Ukuvuselela Ubomi Bakho Xa Umlingani Wakho Efa
Ukufa komlingane yinkxalabo enkulu yomtshato. Ngenye imini utshatile. Ngomso olandelayo ungatshatanga, uyedwa kunye nosizi. Akukho nto ngonaphakade. Umgca wecala kukuba uya kufuneka ukwazi indlela yokuhamba kweli nqaku elibi, kwiinkcukacha zeenkcukacha, izigqibo, iifom zokuzalisa, ukutshitshiswa, ukunyaniseka, umsindo, ukudideka, ukwesaba, intliziyo ephukileyo kunye nokudandatheka.
Nangona kunjalo, kunokukholiswa kunye nokuqala okutsha.
"Wonke umntu uya kulahlekelwa yinto yonke eyayiyithandayo okanye ayikhathalele ngayo. Yiyo inyaniso yobomi ngokwayo ... Kodwa usizi lwethu alugcini nje ngokulahlekelwa ngumntu othandekayo okanye ukujongana nokufa kwethu. Ingaba ukulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi, umtshato, Iphupha, okanye ubutsha bethu, sonke sineentliziyo eziphukile, ngasinye silahlekile ukungabi namacala, senze iimpazamo, senza ingozi kwaye sasilimala endleleni. Sonke sinamabali ethu ngabani, apho, yintoni, kwaye ngubani weentliziyo zethu ezibuhlungu. Ngamanye amabali ethu ahlukeneyo kunye kwaye sonke sinobali ... usizi luyimeko yomntu, ityiti ibopha sonke. " UDavid Treadway, Ph.D., "Intlungu Enhle: Ukubhiyozela Iintlungu Zobomi Bethu." kwi-PsychologyToday.com (2012)
"Wonke umntu ulahlekelwa yintlupheko, kwaye into yokugqibela abantu abayidingayo xa bebuhlungu buhlungu kukuba banokuyenza into engalunganga kuba abanakukwazi ukuzenza indlela yokuziva bebhetele. ukuba uzibethe phakathi kwakho intlungu. "
Ngaba uSchwalbe, "Ukulahleka komntu othandekayo: Indlela yokufumana ngayo" kwiHuffingtonPost.com (2013)
Amanqaku okufa nokufa
U-Elisabeth Kubler-Ross wabhala iminyaka emininzi edlulileyo malunga "nezigaba zokulila": ukuphika (ukuthuka), ukuxoxisana, umsindo, ukuxinezeleka, nokwamkelwa. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba ezi zigaba azinawo umyalelo othile kwaye abanye abantu bafumane ukuba babuyele kwisigaba babecinga ukuba sele benqobile.
Ezi zigaba ziyingxenye evamile yentlungu. Ungazivumeli ukuba ubanjwe ukuba wenze izinto ngaphakathi kwexesha elithile. Uya kukwazi ixesha elifanelekileyo lokukhupha izitya kunye nezindlovu kunye nokujongana nezinto ezifana nezikhwama kunye neengxowa. Lindela uze ulungele.
"Yaye into yam yokuqala kwoluhlu lwemihla ngalunye ngolu hlobo: Vuka. Ukuba ndiyakwazi ukuyihlola loo nto, sele ndenze into kwaye ndingakwazi ukuqhubeka kunye nezoshishino zokuphila nokuzama ukuhlonela inkumbulo yabo endibathandayo abangenayo kusele apha. " Ngaba uSchwalbe, "Ukulahleka komntu othandekayo: Indlela yokufumana ngayo" kwiHuffingtonPost.com (2013)
Kukulungele Ukukhala Xa Umlingani Wakho Efa
Ubuhlungu buyimfuneko. Ngoko iinyembezi. Ukulila kunceda. Ukukhala kuyisilwanyana sokuphilisa. UDkt. Joyce Brothers uchaza iinyembezi ngokuthi "uncedo lokuqala lwengqondo."
Iinyembezi ziqulethe i-leucine-enkephalin enye yeentlungu zendalo zengqondo. Iinyembezi ziqulethe i-hormone ekhuthaza ukukhutshwa kwezinyembezi - iprolactin. Abasetyhini baneeplactin ezingaphezu kwamadoda, esinye sezizathu zokuba banokukhala ngaphezu kwamadoda.
Ukusebenzelana Nabanye
Abantu abaninzi abakhathazeki ngokufa. Ngenxa yoko, baya kuthetha baze benze izinto ezizithulu. Zama ukuxolela aba bantu abangenayo inkcazelo ukuba benzani okanye bathi.
Ngokuqhelekileyo abaqondi ukuba kulungile ukukhankanya igama lomlingane wakho, okanye ujonge ngeliso, okanye kukunikezela.
Iholide kunye neentsuku ezikhethekileyo kuMfazi osinda
Ubomi bakho butshintshile kwaye buguquka. Ikhalenda iya kuba nempembelelo eyahlukileyo kuwe njengomcimbi wakho womtshato, uSuku lweeValentine, imicimbi ekhethekileyo, imihla yokuzalwa kunye neeholide ziza. Le mihla kufuneka iqwalaselwe. Cwangcani ngaphambili kwaye wenze oko ufuna ukukwenza. Ungazivumeli ukuba ulawulwe yintsapho kunye nabahlobo.
Ukujonga kwixesha elizayo
UDkt. Joyce Brothers wabhala encwadini yakhe ethi, " Oweswelekileyo ," kwaye ukuba bekubekho omnye umntu olungileyo endibelana naye ngobomi bam, kuya kubakho ikhoneni elingenalutho lomphefumlo wam.
Ndiyazi into endiyenayo kunye noko ndilahlekileyo. Ndiyathemba ukuba andiyi kuchitha ixesha lobomi bam bodwa. Kodwa ukuba ndiyenzile, andiyi kubuhlungu. Ubomi buqhubeka, kwaye ndikulungele ukujoyina i-parade kwakhona. "
Ubalo lwabantu base-United States lubonisa ukuba ngoomyinge, abahlolokazi baya kutshata kwakhona kwiminyaka emithathu yokufa kwabafazi babo, kwaye abahlolokazi baphinda batshata kwakhona kwiminyaka emihlanu. Iingcali zithetha ukuba kubalulekile, nangona kunjalo, ukutshata ngenxa yothando ... kungekhona ngenxa yokuba unesizungu.
* I-Article ihlaziywe nguMarni Feuerman