Xa intombi yam iqalisa, umhla wangaphambi kokuba uncome ukuba ndibe nelithuba lokuba nengxoxo emide kunye nomyeni wakhe, umtshato kunye nokuphila ubomi kunye. Isihloko sokuthi ufuna kangakanani ukusebenza ukuze enze umfazi wakhe, kwaye kungekudala-abe ngumfazi, azive ekhethekileyo kwaye wayemthanda ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwingxoxo yethu.
Yintoni indoda enokuyenza ukuze incede umfazi azive ekhethekileyo kwaye azi ukuba uyathandwa?
Olu luhlu, olwakhiwe emva kweminyaka yokubona kunye namava, luya kunceda ukuvuselela iingcamango zakho ukuze uncede umfazi wakho azive ekhethekileyo.
Mthumelele Uthando
Amanqaku okubhala ngesandla kunye neeleta ziba yinto elahlekileyo yobugcisa ngexesha lokunxibelelana ngokukhawuleza kunye nobuchwepheshe. Inqaku lokuthandana, elibhalwa ngesandla, libonisa ukuthetha uthando, ukunakekela, nokunika ixesha kunye nokuzimela. Inqaku elifutshane elithetha uthando lwakho, ukunyaniseka kwakho, ukuxabisa iimpawu zakhe ezikhethekileyo, nokuzibophezela kwakhe kuye kuthetha ngokubanzi malunga nendlela ekhethekileyo ngayo.
Funda ukuthetha ulwimi lwakhe loLwimi
Incwadi kaGary Chapman yeeLwimi eziNhlanu zoLuthando luye lwayityhilwa ngokwenene kwiintsebenziswano ezininzi. I-Chapman yenza imeko yokuba abaninzi abantu bafumana imilayezo yothando kwelinye (okanye ngaphezulu) kwiindlela ezintlanu ezahlukeneyo. Indlela esiyifumana ngayo uthando "ulwimi lwethu lothando." Iilwimi ezintlanu zezi:
- Amazwi okuqinisekisa
- Ixesha elibalulekile
- Ukuthinteka komzimba
- Ukufumana izipho
- Imisebenzi yenkonzo
Ulwimi lwam olusisiseko lolwimi ngamagama okuqinisekiswa; Umfazi wam lixesha elimgangatho. Ngoko ukuva kuye indlela endandiyimangalisa ngayo enye into ebonisa uthando kum, kodwa olo luthando aluyisebenzeli. Ndifuna ukumnika ingqalelo engabonakaliyo kunye nento eninzi ukuze aziva uthando. Thatha ixesha lokufumanisa ulwimi oluthanda ngayo umfazi okanye iqabane lakho, uze uthethe uthando ngolwimi lwakhe lothando.
Uluhlu-Yenza Uluhlu
Ngaba unayo "u-honey-do" uluhlu lwamayela elide? Ndiyazi ukuba kunye neshedyuli yam esichukumisayo, uluhlu lwam alubonakali luphela. Ukwenza izinto eziluhlu lwayo yindlela efanelekileyo yokubonisa indlela ekhethekileyo ngayo kuwe. Ukuba ubona ukwenza izinto ezibalulekileyo kuye, uya kuziva ukuthanda nokuzinikela. Ukupenda igumbi lentsapho, ukucoca igaraji, okanye ukulandela ukuzinikela kubantwana kuya kwenza umdehluko omkhulu ngendlela avakalelwa ngayo ngawe kunye nokuba ufanelekile kuwe.
Mbize Ngefowuni
Ifowuni umnxeba phakathi kwelanga imenza azi ukuba ucinga ngaye. Cinga ukubiza ngexesha elingenangxaki, xa engalindelekanga, kwaye umxelele ukuba ucinga ngaye, ufuna ukwazi indlela yakhe yokuhamba ngayo kunye nokuthetha uthando. Kulula ukubanjwa kulo lonke ishishini lomhla, kwaye uyazi. Ngoko ukuthatha ixesha lokubiza kunye nokwenza ukuba wazi ukubaluleka kuya kwenza umehluko omkhulu kumhla wakhe.
Thumela imiyalezo ebhaliweyo
Ukuba unako ukuthetha ngokuthumela umyalezo wombhalo, cinga ukuthumela itekisi ebonisa uthando, kwaye mhlawumbi udlala ngothando. Nazi iziphakamiso ezimbalwa ukufumana iingcamango zakho zihamba malunga nento enokusebenza ngayo iqabane lakho.
- Ukuba ndiyakwazi ukulungisa kwakhona iilfabhethi, ndiza kubeka u-U kunye nami!
