-homophobia kwaye ziphuma ngaphandle, ingakumbi abantu abahlala kwiindawo ezingabandezeli.
Ummandla we-LGBTQ nawo unokuba neengxaki ezifanelekileyo malunga nokusebenza kweprogram ye-cookie-cutter yezibini ezichanekileyo ezisetyenziselwa ukujongana neengxaki ezijongene nezibini ze-LGBTQ.
Xa Udlova kuqhubeka
Iziqulatho ezinobundlobongela zinokuthi zenzeke ngexesha okanye emva nje kokusela. Nangona kunjalo, amadoda athatywayo kwindlobongela yasekhaya kunye neengxaki ezinzulu zokusetyenziswa kakubi kotywala ngokuqhelekileyo banokubandakanya ulwalamano olusenyongweni kunye nabani na, nangakhathaliseki ukusela, kunabalingani babo abangenayo ingxaki yokusela.
Iibini ezichanekileyo apho amaqabane abesilisa abanobudlelwane obusandul 'ukutshatyalaliswa kobundlobongela beqabane, ukusela, ngokukodwa ukusela kakhulu , kubonisa umngcipheko obalulekileyo kakhulu wokuphindaphinda.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba unobungane obuyingozi, uthatha imibuzo yokuhlola ingozi ye-intanethi .
> Imithombo:
Klostermann, et al. "Ukunyanzelisa nokuziphatha kakubi: ukuNxila kunye nobudlelwane phakathi kwabaGay neLesbian Couples." (2011)
> IBhunga leSizwe ngokuTywala nokuThengiswa kweziMilo. "Utywala, iziyobisi kunye noLwaphulo-mthetho." (2015)
Amacandelo okuLawula nokuLawulwa kwezifo: AmaSpredishithi eNgcaciso - Utywala basebenzisi kunye neMpilo yakho (2016)