Umtshato onempilo kunye okhuthazayo yinto yonke imibhangqwana kufuneka ilwele ukugcina, kungakhathaliseki ubudala okanye iminyaka esatshatileyo. Ulwalamano oluphezulu luvame ukunyangwa ngabanye, kodwa ngokugqithiseleyo, uya kuthintela imisebenzi engaphelelanga yobomi bemihla ngemihla ekuthintela ulonwabo lwexesha elide. Nangona kunjalo, bobabini abatshatileyo kufuneka benze umgudu wokuzikhusela umtshato ukuba uhambe.
Ngethuba lesigaba se-honeymoon (apho, ngendlela, ihlala ngaphantsi konyaka), iibinibini zijolise kakhulu kwiinkalo zabo ezibalulekileyo. Abazange bacinge ixesha apho kukho enye into engayilondoloza ngayo ingqalelo. Amadoda nabasetyhini banamandla amaninzi kunye nokuzithengisa ngexesha le "xesha lokuxubusha".
Ngoku, khawuleza uhambe iminyaka embalwa: abatshatileyo banomsebenzi, intsapho ikhulile enye okanye ngaphezulu abantwana, kwaye i-basketball yokuhlamba ikhulile-ingabi yintando.
Ungayigcina njani loo Mvalelo ye-Surreal entsha?
Kulungile. . . kuqala ngokuqaphela ukuba umtshato wakho ufanelwe ukuzibophezela okwenzileyo xa uthe, "Ndiya kwenza." Kwakhona, zonke iingcamango zobuwula kufuneka zihlulwe. Kuphela kwiifilimu nakwiimveli zothando, amadoda kunye nabasetyhini banxibelelana ngaphandle kokuthetha, okanye banomdla ongathandabuzekiyo ngaphandle kokucinga okanye ukucwangcisa. Ngokuchasene nenkolelo esithandwayo, uthando luthatha i-effor t.
Ngenhlanhla, kukho iindlela ezininzi ezilula zokugcina umtshato uhlala emtshatweni wakho kwaye ubonise uthando lwakho oluqhubekayo lomlingane wakho.
Izenzo ezilula eziza kukhanyisa umtshato wakho
1. Isidlo esikhethekileyo
Yenza ukubhuka kwindawo yokutyela yabo oyintandokazi ngaphandle kweso siganeko. Uba ngumqhubi okhethiweyo kwaye ubavumele ukuba banandiphe iziphuzo ezimbalwa. Okanye, ukuba imali yomelele, cwangcisa ipikiniki okanye isidlo esikhethekileyo ekhaya kunye ne-flavorful-kodwa ibhotile yentengo yewayini.
2. Ubusuku boBomi
Thatha iqabane lakho kwi-movie yeshashalazi kwaye uvumele ukuba bavuyiswe kumboniso wokukhetha kwabo. Awunakuyithandabuza amabali abathandayo okanye amafilimu amanyathelo, kodwa umtshato ulungelelanisa. Kwakhona, ukuba imali iqinile, qeshisa i-movie uze wenze isitya esikhulu se-popcorn. Iphuzu kukukwenza ukuba iqabane lakho liziva lilungile.
3. Iveki kuphela
Ukuba unabantwana, yenza izicwangciso zokuhlala kunye nezihlobo zeveki. Sebenzisa yakho ingcinga. Sebenzisa imali yokuthatha i-weekend yokuthatha i-gymnastics kunye nokuqhuba i-gymnastics yokulala, yenza i-reservation kwibhedi ekhethekileyo kunye nesidlo sasekuseni phakathi nendawo apho, okanye uthathe uhambo lwe-skiing ukuya ezintabeni-nangona ungasabi.
4. Ukuxhamla ngamnye
Enye yezinto ezintle zobomi obutsha okanye osandul 'ukutshata yinto eqhubekayo yokumangalisa kunye novelwano. Ngeli nqanaba, uyazi kakhulu malunga neqabane lakho, kwaye kuthatha ixesha elimangalisayo. Kodwa kutheni ungacingi indlela yokubamba iqabane lakho ngokuqinisekileyo (ngendlela efanelekileyo). Ngokomzekelo, ngaba abantwana bahamba xa iqabane lakho libuya ekhaya lisuka emsebenzini ukuze libe nesidlo sakusondeza kunye nokugqiba izinto ngaphakathi kwigumbi lokulala? Ngakuphi ixesha lokugqibela owagqoka i-lingerie, wamshiya inqaku lokuthanda okanye wamthuma iindidi zeentyantyambo ngaphandle kwesizathu?
Ixesha lokufumana ubugcisa.
5. Khangela kwiiNdala zeMifanekiso
Hlalani kunye kunye nokuhamba kwiifoto ezindala okanye i-albhamu. Ukukhumbuza ngeemvakalelo zakho. Cinga ngembali yakho kunye neendawo oye wahlala kunye ngazo. Yabelana ngokuhleka kwaye mhlawumbi ukhale nezinye iinyembezi.
6. Yenza
I-Flashback ukuya kwi-teenager okanye xa uqala ukudibana. Yenza nje ukuzonwabisa. Ukuba kukhokelela kuloo nto inkulu. Kodwa i ngongoma ukwenza into emnandi kwaye eyahlukileyo eya kuthi i-dopamine igele kwakhona.
7. Yenza into eyahlukileyo
Thatha inyathelo, njengokuba wenzayo xa ubuhlobo, ukucwangcisa umhla wokuzonwabisa okanye umsebenzi omtsha.
Musa ukwenza nantoni na odla ngayo. Ixesha lokufumana ubugcisa. Mhlawumbi umboniso wemyuziyam, umboniso wezobugcisa, igumbi lokuphunyuka, okanye intetho enomxholo othakazelisayo? Sondela kumlingane wakho xa ujonga apho uthabatha khona.
Phawula ukuba zonke ezi ngcamango ziyafana: zicinga kunye nokucwangcisa.
Akukho nto ikhupha umtshato wakho njengokuthandana. Ngoko ubonise iqabane lakho ozibophezele ukugcina ubudlelwane obuhle . Kungakhathaliseki ukuba isipho esithile (iilerie, iintyatyambo, izixhobo zamandla, njl.) Okanye inqaku elifakwe kwisikhwama, qhubeka wenza umzamo. Kutheni ungabi nomona ngabo bonke abahlobo bakho. Okubaluleke ngakumbi, bonise abantwana bakho indlela abazali abaphilileyo, abanothando nabenza ngayo. Ekugqibeleni, wonke umntu uya kuxhamla kumtshato wakho ocolileyo.