Kukho iingxaki ezithintekayo abazali abaza kuziqwalasela
Iikiti zokuhlola izidakamizwa zasekhaya ezithengiswa kwi-intanethi zingenza kube lula kubazali ukuvavanya abantwana babo ngezinto ezingekho mthethweni, kodwa loo ndlela ayibe yinto engcono kakhulu. Kukho iingxaki ezingenakwenzekayo abazali abaza kuziqwalasela ngaphambi kokuthatha isigqibo sokuvavanya izilwanyana zabo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, zimbini izizathu zokuba abazali baqwalasele ukuhlolwa kweziyobisi ekhaya: njengomlinganiselo wokukhusela okanye njengethuluzi lokuphanda.
Ukuvavanywa kweMithi yoLuntu njengeNqobo yokuPhusela
Ukuba ucinga ukusebenzisa ukuhlolwa kweziyobisi ekhaya njengendlela yokukhusela, mhlawumbi usebenza kwiingcamango ukuba ukuba abantwana bakho bayazi ukuba baya kuvavanywa rhoqo, abayi kuba nako ukuzenza izidakamizwa.
Ingxaki ngaleyo ngcamango kukuba ayixhaswanga yiphina uphando lwezenzululwazi olubonisa ukuba lusebenza. Enyanisweni, ezinye zezifundo ezimbalwa eziye zaqhutyelwa ukuvavanywa kweziyobisi ezingekho phantsi kwezilwanyana esikolweni nasekhaya zibonise ukuba ayinayo impembelelo ekunciphiseni ipesenti yabasebenzisi beziyobisi kunye neziyobisi. Iziphumo "zixutywe" ngokufanelekileyo.
Uvavanyo lweKhaya lunokuBakholwa
Enye ingxaki kunye nenkolelo yokuthintela yinto yokuba akukho vavanyo lweziyobisi onokukunika olo luya ku vavanya zonke izilwanyana ezinokuthi zizisebenzise. Ukuba uvavanya isethi esinye sezidakamizwa, banokutshintshela kolunye uhlobo lweziyobisi, ngelixa uvavanyo lwakho luya kubonisa ukuba abasebenzisi iziyobisi.
Nangona ezininzi zeemvavanyo zekhaya zisebenzisa iindlela zokuvavanya ukufaneleka kwesampuli, kukho ingxaki yokuba kukho iindlela zokukhohlisa iimvavanyo zonyango. Asiyi kubhala phantsi apha ngenxa yezizathu ezicacileyo, kodwa ukuba umntwana wakho ubandakanyeka ekusebenziseni iziyobisi ezingekho mthethweni okanye unokufikelela kwi-intanethi, unokufumana.
Oku kunokukushiya ngengqiqo yokhuseleko xa ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho akayisebenzisi.
Ukuvavanywa kwezilwanyana zekhaya njengeCandelo loPhando
Ukuba ucinga ukusebenzisa ukuhlolwa kweziyobisi zasekhaya ngenjongo yokuphanda, unako ukuphawula ukutshintsha kwindlela yokuziphatha komntwana wakho okanye isimo sengqondo sakho, kwaye ucinga ukuba kungenxa yokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi. Ufuna ukusebenzisa uvavanyo ukufumana ukuba ulungile.
Ingxaki ngokusebenzisa iimvavanyo zezilwanyana zasekhaya ukuphanda ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi zamabantwana bakho kukuba ukuhlolwa kwekhaya wodwa akukwenzanga ukuyenza ngokwabo. Nabo baxhasa ukusetyenziswa kwezilwanyana zezilwanyana esikolweni nasekhaya baxwayisa ukuba kubalulekile ukubetha uvavanyo kunye novavanyo olupheleleyo kunye nesicwangciso sonyango.
Ukuvavanya akusiyo Impendulo Yodwa
Ngokutsho kweNational Institute of Drug Abuse, ukuvavanywa kweziyobisi akufuneki kwenziwe njengempendulo yokuzimela kwimiba yeziyobisi. I-American Academy yezilwanyana zezilwanyana (AAP), engabonakali ukuhlolwa kwezilwanyana ekhaya, iyavuma ukuba izibonelelo ezifanelekileyo zovavanyo kunye nonyango mazifumaneke ukuba abantwana bakho behluleka ukuvavanywa kweziyobisi.
Ukuba umntwana uyaphela ukuvavanywa kweziyobisi, kufuneka kukhokele ekungeneni kwangaphambili kunye nokonyango, kungekhona nje ukulinganisa kuphela.
Ngokomgaqo-nkqubo we-AAP malunga neengxaki zokuvavanya iziyobisi kunye nabantwana abaselula, kunokuthi kubekho ukuphuhliswa kokusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi kunye neenkqubo zonyango lwempilo yengqondo ekhoyo kwindawo yakho ukuba umntwana wakho usebenzisa.
Iiprogram ezijoliswe ngabantu abadala zingaba zifanelekanga kwaye zingenakusebenza kubantwana abaselula, uphando luboniswe.
Ukuphazamisa Ubuhlobo Bakho
Kukhona enye enye into ebalulekileyo yokukhuphela kwabazali ekuqwalaseleni ukuhlolwa kweziyobisi ekhaya: abantwana abanokungonakalisa ubuhlobo bakho nomntwana wakho. Ukuvavanya ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi ekhaya, okanye ngaphandle kwemvume yenkwenkwezi, kunokunyanzelisa kakhulu ubuhlobo bomzali nabantwana, ngokutsho kwabaphandi ba-AAP.
Iintsholongwane ziyakwazi ukuvavanywa kwezilwanyana zinyanzeliswe ngabanye abazali ukuba zihlasele kwaye ziphule amalungelo abo. Awuwona amapolisa, kwaye loo nto ayiyona indima ofuna ukuyidlala ebomini bakho.
Ingonakalisa ulwalamano lwakho kunye nentsebenziswano, ekhokelela kwezinye iingxaki zokuziphatha.
Ziziphi Iindlela Ozithathayo?
Ukuba unomdla wokuba abantwana bakho bangasebenzisa iziyobisi okanye utywala, bawuthabathe ugqirha wabo oyintloko okanye abanye abaqeqeshi bezempilo ukuze bahlole uvavanyo. Ukuba umntwana wakho uthathe inxaxheba ekusebenziseni kakubi iziyobisi, umqeqeshi wezezempilo uyazi ukuba zeziphi izixhobo ezikhoyo ukubonelela ngoncedo ngoncedo lweenkonzo okanye unyango.
Ukuba umntwana wakho ufuna unyango lobugcisa okanye ukuvuselelwa, qi niseka ukuba ufumane isibonelelo okanye inkqubo enamava kwintsholongwane, ukuba kunokwenzeka. Yintoni esebenzayo kubantu abadala abayikwazi ukusebenza kakuhle kubafana.
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