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- Ndandishukumisela phezulu ukuya kwinqanaba lam
Cwangcisa i-Getaway yamaRoma
Fumana umntu onoxanduva lokuthabatha abantwana - ngoko unokwenza izicwangciso ngeveki. Cwangcisa yonke into, ukhethe izinto athanda ukuzenza. Ngokomzekelo, yenza izibhengezo zokutya kunye nokufumana amathikithi omdlalo, i-movie okanye isiganeko ayeza kukunandipha. Ukugcina indawo yehotele, ukupakisha iingxowa zakhe kwaye uqinisekise ukuba ikhalenda yakhe icacile. Olunye ixesha lomgangatho kunye nezinto athanda ukuzenza yindlela ecacileyo yokwazisa indlela okhethekileyo ngayo umfazi wakho.
Yenze ibe yinyama
Uninzi lwabazali baya kufunda le nto baze bacinge ngesondo. Kodwa khumbula, amaqabane ethu afuna ukuthinteka ngeendlela ezininzi kunokuba sifuna ukuthinteka. Khawucinge ngexesha elide elingaphezulu kwentsasa okanye ubusizi obushushu okanye uhlazo oluhlala malunga nemizuzwana eyi-15. Ukuxubha umqolo, ukunqatha kwenyawo, okanye ukusilalisa iithenda kuxoxisana nehlabathi ngeemvakalelo zakho. Ukuthinteka komzimba kubalulekile ebuhlotsheni, kwaye ngelixa idla ngokukhokelela ekuthintekeni ngokwesondo, umfazi wakho uya kuthanda ukunikwa ingqalelo kunye nokuvakalelwa kokuthintelwa ngaphandle kokukhokelela kwenye into.
Phu laphula ngokupheleleyo
Ngomhlaba wethu oxakekileyo kwaye onxinzekayo apho umsebenzi uhlala uhlasela yonke imini yokuphila, kulula ukuphazamiseka ekhaya. Nangona abantwana bangabangela iziphazamiso ezinkulu kwiintetho ezinxibelelwano. Umkhwa omnye umlingane wam kwaye ndawuthatha ixesha elidlulileyo libeka eceleni 30 imizuzu nganye ukuhlwa. Akukho mvonwakude, akukho bantwana, akukho fowuni okanye ikhompyutheni, abahlobo. Ukuba nesiqingatha neyure nje kuthi sincede ngokwenene neendlela zethu zokunxibelelana kwaye ndivumela ukuba ndihlanganyele ngokupheleleyo kwingxoxo. Ukuphulaphula ngokukhawuleza, apho uphulaphule ngayo zonke iinjongo zakho ngenjongo nangemvakalelo, ngumxhasi omkhulu wothando kunye nomsa.
Ndipheke
Kukho into encane yothando kunye nento ebonisa uthando nokunyamekela xa umntu epheka umfazi wakhe. Cwangcisa phambili ngaphambi kokutya akuthandayo. Fumana iresiphi, fumana izithako, kwaye ulandele iresiphi ukuze umenzele isidlo esikhulu. Ukuncincika okuncinci njengokukwazi ukutya isidlo ayenakho ukucwangcisa okanye ukulungiselela kuhamba ixesha elide ukumvumela ukuba azi ukuba unomdla kangakanani.
Mnike Iphulo
Into enye abalingani bethu abaqhelekanga ukuya ekhaya kukuphuka. Ukususela kwixesha eliphakanyayo de kube lixesha elithintela ebhedeni, ngokuqhelekileyo lusuku olude kakhulu lunemiqathango emininzi kwixesha lakhe angayigcwalisa. Oku kuyinyani ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba ungumama wokuhlala ekhaya apho unokubulawa yindlala yokuqhagamshelana nabantu abadala.
Kwaye nabamama abasebenza ngaphandle kwekhaya bahlala behamba nabo yonke imini yabo uxanduva njengomama. Ukumnika ikhefu kwiinkxalabo zemihla kunokunyanisekisa uthando. Ubhedu obushushu kunye nomculo owufumanayo xa uhlambulula, uhamba ngexesha lokulala kunye nezingane kwaye ulungiselele izinto ngosuku olulandelayo kuya kumncedisa ukuba uyithande uthando lwakho kunye neenkxalabo zakho malunga neemfuno zakhe.
Nantoni na oyenzayo, qiniseka ukuba uhlala uqhagamshelana nendlela okhethekileyo ngayo umfazi wakho. Izinto ezincinci zizinto ezinkulu, kwaye kubalulekile ukufumanisa ukuba uyayifumana njani inxibelelwano yakho yothando kunye nokwenza ixesha lokwenza la magama amancinci avele.