Kwabo ababuhlungu ukulahleka, iieholide zingaba nzima kakhulu. Ukuqokelela kunye nabahlobo kunye nosapho kuphela kugxininisa ukungabikho komntu othandekayo ofileyo. Nangona kunjalo, kukho ezinye izinto onokuzenza ukuze ubancedise ngeli xesha elinzima.
Ukuqonda Intlungu
Isinyathelo sokuqala sokuthuthuzela umntu omthandayo kukuqonda oko bahambayo.
Intlungu yinkqubo eyenziwe ngamanqanaba amahlanu ahlukeneyo. Ezi zigaba zingenzeka ngaphambi okanye emva kokufa kwaye ziya kusebenza kumntu ofa kunye nalabo abathandayo. Bonke abantu bahlukile kwiinkqubo zabo zokulila, kodwa le yindlela eqhelekileyo:
- Ukulahlwa kunye nokuxhaswa kwabantu - Umntu kweli nqanaba uthetha ngexesha elizayo, ugweme ukuthetha ngesifo, ugxeke ugqirha ngenxa yokugula, uthi iziphumo zokuvavanya ziphosakeleyo, kwaye unokuphepha iintsapho kunye nabahlobo abafuna ukuthetha ngale miba.
- Intukuthelo - Eli nqanaba livela xa umntu ehambelana nento yokuba abo okanye othandekayo bafa ngokwenene. Lo mntu uqala ukubuza "Kutheni na?". Bangazibuza iinkolelo zonqulo. Basenokumangalela amalungu entsapho okanye abahlobo beengqondo ezingakhathaliyo.
- Ukuxoxisana - Ngeli nqanaba, umntu uye wavuma yonke ingqumbo kwaye ngoku uzama ukusebenzisana noThixo ukuba ukuba atshintshe ubomi bawo okanye azalise esinye isithembiso aza kuvunyelwa ukuba aphile okanye aphile ixesha elide ukugqiba umsebenzi othile.
- Ukudandatheka - Ngeli nqanaba, umntu uyaqonda ukuba ukufa kuya kuphepheka. Ukuba umntu sele sele esele efile, yilapho kubonakala ukuba ukufa kwaqala ukucwina kubathandekayo. Kukho ezimbini iintlobo zokudakumba ezinokuthi zenzeke ngeli nqanaba. Ukudandatheka kunokubangelwa utshintsho lweemeko (imali, inxaxheba yentsapho, ukutshatana, ukuzimela) okanye kunokuthi ngenxa yelahleko ngokwayo. Eli nqanaba libizwa ngokuba yi-Holiday Blues xa kwenzeka ngeeholide.
- Ukwamukelwa - Kuba umntu ofa, oku kuya kuboniswa njengokunciphisa inzala kwiziganeko zehlabathi, umnqweno wokushiywa wedwa, umnqweno wokunciphisa uxhulumaniso, kunye nokwanda kwintsimbi kubathandekayo. Kwaba basindileyo, eli liza kuba lixesha lokuphilisa kuqala.
Kwenziwe ntoni
- Yiba ngumphulaphuli omhle - Umhlobo wakho unokufuna ukuthetha malunga noko kwenzekile, iimvakalelo zabo malunga nalo, okanye ukukhumbuza ngokuphila kwabo kunye.
- Ukubonelela ngokuqinisekileyo - kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba umntu azive enetyala, ayenokwenza okungakumbi. Baxelele ukuba benza oko banako.
- Yifumaneke - Oku kuyinyaniso ngokukhawuleza emva kokufa kunye neeholide kunye nezinye iimeko ezikhethekileyo xa ilahleko ivakalelwa kakhulu.
- Ncedisa ngeempendulo kunye neminye imisebenzi - Ngokuxhomekeka kwimeko, umntu osizileyo unokuziva ekhululekile kakhulu ngemvakalelo ukwenza imisebenzi elula; banokuba nokujongana namalungiselelo omngcwabo okanye unyango lwezempilo; okanye mhlawumbi kufuneka bathathe i-slack kwiqabane elingasondelanga ukunceda.
- Yiba nesineke - Ukuba umthandayo unqabe ukumkela isimemo sakho sokutya, njl njl., Ube nomonde kwaye uqhubeke ucela. Ngexesha baya kuba balungele.
- Yiqonda - Umntu onomvandalo unokuthukuthela aze athukuthele kwaye athathe ulaka lwakho kuwe. Qonda ukuba bahamba ngexesha elilukhuni kwaye ungabambeli kubo.
- Gcina unxibelelwano - Bhala iileta, thumela amakhadi evelwano okanye iintyatyambo, okanye ukubiza rhoqo ngexesha.
- Thandaza-Ukuba umthandayo wakho unqulo okanye uyaphukiswa ngumthandazo, thandaza xa uwedwa. Umthandazo uye waziwa ngokuba nempembelelo enamandla, nokuba loo nto imithandazo yakho ayikholelwa kuyo!
Oko Akufanele Uyenze
- Musa ukuwaphepha - Ungakhathazeki ukuba awukwazi into efanelekileyo yokwenza okanye ukuthetha. Ubukho bakho okanye izinto ezilula zizo zonke izinto ezifunekayo ukunceda.
- Ungabaxinzezeli ukuba bayeke ukulila - Umntu ngamnye usilela ngexesha labo kunye nendlela yabo. Bayeke, bakhwaze, okanye bahlale behleli ngoxa ubabambe. Nantoni na efunekayo ukuze ufumane iimvakalelo zabo zilungile.
- Musa ukufihla imvakalelo yakho - Musa ukufihla intlungu yakho okanye ugweme umxholo ngoba awufuni ukubacaphukisa. Esikhundleni sokudabuka ndawonye, bambana kunye nokukhala, okanye uthethe ngamaxesha obabili owachitha kunye nabathandekayo. Ukuba awukhulumi ngomntu nonke, kunokwenzeka ukuba, ngokwenene, uvakalelwa usizi njengokungathi awukhathaleli nokuba uyayiqonda indlela abavakalelwa ngayo. Vula imigca yonxibelelwano.
- Ungabacebisi ukuba bayeke izambatho okanye iimpembelelo zabo ngaphambi kokuba balungele - Umntu ngamnye uyaxhalabisa ngexesha lakhe. Ukungaboni ngqondweni akusebenzi kumntu omthandayo.
- Musa ukuthi "Unokwenza omnye umntwana" - Umntwana ngamnye ngumntu oyingqayizivele. Omnye umntwana akanakuze athathe indawo enye.
- Musa ukuthi, "Yona yinto engcono kakhulu" - Ukuqonda oku akunciphisi intlungu kunye nengqondo yokulahleka.
- Ungathethi "Ndiyazi indlela ozivakalelwa ngayo" ngaphandle kokuba wenza ngokwenene - Lawa ngamazwi angenangqondo ngaphandle kokuba ubekwe kwimeko efanayo kwaye unokunika iziphakamiso malunga noko kukunceda ukuba uphilise.