Ngubani "u-Ed" Nokuba kunjalo?
Ukugqithiselwa kwangaphandle kwesifo sokutya kuyindlela yokwelapha ephakamileyo kwincwadi ethi Life Without Ed , nguJenni Schaefer kunye noT Thom Rutledge. Ekubuyiseni kwakhe, okufingqiweyo kwincwadi, uJenni Schaefer wenziwe ngumntu ngokukhathazeka kokutya njengokuba "Ed," isithandwa sinobudlova. Njengoko uJenni ecacisa kwiwebhusayithi yakhe, "Ngokucinga ngengxaki yakhe yokutya njengobuntu obuhlukile kuye, [waye] nako ukuhlukana no-Ed kanye nento yonke." Kwincwadi ethi yena kunye noT Thom (umculi wakhe) bachaza iintlobo ezahlukahlukeneyo azisebenzisayo, kuquka ukuthetha emva kwesifo sokutya kunye nokudala "umyalelo wokuqhawula umtshato." Kwi-Academy for Disorders Disorders (AED) tweetchat (2014) ngesihloko, uJenni Schaefer uthi, "U-Ed wayengatsho nantoni na ayifunayo.
Ukuze ndibuyiselwe, kwafuneka ndenze isigqibo sokuba ndingavumelani kwaye ndingamthobeli. "
Isicwangciso ngokwaso, ekubhekiswe kuso ngokuthi "ukugqithisa" ingxaki yokutya, kubangelwa unyango olulandelayo. Inkalo ebalulekileyo yonyango oluchazayo kukuba umntu akayiyo ingxaki - kunoko, ingxaki ingxaki . Umntu usebudlelwaneni kunye nengxaki. Ngokusebenzisa ngaphandle, ingxaki ibonwa njengento echaphazela umntu kunokuba ibe yinxalenye yomntu.
Unyango olusekelwe kwintsapho (FBT), unyango olusisekelwe kubungqina bentsholongwane yokutya, luboleka inkqubo yokugqithisa ingxaki yokutya evela kwindlela yokwelapha. Kwi-FBT, oogqirha basebenza ukuhlula umntwana osemva kwisifo sokutya. Ngokubonisana nentsapho, basebenzisa isalathisi ukupenda umfanekiso wesandla sangaphandle ngokungena kumntwana kunye nokugxotha ingqondo yakhe. Kuqhelekileyo ukunika igama kwisifo esinjenge "monster" okanye "iVoldemort" kwaye ukhuthaze abazali ukuba bahlangane ukuze bancede abantwana babo bancede ukulwa nesifo sokutya.
Kwizigulane ezininzi kunye namalungu omndeni, ukugqithisa ukugula kungenangqiqo kuba umntu ubonakala "ngumntu ohlukileyo" phantsi kwefuthe lokugula kwesifo. Ukugqithiswa kwangaphandle kubonisa imeko: kunokuba uthi isigulane sifuna ukuwuthintela ukutya, sitsho ukuba ukuphazamiseka kwesifo ngumgunyathi owenza ukuba benze oku.
Nangona i-externalization iye yafumana ukuthandwa, uphando alukwazi ukuphendula ngokucacileyo nokuba luyindlela efanelekileyo. Sinobubungqina bokusebenza kwe-FBT, apho ukuphuma ngaphandle kuyinkalo ebalulekileyo, kodwa i-FBT ifaka izinto ezininzi kangangokuba sonke esiyaziyo i-FBT sinokusebenza ngaphandle kwayo. Siya kufuna iimfuno zokuqhawula (izifundo ezijonga kwicandelo ngalinye lonyango olupheleleyo) ukuchonga umrhumo wokuphuma ngaphandle kwiphumo lokufumana unyango; oku kukuphambili kophando oluphambili.
Iingeniso ezinokwenzeka zokugqithisa ingxaki yokutya:
- Inika isalathiso esilungileyo nesilula, "Ukukhathazeka kwesidlo kunakho wena / wakho umntwana."
- Kungaba luncedo ekuhlukaniseni izigulane ezisuka kwiimpawu ezinjenge-egosyntonic (intsingiselo engabakhathazekiyo kubo).
- Inokukunceda ukuvuselela isigulane ukulwa nesifo sokutya ngokukubona njengento ehlukileyo kwaye ingabonakali.
- Inokunceda iintsapho kunye nabanonophelo baqondise umsindo wabo kwisifo sokutya kwaye, ngenxa yoko, bagcine uvelwano ngomntu ogulayo.
- Inokubeka wonke umntu kwiqela elifanayo alwa notshaba oluqhelekileyo (ingxaki yokutya).
- Inokukunceda isigulane siphendule ngokuzifumanisa kwakhe ngokufunda ukungavumelani nokungahloneli uEd.
Iingxaki ezingenzekayo zokugqithisa ingxaki yokutya:
- Ezinye iingcali zixhalabisa ukuba:
- Ukunika i-disorder disorder yayo i-persona inikeza ingxaki yokutya ngamandla amaninzi.
