Iikhowudi ezili-12 ze-AA ne-Al-Anon
Ngokungazicwangcisi kakuhle, amaqela angama-12 agxininisa ugxininiso lwenyaniso kunye nokugxila kwiinjongo zabo eziphambili.
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Amaqela ethu akufanele alungelelaniswe; kodwa singakha iibhodi zeenkonzo okanye iikomiti ngokujongene ngqo nalabo abakhonzayo.
Kwiindawo zoshishino zehlabathi kunye namanye amaqela "ahlelwe." Kukho ulawulo lolawulo olusungulwe ukuze amanye amalungu enhlangano anikwe igunya "lokuqondisa" izenzo zabanye.
Kodwa, kumaqela amanyathelo alishumi elinambini, akukho mntu unalo hlobo lolawulo. Amaqela "ulwalamano lwabalinganayo." Izigqibo zenziwa yiqela ngokubanzi kwaye kungekhona enye okanye ngamalungu ambalwa.
Ngokudala nokugcina le meko "yobudlelwane bokwenyaniso" amaqela amanyathelo angama-12 aqinisekisa ukuba nawa malungu amatsha angakwazi ukufumana ngokukhawuleza ukuvakalelwa "kowabo."
Ukuba akukho mntu uphethe igunya, izigqibo "ezilawulayo" zenziwe njani? Iinqunto zenziwa yiqela ngokubanzi kwizinto ezibizwa ngokuba yivoti yesazela.
Naliphi ilungu leqela lingacela ukuba "intlanganiso yezoshishino" ibanjwe, ihluke kwixesha lokuhlangana rhoqo leqela, ukuba ingxoxo nayiphi na into echaphazela iqela lilonke.
Emva kwengxoxo malunga nombandela, ngexesha lawo onke amalungu anethuba lokuveza izimvo zabo, iqela livoti malunga nombandela kwaye ivoti ininzi ithatha umbuzo.
Ngale ndlela, iqela ligcina ubumbano ngokunika umoya apho onke amazwi evezwayo-ukusuka kwixesha elide elide kumntu ozayo-kwaye wonke umntu unelungelo elilinganayo kwaye uvote.
Kodwa, kungabikho ukulungelelanisa kunamanye amacebo kwiqela, njengoko iindwendwe eziya kule ndawo ziboniswe kwibhodi yeengxelo:
Uxanduva Lwabo Sisebenzelayo
Kwandithatha inyanga ezi-3 ukuze ndihlaziye ngokupheleleyo. Kuzo zonke iindidi endiya kuziya kuzo, andazi ukuba ngubani na wezinye iinkokheli ezisekho. Xa siqala ukwabelana sonke silingana, akukho mntu uyingcali, kwaye unomuvo wokulingana.
Ndiqinisekile ukuba ekugqibeleni ndiya kufumana ukuba ngubani uMmeli weqela kwaye ngubani ogcina i-checkbook, kodwa ngeentsuku ezingama-19 kuphela ezinokubakho ukufikelela kwaye sele esetyenzisile malunga neenombolo zeefowuni ezingama-20 (akukho mntu uhlala ekhaya) ugcine ukusela. Lowo owayefanele ukuba khona kwakukho.
Kubantu eluhlu lwam andinakuzicingela engqondweni yam, kodwa ndiyazi ukuba babekhona ukubiza ngenxa yokuba bafaka igama labo xa ndithumela apho ndihlala khona apho. Ndinezimbini, zizele ngamagama, kwaye enye inenombolo enye kuphela kuyo. Emva kokusebenzisa iibini zokuqala, inombolo enye apho kwaye nini ekhaya! Ubonakala njengomzekelo obalaseleyo "Uxanduva kulabo esibakhonzayo" nje ukukwazi ukubeka amagama abo eluhlu lwasanda kufika!
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Gxi ninisa kwiNkonzo
Umntu obaluleke kakhulu ohamba kwiqela lezoNxila ezingabonakaliyo , nguye ozayo, ngaphandle kwakhe siza kufa ngokuzimeleyo kwaye ngokubanzi. Ukuba sizama ukumququzelela, uya kubaleka, emva koko, ubomi bakhe sele busobala.
Ngako-ke singamenza njani ukuba abe ngu-AA oza kuba noxanduva lokufikelela kwiindawo ezinxilisayo ?
Xa ndiqala ukungena kumagumbi ase-AA ngaphezu kweminyaka eyi-18 eyadlulayo, Kwakungumsila womsila wezinto ezaziqhelekileyo, kwaye unokuthetha kuphela kwindawo enkulu yeLong Island, i-NY, apho sasibe neekomiti ezihambayo.
IiKomiti eziLawulayo apho ixesha elidala kwiqela elingazange lizibophezele ngokusemthethweni, njengomenzi wekhofi, usihlalo, unobhala, unobhala, njl. Belizwi eliphethe umyalezo ngeliva, amandla kunye nethemba , ukunceda iqela lihlale ligxininise kwimigaqo kunye nezithethe kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo.
Baya kukwabelana ngolwazi lwabo kwintlanganiso, intlanganiso yezoshishino okanye ngamanye amaxesha ukuvumela umntu ukuba kutheni ukuba izithethe zibaluleke kakhulu, kwaye ukuba zingalandeli, zingalimaza okanye ziphinda zibuyiselwe.
Iminyaka yamava e-AA kwalabo abaqhubeka bebuya apho ixabiso lento esebenzayo kwi-AA kwaye ayithini - yonke loo minyaka ukubona izinto zibonakaliswe ngokuphindaphindiweyo.
Ukuba zonke ixesha elidala liye lashiya kwaye iqela lisesengxakini, i-GSO iya kuthumela i-GSR ukunceda ukulungiswa kweqela.
Namhlanje kukho ezininzi, amaqela amaninzi kwindawo yam apho amaxesha amadala asele. Akhokho iikomiti zolawulo. Amalungu amatsha athatha izibophelelo ngokukhawuleza, njengomntu oneminyaka engaphantsi konyaka abe ngummeli weqela kunye nokuphuma nokusela ngaphambi kokuba abe neminyaka emibili, ngenxa yokuba bangene ngqo kwezopolitiko ze-AA kunokuba bafumane ukubuyiswa komntu kwaye bengenaso isiseko.
Uninzi lwabantu kule ndawo alukwazi ukuba i-GSR iza kuphuma kwaye ilungise ukulungiswa kweqela. Akukho baninzi abazimisele ukukhokela intlanganiso yenkcubeko kunye nabaninzi abafuna ukuya khona. Ubulungu bexesha elidala liye lancipha ngakumbi nangendlela yokucinga: Ndiyinto engacacanga ngayo, ndenze yonke imisebenzi sele ndiyenzile onke amanyathelo am, ndifuna kuphela 1 okanye 2 iintlanganiso ngeveki (ngamanye amaxesha uva inyanga), Ndilungile, andifuni ukuhamba, III Ewe! Uphi thina ?
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