Ukuba banomatasa abantu, ininzi lethu sinokungabi nantoni na "ukungenzi nto." Uninzi lwabantu luthwala uxanduva olunzima lomsebenzi kunye nosapho kwaye kufuneka luhlale luvelisa. Ixesha lethu lixabisekileyo, kwaye asifuni ukulichitha. (Nangona xa eholide, abantu abaninzi abayikusekela kuphela iishedyuli zabo kunye nemisebenzi yamacandelo angaphezulu kodwa bazise umsebenzi kunye nabo!) Ixesha elingenziwanga, ixesha lokuphumla, lingaziva ngathi lichithe ixesha elininzi.
Okuthakazelisayo kukuba, ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka sichithe ixesha elingaziphuliyo ukuze sihlale sivelisa. Ngenxa yokuba uninzi lwengxaki engafanelekanga yokubandezeleka kungakhokelela ekunciphiseni intshukumo kunye nokutshisa , kubalulekile ukufumana izicwangciso zokuxhatshazwa ngokuphumelelayo kunye nokuthatha ikhefu ukwenza oko kuvakalelwa ngathi akukho nto inokubaluleka ekulawuleni lo xinzelelo. Ixesha lokuphumla lisinceda sikwazi ukujamelana neentsuku ezinzima.
ImiSebenzi Yokuziphucula Ukuxinwa Kweengcinezelo
Kukho imisebenzi emininzi esinokuyithatha ngexesha loxinzelelo. Singacinga ukuba nje 'sivila' kodwa ngamanye amaxesha siyazi into esiyifunayo ngokwenene kunokuba siyazi; sonke sidinga ukulinganisela okunempilo phakathi komsebenzi onzima nokuphumla. Wonke umntu udinga "ixesha eliphantsi" ukuze abe namandla okuqhubeka esebenzayo nzima xa befuna. Imisebenzi elandelayo ingabuyiselwa kwaye iyakunciphisa uxinzelelo ukuze ube ngowona xesha lihle kakhulu.
Zama enye yexesha elizayo xa uziva unesidingo sokubuyisela ubungakanani ebomini bakho kunye nokuzonwabisa okufutshane kunye nokuphumla:
Jonga iThelevishini (Ewe, Ewe!)
Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukubukela ithelevishini njengenkunkuma yexesha. Kwaye, ukuba uqiniseke, kunokwenzeka ukuba uchithe iiyure ngeeyure ngeveki ubukele i-tv kwaye ungaze uphumelele kumgangatho ubonisa ukubukela.
Unomathotholo oluninzi lunokunqumla ixesha esinalo kwimisebenzi yokuphila ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuqinisekisa ukuba, kodwa ithendi ingaba yinkqubo yokuphucula uxinzelelo. Kuye kwabonakaliswa ukuba siyafumana ukuphakamisa kwimiba ngokubukela ukuqhutyelwa kwakhona kwemiboniso yethu eyintandokazi, kwaye ukuphakanyiswa kweemvakalelo kunokuguqulela ekunciphiseni kwamanqanaba oxinzelelo.
Dlala imidlalo
Xa ndibonisa ukudlala umdlalo, anditsho ukuba imidlalo edlalwa ngabantu ubudlelwane, ngokuqinisekileyo; ezo zinokuba nzima ngakumbi kunokuba zifanelekile. Kodwa ezinye iintlobo zeemidlalo zingazihlaziya ngokumangalisayo. (Ewe, ndiyincoma imidlalo yevidiyo!) Iimidlalo ezisemgangathweni zidibanisa nathi nabahlobo bethu, abantu esiyithandayo kodwa abanakho ixesha lokusebenzisana kunye nathi. Iimidlalo eziqilileyo zisilondoloza ngengqondo kwaye zivelise ubuchule. Imidlalo eqhelekileyo ingabangela ukuphuka kwengqondo. Kwaye kukho imidlalo yebhodi kunye nemidlalo yeqela, epheleleyo kumdlalo weentsuku zobusuku ! Ingaba ukhetha umdlalo osheshayo we-solitaire okanye ubusuku bemidlalo kunye nabahlobo, ungalibali ukudlala.
I-Curl Up With Book Good
Ingaba ukhetha umdla ovuyayo, imfihlakalo ekhethiweyo ye-tea, okanye incwadi yakutshanje ukuba bonke abahlobo bakho babonakala befunda (ukuba ngabahlobo bakho ngabafundi), ukubandakanya incwadana enhle yinto ekufuneka abantu abadala benze okungakumbi, kwaye isicwangciso esihle sokulawula uxinzelelo.
Ukufunda kuyamangalisa ukuba kungenziwa naliphi na ixesha kukho imizuzu embalwa yokwebiwa, okanye umsebenzi ungathatha umva. Ixesha "eliphumayo" leemvakalelo kunye neengqondo ezinokuthi iincwadi ezintle zinikezela, kunye kunye nokuphunyuka kwengqondo, konke kukukhulu ukusinceda sisuse kuzo naziphi na iingxaki ezijongene nazo ebomini. Ngoko qhubeka ukhulule ngeencwadi ezintle, ungezetyala!
Ngokwenene, Musa ukwenza nto
Nangona abantu abaninzi befumana ubunzima ekuqaleni, bengenzi nto ngokwenene-bengacingi nto, bengayiva, bengenzi nto-kuyindlela efanelekileyo yokulawulwa kwengcinezelo engakwazi ukuguqula ngokupheleleyo.
Ndiyathetha ngomsebenzi wokucamngca . Ukuvumela ukuba ingqondo yakho icacise ngokupheleleyo kwaye ihlale icacile ingqinelana ne-intuitive, kodwa ikhulula emzimbeni nangokomzwelo. Kuthatha inxaxheba ekuqaleni, kodwa iinzuzo ziquka ukuphucula uxinzelelo lwexesha elide kunye nokunciphisa ukusetyenzwa kokusebenza kwengcinezelo, kunye nezinye izibonelelo.
Naluphi na isicwangciso esilukhethayo, iphuzu lokuba ukuphumla nokuchitha ixesha lokuzilibazisa akuyona nje i-luxury, kuyimfuneko yokuphila okunokulinganisela, okuncinci. Yonwabele!