Ngaba I-Society Yethu Yenza Ukulula Kubantwana Ukuba Babulale?
Ukwandisa kwiminyaka yamva nje amaMerika nabanye abantu emhlabeni jikelele baye babhekana noko kubonakala ngathi bangabulali bundu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, bobabini amaxhoba kunye nabenzi bobugebengu babantu ababulalayo. Kutheni abafundi bezikolo eziphakamileyo bebabulala abantu afunda nabo kunye nootitshala? Zithini iimeko ezinjalo malunga noluntu lwethu?
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I-website ye-APA iquka izinto eziphuhliswe kule phulo. Ukudweba kule ndawo kunye neminye imithombo ndibeke ndawonye ezinye izinto endiyakholelwa ukuba zinegalelo kwiimeko zogonyamelo.
- Ukufumaneka okulula kwezibhamu e-US - I-United States ineemithetho ye-gun e-liberal kakhulu emhlabeni. Nangona iimeko ezifana nalezi zenzeke kwamanye amazwe, kuphela eMelika izixhobo zifumaneka ngokulula.
- Ukufumaneka kolwazi kwiibhobho kwi-intanethi - I-intanethi ivumela ulwazi ukuba lufike kumagumbi ethu ahlalayo ayenzima kakhulu ukufumana. Sisoloko sikwazi ukuya kwithala leencwadi kwaye sifumane ezinye zezi zinto. Namhlanje imiqulu yayo ifumaneka kwikhaya lakho kumgca weqhosha. Ezinye izinto ze-Intanethi zichaneke ngakumbi kunanto enokuyifumana kwilayibrari.
- Ukuchithwa kweentsapho zenyukliya - Ukunyuka kwamazinga omtshato kunye nokudibanisa kweentsapho kwenza kube nzima kuba abantwana ukuba babe nemodeli emihle yokulungiswa kwemibambano. Abantwana bafunda oko bakubona, kungekhona oko bakuva.
- Ubundlobongela kumabonwakude nakwiifilimu - Zingaphi izibulala ozibonile kule veki? Ukuba ubukele ngaphezu kweeyure ezimbalwa zethelevishini mhlawumbi uzibona ezininzi. Ubundlobongela buyongezela kunye nokwandisa ukulinganisa, kodwa kubonisa iimpawu ezithandwa ngabafana abathanda ukuxelisa.
- Ukungabikho kwekhampasi yokuziphatha - Kwizizukulwana ezidlulileyo icawa kunye nesinagogi zaziyimpembelelo ebalulekileyo kubantwana nolutsha. I-Boy Scouts kunye ne-Girl Scouts babandakanyeka kwiimfundiso zokuziphatha eziphambili kwimfundiso yabo. Nangona ezi ziphumo zisekhona apha, aziyiyo inxalenye yobomi baninzi abaselula.
- Abasetyhini bajoyina amadoda emsebenzini - Ngabazali bobabini abasebenza ezininzi kwiintsapho abantwana banomlinganiselo omkhulu kakhulu wexesha elingapheliyo kunexesha elidlulileyo. Ngelixa abantwana abaninzi be-latchkey bengakheli ibhobho, ukunciphisa ukubandakanyeka kwabazali kunye nokuvavanya yinto enye evumela ukuba izinto ezinjengalezi zenzeke.
- Ukuphuka kwamakhelwane kunye noluntu - Xa ndakhula sazi phantse wonke umntu kwisitalato sethu. Kwabonakala ngathi kuninzi ixesha lokuzilibazisa kunye noluntu. Namhlanje ndiyazi abanye bam bamelwane, kwaye ndiyatshintsha kwabanye ukuba andiyazi. Emva koko ndibuyela ekhaya kunye nedidi ukuze ndiphumle ndize ndikhulule. Abaselula abaziva bexhunyaniswe nabanye kuluntu lwabo abanamathuba amaninzi okwenza umsindo wabo kwiindlela eziwonakalisayo.
- Ukuthambekela kwemvelo kwentsha ukwenza amaqela kunye neefowuni - Uninzi lwethu ukhumbule umyalelo wokukhupha esikolweni esiphakeme, kunye neColumbine High School izandile. Ama-jocks ayewuthandwa ngenxa yokudumisa kwabo kwimibala, kwaye abanye abafundi baxutywa ngokuba bephezu. Intsha "yokukhutshwa" yosuku lwam yayiyi-nerds kwi-club ye-audiovisual club kunye nabafundi ababegqoke imoto kwaye benza iziyobisi. Kwakukho ukungqubuzana ngokobuhlanga esikolweni sam esiphakamileyo, kodwa ukungqubana phakathi kwamaqela ahlukeneyo kwakungabonakali kubudlova. Xa kwakunzima ukukhangela izixhobo zokuzikhethela.
- Ukuvukela kwentsha ephilileyo kuphuma esandleni - Enye yemisebenzi yophuhliso yonyaka okhulayo kukuba ngumntu wakho, ngokunye ngokuvukela abazali bakho. Njengomzali, kunzima ukukwazi ukuba le mvukelo iyinto evamile kwaye xa ithe yavela ngaphandle. Gcina imizila yoqhagamshelwano evulekile kunye nentombazana yakho. Cinga ngonyango lwentsapho ukuba unxibelelwano luyeka ngokupheleleyo ngeli xesha.
Yintoni enokuyenza? Kucacile ukuba ezinye zezi zinto zilula ukuchaphazela abanye. Uninzi lweentsapho ezinemali emibili zifuna zombini wale mivuzo. Iintsholongwane ziya kuhlala ziqulunqa ii-cliques kwaye ziya kuhlala zivukela.
Enye yezona zinto zibaluleke kakhulu ukuba wena, njengomzali, unokukwenza ukuthetha nentombazana yakho. Gwema ukuqeqeshwa, kwaye qiniseka ukuphulaphula okungenani njengoko uthethayo. Abantwana abaselula kufuneka bakhuthazwe ukuba bathathe inxaxheba kwimibutho ejolise ekuphuhliseni umuvo wokulungileyo nokungalunganga. Gwema ukushiya abantwana okanye abasebancinini abangagcinwanga ixesha elide kwixesha. Ukujongana nokufikelela kwabo kwi-intanethi kwaye baqhubeke bebandakanya kwimisebenzi yentsapho kunye neentsapho zeholide.
Ezinye izisombululo zingathatha ngaphezu kwabazali nje. Iimimandla zinokunyusa iminikelo yazo yokuzonwabisa. Izakhiwo zesikolo ezingenanto zingasetyenziselwa ukubonelela ngezeveko kunye neveki zeveki. Iicawa ziyakwazi ukucinga kwakhona iinkqubo zabo zolutsha kwaye zinikeze imisebenzi enomdla kwaye inentsingiselo kubaselula.