Ukuzinakekela kubalulekile kunoma yimuphi umzali
Ukukhulisa umntwana, nokuba phantsi kweemeko ezintle, kunokuba ngumngeni. Kodwa ukuba unentsholongwane ekhuselekileyo ezandleni zakho, ubuntwaba bunokuba buhlungu.
Enoba ujongene nokuphulwa kwexesha lokungena kwexesha kunye nokuxhomekeka, okanye ukhathazeke ngeengxaki zokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi kunye nemiba yomthetho, ukukhathazeka ngentsholongwane ekhuselekileyo kunokukugcina ebusuku. Kwaye unokhathala ukujongana neengxaki zokuziphatha, ukuguquka kwemizwelo, ukuqhuma komsindo, okanye ukuziphatha okuyimfihlo.
Abazali abanentshutshiso abanentshutshiso kufuneka bafunde iindlela zokwenza iimfuno zabo zentsholongwane kunye neemfuno zabo. Abazali abaphelelwe ngumzimba kufuneka bafumane iindlela zokuzizalisa, ezihlala ziwela endleleni xa zizama ukujongana nomntwana osemngciphekweni.
Ukuba ufuna ukukwazi ukwenza okusemandleni akho, kubalulekile ukuzinyamekela. Ukuhlawula iibhetri zakho kuya kuqinisekisa ukuba uxhotyiswe ukujongana nentsha.
Mkele ngaphandle kobuGwenxa
Yivume ukuba usuke uphelelwe yindlela ekujonganeni ngayo neengxaki zakho. Musa ukuziva unetyala, kwaye ungazibetha.
Kuqhelekile, ungumntu, kwaye ukujongana naluphi na umntu onzima kunzima. Xa ubomi obunzima bendlu yakho buxhomekeke kuwe, kudla ngakumbi.
Yivume komnye umntu. Ingaba ungumhlobo, ilungu lentsapho okanye uphando, ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho kunokunceda. Kwaye ukuva umbono ongaphandle kungakunceda ubone into oyiphumeleyo ekubeni usondele kakhulu kwingxaki.
Ixesha leShedyuli lokuzinakekela
Qinisekisa ukuba uludwe lwenu luquka ukuzinyamekela. Yenza ixesha lokuya kwiinkonzo zakho zezokwelapha kwaye unakekele impilo yakho.
Qinisekisa ukuba uceba ixesha lokuzonwabisa. Ingaba uthatha inkomishi yekhofi nomhlobo okanye ubhalisele kwiklasi othanda ukuyithatha, wabeka ixesha elithile ngezinto othanda ukuzenza.
Kulula ukuzibeka ngokugqibela. Kodwa, ukuzinakekela kuyindawo ebalulekileyo yokukhathalela abanye. Ngoko cwangcisa ixesha elincinci kuwe yonke imihla uze udwebe ixesha elide lokuzibandakanya kwimisebenzi enandiphayo ubuncinane ngamaxesha ambalwa ngenyanga.
Fumana inkxaso
Zama ukufumana abanye abazali kwiimeko ezifanayo ukuthetha nabo. Cinga ngokuya kwiqela elixhasa umntu okanye kwi-intanethi.
Amacandelo enkxaso anomlando omdala wokubonelela kunye noluntu lwabantu abajongene nemiba efanayo. Amaqela omxhaso wabazali ayenzelwe ukutshintshisisa ulwazi, ukunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye nokufumana iindlela zokuhlangabezana nazo.
Kufana nokuqeqesha, ukuxhaswa, ukufundiswa nokunyamekelwa ngabanye abazali kwinqanawa efanayo. Abanye abazali abakhulisa abantwana abanomdla baya kuqonda uxinzelelo ovakalelwa ngayo kwaye ukuthetha nabo kunokunceda kakhulu.
Yenza iZakhono Zengqondo
Kungakufumana ukuzama ukuvuselela zonke izinto ezenzekile ngezolo okanye ukukhathazeka ngazo zonke izinto ezingahambi kakuhle kusasa. Kodwa ukuxhalabisa akuyi kunceda.
Funda izakhono zokucinga ukuze ube khona apha-kwaye-ngoku. Izakhono zobulumko zingathulisa ingqondo yakho kwaye kukuncede ufumane ukuzinza, nokuba phakathi kweengxabano.
Ukunyamekela Umzimba Wakho
Mhlawumbi umsebenzi wokugqibela uyicinga xa usuke udiniwe kodwa ukunyakaza umzimba wakho kukhuthaza.
Kwakhona kugcina uphilile kwaye kuya kukunceda ucinge ngokucacileyo.
Ngoko hamba ukuhamba rhoqo, uphakamise izisindo, okanye ubhalisele kwiklasi. Ukunyamekela impilo yakho yempilo kuya kukunceda ukuphatha kakuhle impilo yakho yengqondo.
Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa ukuba ulala ngokwaneleyo. Ukuhlala ixesha elide kwaye ugijime phantsi kuya kubandakanya kuphela imiba yakho.
Funa UluNcedo lwezakhono
Unganqikazi ukuthetha neengcali zempilo yengqondo. Ukuthetha nomathambo kunokukunceda ufumane amaqhinga okulungisa kunye nolawulo loxinzelelo.
Uya kuba ngumzekelo omhle kwintombazana yakho xa ubonisa ukuba uyakuxabisa ukuzinyamekela kunye nempilo yakho yengqondo.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba unokuzuza xa uthetha kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo, khuluma nodokotela wakho.
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