Ukuba ngumlingane onokwethenjelwa kwaye uthembekileyo kubalulekile ekuphumeleleni umtshato
Ukuthembeka ngenye yeempawu eziphambili abantu abajonge kumlingane, kwaye kufanele ukuba. Ukuba omnye, okanye obabini abanako ukuxhomekeka komnye nomnye, ukufaneleka komtshato kuphazamiseka.
Xa wenza isithembiso kumlingane wakho okanye uthi uya kwenza into ethile kumlingane wakho okanye kwintsapho kwaye ke awuyigcini igama lakho, uvumela umlingane wakho ukuba ahlasele kwaye umonakalise umtshato wakho.
Ukugcina ilizwi lakho nokulandela izithembiso zakho kunceda ukuqinisa ithemba lokuba lakho iqabane lihlala kuwe. Ukungagcini ilizwi lakho lixelela lakho iqabane ukuba awukhathaleli nje. Ukuba unokwenza iqabane lakho live lithandwa okanye lingabalulekanga.
"Ukuxhasana," okanye ukukwazi ukuxhomekeka komnye nomnye, inxalenye yento eyenza umtshato okhethekileyo. Abanye abantu banciphisa intswelo yabo kwabanye. Oku kudla ngokuba yimiphumo yamava ebuntwaneni apho kwakungekho mkhokeli othembekileyo okhoyo. Ngoko, aba bantu bafunda ukuzinyamekela kwaye bangafikeli abanye ukuze bancede okanye baxhomekeke kuyo. Enye inokwenzeka kukuba umntu wakhuliswa kwindlu egcwele ingxabano. Kwakungekho nhlobo kunye nomzekelo ompofu womtshato oqolileyo.
Indlela Yokugcina ILizwi Lakho okanye Ukulandela Ngezithembiso
- Ungatsho ukuba uza kwenza into ukuba awukwazi ukwenza. Yiba phambili kwaye uthembeke.
- Musa ukuthi "Andizange ndizimisele ku- _____ (ukulibala / kukulimaza / ungenzi nto, njl.).
- Ukuba uqaphela ukuba awukwazi ukugcina isithembiso sakho, uthembeke kwaye uthe njalo. Kubalulekile ukuba uye phambili phambi kwesizathu sokuba awukwazi ukugcina igama lakho.
- Ukuba utshintshe ingqondo yakho kwaye ungafuni ukugcina isithembiso sakho, kufuneka uyanyanisekile kunye neqabane lakho malunga nokuba kutheni unokwenza isithembiso kuqala kwaye kutheni ungeke ulandele ngoku.
- Ukuba uthe waqhekeza isithembiso kuba udla ukulibala, cinga ukusebenzisa ezinye iindlela eziphezulu zokukhumbuza izinto othe uzakwenza. Unokufumana izilumkiso ze-imeyile, izikhumbuzi ezikhuphayo kwiprogram yakho yekhalenda kwikhompyutheni yakho, kwaye ufumane imiyalezo okanye isikhumbuzo sezwi kwifowuni yakho.
- Unako ukunika umlingane wakho imvume yokukukhumbuza, ngokunjalo, ngokuqonda ukuba awuyi kuqwalasela isikhumbuzo sokuba uxoxe.
- Cinga ngeendlela ezivakalelwa ngayo xa umntu engangeni ngenxa yakho okanye ugcine isithembiso sakhe. Zibeke kwizicathulo zakho zomtshato.
- Hlola kwaye uqonde izizathu zokuba ungagcini igama lakho. Ngaba ufuna enye ingcebiso ukuze usebenze ngxaki ethile yobuntwana? Ngaba udinga unyango lwe- ADD okanye enye inkxalabo yezempilo yengqondo? Ngaba kukho enye ingxaki emtshatweni wakho kwaye unomdla-onobudlova?
Kungakhathaliseki isizathu, kubalulekile ukuba bobabini bomtshato bakwazi ukuxhomekeka. Bobabini abatshatileyo kufuneka balandele izithembiso zabo kwaye bangabikho rhoqo okanye bakhunjuzwe ukuba benze njalo. Ukungagcini igama lakho kuyonakalisa umtshato wakho kwaye ushiye umngcipheko wokuqhawula umtshato.
* I-Article ihlaziywe nguMarni Feuerman