Abantu abano-LGBTQ (abesilisa abangqingiliyo, abesilisa nabasetyhini, abaqabane, abagqwethayo, i-queer [ngamanye amaxesha abhalwe "ukubuza imibuzo"] bangabakho mngcipheko weengxaki zokuxhalaba kwezenhlalakahle (SAD) ngenxa yendawo ekuhlaleni.
Abantu abaxhatshazwa ngabakwa-Heterosexual okanye abakwa-cisgender (abo abanomdla wokwazisa kunye nobulili bafanisa ukuzalwa kwabo ngokwesini sokuzalwa) bakhula kwimeko apho ngokuqhelekileyo bayamkela ubudlelwane babo.
Le nto ayisoloko injalo kwi-LGBTQ, onokujamelana nokubandlulula okanye ukunyanzela ukwenza izinto abanye abazithathayo, njengokubamba izandla okanye ukubonisa uthando.
Isidingo sokuzibeka esweni kwiimeko zentlalo phakathi kwe-LGBTQ sibeka isigaba sokuphuhliswa kwengxaki yokuxhalabisa abantu kwiintlobo zabantu abasenokuba baxhomekeke ngaphambili ngenxa yemfuza okanye ezinye izinto ezingqongileyo. Enyanisweni, siyazi ukuba phakathi kwama-30 no-60 ekhulwini le-LGBTQ bahlala kunye nokuxhalabisa kunye nokuxinezeleka ngandlela-thile ebomini babo, kwaye banamaxesha angama-1.5 ukuya kuma-2.5 kwimiba engaphezu kweengxaki ezi zinto kunokuba baxhatshazwe ngokwesini okanye abantu base-cisgender.
Ukuphuhliswa kwe-SAD kwi-LGBTQ
Ukukhula kwe-LGBTQ mhlawumbi wambona imizekelo embalwa kwenkcubeko yakho yokwenza ulwalamano olunxulumene nawe. Ngokwemigqaliselo yayo elula, kufana nokukhula ngokushiya ngakwesokunene kwihlabathi. Kwimiqathango engakumbi, kunokubandakanya ulwaphulo-mthetho okanye ulwaphulo-mthetho.
Ngenxa yoko, ufunda ukufunda nganye imeko kwaye uqinisekise ukuba ukhuselekile kangakanani ukuba wena. Oku kuyimpendulo engokwemvelo ekubonakalweni kokuqhubeka kunye nokucwaswa, kodwa kunokukhokelela ekuhlazweni nasekuxhalabeni.
Umxholo weNtlalo
Kubalulekile, ngokunjalo, kukuba i-SAD ithambekele ekuphuhliseni kwiminyaka yeshumi elivisayo, ngexesha elifanayo apho i-LGBTQ ingaqala ukudibana neentloni kunye nokugculelwa ngabo.
Ngokuhamba kwexesha, le miyalezo yangaphandle ingafakwa ngaphakathi kwaye ifake indlela ocinga ngayo ngawe. Ukuba ilizwe elingaphandle lizele imiyalezo engalunganga malunga nokuba ungubani, ekugqibeleni unokuzibona ungathandeki kwaye ulahlekile. Eli thuba linokuba nemiphumo enamandla engapheliyo engapheliyo kwimpilo yakho yengqondo.
Izizathu Zokukhathazeka Kwezenhlalakahle kwi-LGBTQ
Yiyiphi imbangela yokugula ngengxaki yoluntu kwi-LGBTQ? Nangona iimeko ezifanayo zidlala indima ekuphuhliseni i-SAD njengoko yenzayo kubantu abathandana nabo besini nababini, iimeko zentlalo apho i-LGBTQ ikhula ingaba yinto ebangela ukuxhalabisa uxhalabuntlalo loluntu.
Njenge-LGBTQ unokunyuswa kwihlabathi elingabonakali kukukwamukela, kwaye emva kwexesha, ungasifumana u-internalizing loo myalezo. Uphuhliso lwenkolelo engundoqo yokuba awuyena mntu ofanelekileyo unokuthi ube yinxalenye yesiphumo sezinto ezibizwa ngokuba yingcinezelo yokuncinci.
Uxinzelelo oluncinci lubhekisela kumazinga aphezulu angapheliyo okuxinzelelekileyo afunyanwa ngamaqela aphikisanayo, ukucwaswa, ukubandlulula, kwaye kulo mzekelo ukuhlaselwa ngabantwana okanye i-transphobia. Unokujamelana nobugwenxa okanye amaqhinga angabonakaliyo ukuba uyayichaza isimo sakho se-LGBTQ. Ngale ndlela, ufunda ukuthula ngohlobo lwakho, oku kunokubangela ukuba uxhalabise.
Ezinye izizathu
Ngokuqinisekileyo, abantu be-LGBTQ basengozini ye-SAD ngenxa yemfuza efanayo kunye nokusingqongileyo njengabantu bonke. Ubume bakho bokuxhalabisa ngenxa yobungqina bakho, ukukhuliswa kwakho, kunye namava akho okuqala okungahambelani nemoji ye-LGBTQ konke kwenza kube lula ukuba uza kufumana i-SAD.
Ukufuna Uncedo kwi-SAD njenge-LGBTQ
Njenge-LGBTQ kunye noxhala loluntu, unokuba neengxaki zokuvuma ukuba ufuna uncedo. Kungaba nzima ukunxibelelana nogqirha wakho, kubini ngenxa yokukhathazeka kwakho kwentlalo kwenza kube nzima ukuba uthethe kubantu kwaye ngenxa yokuba uziva ngathi unokubandlululwa ngenxa ye-LGBTQ.