- Ingavumela isiguli ukuba sityhale ingxaki yokutya kwaye singathathi uxanduva lokubuyisela kwabo.
- Ukugqithiselwa kwangaphandle kungaqinisa ukucinga kunye nokungenakunceda kwisigulane.
- Oku kulungiswa kungabonakala kucinga ukuba "ukunyaniseka" kwaye kukhulula isigulane soxanduva lonke.
- Izigulane zi no:
- Andiyithandi imbono yokuhlukanisa ingxaki yokutya njengoko ivakalelwa njengenxalenye yabo.
- Fumana olu buchule lugxeke okanye lungasebenzi kumava abo.
- Khawucaphuke xa amalungu abo entsapho ekhupha ingxaki yokutya.
- Ekubeni ezininzi zeziganeko zezigulane ezineengxaki zokutya ngokwenene zizinto zobuntu ezingekho kwaye zizingxaki zabo, kukho umngcipheko wokudemonza isigulane
- Abanye abantu bafumana ukuphuma kwangaphandle - oko kukuthi kuphela isimboli - nayo (ngenxa yokungabikho kwegama elingcono) "i-cutesy" kwaye ikhutshwe njengesiphumo.
Ngoko, ngaba uyenzayo?
Oogqirha kunye namalungu entsapho abafuna ukusebenzisa ukusebenzisa ngaphandle baya kuzuza ngokuqwalasela ingozi kunye neenzuzo zokusebenzisa esi sicwangciso. Ukuba ungumntu onokubuyisela kwaye esi sifanekiso siyanengqiqo kuwe, unokufunda okungakumbi malunga nobuchule ngokufunda Ubomi obungenaye Ed . Ukuba ulilungu lentsapho lomntu ekuphumeni kunye / okanye umzali owenza i-FBT, kunokukunceda ukuqwalasela oku njengesiqili sokuthetha ngesifo sokutya kunye nomthandayo. Ubomi obungenabo Ed bubonelelo oluhle kubazali kunye nakwiminyaka eselula yolutsha. Ukusetyenziswa ngokusekelwe kule nkqubo kungaphinda kufumaneke apha .
Ukuba uyamxhasa umntu ekuphumeni kwaye engathandi ukuthetha ngengxaki yokutya njengamandla angaphandle, unokusisebenzisa ngokwakho ukuqonda kwakho ngelixa unciphisa ukuthetha ngawo phambi komthandayo.
Iinkqubo ezifanayo kodwa ezinye iindlela zokuphuma ngaphandle ziquka ezi zilandelayo. Unokuphulaphula isigulane uze usebenzise amagama abo ukubhekisela kwingxaki yokutya. Isicwangciso esithile esisetyenzisiweyo sisidlo somngcipheko uCarolyn Costin, MA, MED, MFT ukucinga ngesigulane njengento eneempawu ezimbini, "ukuziguqula impilo." Enye inketho eyenziwa yintlungu yokutya umphandi uKelly Vitousek, i-PHD kukushiya isalathiso ngokupheleleyo kwaye ichaze ezi ziphatho kwisigulane njengeempawu zendlala . Naliphi na le ndlela iyakwazi ukugqamisa ngokufanayo isigulane sakhe nesimo sakhe sengqondo malunga nokubuyiselwa.
Ekugqibeleni, kubalulekile ukugxininisa ukuba, kungakhathaliseki ukuba indlela yokutya yokugula idibeneyo, ukuguquka kokuziphatha kubaluleke kakhulu ukubuyisela. Uninzi lweempawu kunye neengozi zengxaki yokutya zingangqinelana nokulahleka kwesondlo kwaye ezi zimpawu ziphuculwe ngokutya okufanelekileyo kunye nokuqheleka kokuziphatha kokutya . Ulawulo lwezonyango luvame ukucetyiswa ukulawula ukuphulukana kwimeko yokutya.
Iingxelo:
I-Academy yokutya okuphazamisayo isishwankathelo se-tweetchat (2014)
I-Hangout ye-National Eating Disorders Association ye-Google (Februwari 18, 2014)
Ramey, Heather H., Tarulli, Donato, Fritters, uJan C., noFis, uLianne (2009). Uhlalutyo olulinganisiweyo lokuPhumela ngaphandle kweNtsholongwane yoLwazi kunye nabantwana. Ulwaphulo lweNtsapho lwangoku .
Schaefer, J. & Rutledge, T. (2004). Ubomi obungenabo Ed: Indlela omnye umfazi owazisa ngayo ukuzimela kwi-Disaster's Eating Disorder kunye nendlela onokuyenza ngayo.
Vitousek, Kelly (2005). Inkcazo yeeNgxoxo: Ukunika izigulane ezivela kwi-"Anorexic Self": Ukugqithisa kunye nezicwangciso ezihambelanayo, iNkomfa yeZizwe eziManyeneyo kwiNgxaki yokutya kweLondon, ngo-Ephreli 6, 2005.