Izigxeko zokuthi uJosh Duggar, unyana ondala kunabo bonke abonakalisiweyo, ubonisa ukuba abantwana abangama-19 kunye nokubala, ubuncwane obuncinci omnye wabo odade baye baveza ingxoxo enkulu yeendaba malunga neyabantwana bakoxhatshazwa ngokwesondo. Iindaba ziye zashiya iintsapho ezininzi zibuza ukuba lolu hlobo lokusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi lwenzeka ntoni kwintsapho.
Ngelishwa, ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo phakathi kweso sibini kuqhelekileyo kunokuba abantu abaninzi bayazi.
Akunakuphela kwiintlobo ezithile zeentsapho-zenzeka kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo zamakhaya. Ukuxhaphazwa ngokwesondo phakathi kwabantwana bakowenu kungaqhubeka ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuba abazali baqaphele umba. Ngokubuhlungu kukuba, abanye abazali abazithathi amanyathelo afanelekileyo xa beqaphela ingxaki.
Nazi iinkcukacha ezisixhenxe malunga nokuxhaphazwa ngokwesondo phakathi koodadewabo ukuba bonke abazali bafanele bazi:
AmaNgqina angabakhubalala rhoqo
Xa abantu beva igama elithi "umdlwenguli wesini," bacinga umntu omdala. Kodwa, abaphulaphuli ngokwesini bangaba ngabantwana. Enyanisweni, ngaphezulu kweyesithathu kwisigxina sezesondo ngokumelene nabantwana senziwa ngabanye abantwana, ngokweSebe lezoBulungisa base- United States . Ukufikelela okulula kubantakwabo kwenza kube lula ukuba umntu ongekho ngaphantsi komntu uya kukhetha umntu ekhaya.
Abazali bangabaxhatshazwayo xa i-Perpetrator is Minor
Ngelishwa, abantwana abaninzi abonakalisa ukuphathwa kakubi ngokwesondo ngabazalwana bakho abakholelwa ngabazali.
Uphando olwenziwe ngo-2012 kwi- Journal of Interpersonal Violence lwafumanisa ukuba abazali banakho ukugxeka umntwana wabo ngokuxhatshazwa okanye ngokungathandabuzeki ibali ngokupheleleyo xa umenzi wobubi ebengumntwana. Oku kunzima kubazali ukuba bakholelwe ukuba umenzi wobubi ngumntwana wabo.
Abaninzi abakwephulo bahlala kwi-Mid-Adolescence
Uninzi lophando lubonisa ukuba umyinge wexesha eliqhelekileyo lomenzi wesondo wesibini ngumntwana uneminyaka eyi-15.
Phantse kwaba-1 kwabaselula aba-8 abaphulaphuli baneminyaka engaphantsi kwe-12, nangona kunjalo. Umyinge wobudala bexhoba ngu-9. Ukuxhaphazwa ngokwesondo phakathi kwabantwana bakowenu kungenzeka nanini na ubudala kodwa kukho iminyaka emininzi yeminyaka eyahlukileyo phakathi kwexhoba kunye nomenzi wobubi.
Abesilisa baninzi kunokwenzeka ukuba benze ukuhlaselwa ngokwesondo
Kuzo zonke izigwenxa zesini esinikwa ngabantwana, malunga ne-7% kuphela ezenziwa ngabasetyhini. Nangona amabhinqa enza isenzo sobutyala ngesondo, kunjalo, banakho amathuba okuba bahlasele amalungu entsapho, nangona kunjalo. Kubalulekile ukukhumbuza ukuba abaphangi ngamanye amaxesha bakhetha abazalwana bobulili obufanayo.
Ubundlobongela bezesondo phakathi kwabantwana babantwana bakwethu
Iingqinisiso zibonisa ukuba ukusetyenziswa kakubi kobakho kubantwana kuhanjiswe kakhulu kubaphathi. Uphando lwe-2002 leSebe lezeMpilo leNkonzo zeZiko lase-United States lifumene ukuba ubuncinane ama-2.3% wabantwana ahlaselwe ngumntakwabo. Kuphela malunga ne-12% baxhatshazwa ilungu lomntu omdala.
Abasemagunyeni abathandana nabo bathambekele ekwenzeni ubugebengu obuninzi bezesondo emva kwexesha ukuba abafumani unyango. Uphando olwenziwa ngo-1999 olupapashwe kwi- Journal of Interpersonal Violence lafumanisa ukuba ukuziphatha ngokwesondo kuya kuba yinto engathandabuzekiyo ngaphezu kwexesha.
UkuShatshazwa kweSiblings kungakhokelela kwiMiphumo elide
Nje ngezinye iindidi zobundlobongela obuntwaneni , ukuphathwa kakubi ngokwesini ngoomntakwabo kunokuba nefuthe elide kwixhoba.
Abasindiswayo ngokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo banokuvakalelwa ngathi bafanele bagwetywe, okanye baqiniseke ukuba babeyiqabane, kunokuba lixhoba. Kukho rhoqo uhlazo olunzulu olwenzekayo xa umenzi wobubi unelungu lentsapho.
Ngamanye amaxesha abasindileyo bafumana ukungasebenzi kwezesondo, iingxaki zempilo yengqondo, okanye i-PTSD ngenxa yokuphathwa kakubi. Ngelishwa, ngenxa yokusetyenziswa kakubi kwebantakwethu, ingqiqo yokungabi namandla inokuba yanda kakhulu ngokuthelekiswa nokuxhaphazwa ngokwesini eyenziwa ngabanye. Amaxesha amaninzi abantu abasindeyo bafumana iingxaki eziqhubekayo zobudlelwane ngenxa yoko.
Ukuqwashiswa kwabazali ngokuShatshazwa kweSiblings
Zifundise malunga nemingcipheko ye-siblings ukuxhaphazwa ngokwesondo kwaye uthathe amanyathelo afanelekileyo ukukhusela ukuxhatshazwa kobulili olungalunganga.
Ukuba uyakrokrela ukuxhaphazwa ngokwesondo kwimizi yakho, kubalulekile ukufuna unyango lwezonyango kubo bonke abenzi bobubi kunye nexhoba. Iinkonzo ezizodwa ziyimfuneko ukuqinisekisa ukukhuselwa kunye nokuthintela iziganeko ezingakumbi ezingafunekiyo zesondo.