Ngaloo ndlela, unokuba "uphuma kugqirha wakho" ngeendlela ezininzi kuneyona-imeko enokuziva nzima.
Uzinceda
Ukuba uthetha ngogqirha wakho kunzima kakhulu ngoku, khawuqwalasele oko ungakwenza ngokwakho kuqala ukuba wakhe ukuzithemba, njengokujoyina iqela lokuxhasa okanye ukuzama incwadi yokuncedisa okanye inkambo ye-intanethi . I-LGBTQ ene-self-image enempilo ayinakuncitshiswa ukuba inokuchaphazeleka ngokunyanzeliswa kwengcinezelo, ngoko kubalulekile ukuba usebenze kuloo nkolelo engundoqo egxininisekile yokuba awuhlali okanye ungakufanelekanga. Nangona kunokuziva kunzima, ukwakha ukuzithemba kwakho kuya kuba yinyathelo lokuqala lokufumana uncedo.
Amachiza
Kwiimeko zokuxhalaba okukhulu kwentlalo, ugqirha wakho unokunikezela ngamachiza afana ne- seleotonin e-reuptake inhibitor (SSRI) ekhethiweyo . Amachiza aqhelekileyo asetyenziswa ngexesha elimiselweyo njengendlela yokuqhawula ukuqala ukunyusa uxhalaba lwakho. Ngokugqithisileyo imithi iyanempumelelo xa idibaniswe nomsebenzi othile wokuqonda, njengokwelapha kwengqondo (i-CBT) okanye ukwelashwa nokuzinikela (ACT) yokuxhalabisa abantu.
Unyango
I-CBT ye-SAD ibandakanya ukuchonga iinkolelo ezingundoqo ezibangela iingcamango ezimbi. Ngokutshintsha iipatheni zeengcamango zakho, ufunda ukubona imeko ngendlela echanekileyo. Ukuba uya kuthatha inxaxheba kwipilisi, kubalulekile ukufumana ugqirha onokukuxhasa njengomntu we-LGBTQ kwaye uyaqonda imeko ekuhlala kuyo, kunye nomntu oqonda ingxaki yokuxhalabisa abantu. Ngelixa le nto ingaba ngathi iyona myalelo omude, kukho abagqirha abaya kufana nale miqobo.
Ingxaki inokubonakala ukuba ungaziva ukhuselekile kunye nomthandi wakho. Ngelixa kunyanisekileyo kukho a bathile abajonga i-LGBTQ njengesifo sengqondo ukuba baphiliswe, bahlala bengaphantsi. Thetha nomphathi wakho malunga nendlela amava akho ngayo ukuxhalaba ahluke njengomntu we-LGBTQ kwaye uqinisekise ukuba kukho into efanelekileyo phambi kokuba uvume ukuqala unyango.
Ingozi kwezinye iingxaki
Ukuba unge-LGBTQ eneengxaki zokuxhalabisa abantu, usengozini kwezinye iingxaki ezifana nokusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi. Ngokukodwa, uphando lubonise ukuba abafazi besinikazi banokuba baninzi ngaphezu kweontanga zabo zokuxhatshazwa kweziyobisi. Ezinye ze-LGBTQ zinokuhlangabezana nazo ngeendlela ezingenakuthandayo, ezifana nokubandakanyeka kwimisebenzi yengozi yokuziphatha njengengozi yokulawula iingxaki ekuphuhliseni ubudlelwane okanye ukuphepha ukujongana neengxaki ezinzima. Ukuba ungo-LGBTQ kunye ne-SAD, kubalulekile ukufuna uncedo kusenokwenzeka ukuphepha ukuphuhlisa ezinye iingxaki ezinxulumene nazo.
Ukunceda abantu be-LGBTQ abane-SAD
Cinga ngoloo mntu njengoko unokuba nawuphi na umntu onenkinga yokuxhalabisa abantu. Tshela loo mntu ukuba uyabathanda kwaye uyawaxabisa njengoko kunjalo. Unokukunceda ngokufumana izixhobo zomhlobo wakho okanye ilungu lentsapho, njengamaqela okuxhasa, unyango lweqela, okanye izibonelelo zoncedo. Kwakhona-ungayihoyi isicelo somntu esibizwa ngokuba negama elithile okanye ekubhekiswe kuye ngendlela ethile. Into enokubonakala ngathi into encinci kuwe inokuba yinxalenye enkulu yaloo mntu uyamkela ubungqina bayo.
Qaphela ukuba isenzo sokudalula isimo se-LGBTQ kwintsapho kunye nabahlobo kunokubangela uxhalaba, ingakumbi phakathi kwabo bahlala ne-SAD. Sebenzisa ulwimi olubandakanya kwaye uvule kwaye ube nobungane ukubonisa inkxaso yakho kumhlobo wakho okanye ilungu lentsapho, ukuze bazi ukuba ungumntu onokuzimela kuye.
ILizwi
Uxhala lwezenhlalakahle luhlobene nendlela ocinga ngayo abanye abantu bakubona. Iyakwenza uzivelele. Ukuba i-LGBTQ yenza ukuba ulungele ukukhathazeka kwentlalo ngenxa yokwesaba oza kugwetywa ngabanye. Ukuba u-LGBTQ uhlala noxhala loluntu, fumana umntu othembela kuye ukuba ancede. Njengoko ukuzithemba kwakho kukhula kwaye ukuxhalaba kwakho kunciphise, jonga indlela onokubuyisela ngayo ngokusebenza ukunciphisa intshutshiso okanye ukunceda abanye endaweni yakho.
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