Kwaye Kutheni Kukulungele Ukuba Ngongashadile
Xa usukhulile, ngubani oza kukunyamekela? Kwabaninzi, loo ndoda okanye umfazi. Ngaba umtshato unokuphucula ukulindela ubomi? Nantsi oko uphando lubonisa.
Ngaba Umtshato Uphucula Ubomi Okulindeleke?
Umtshato wawungenye yezinto zokuqala ezingezizo zezinto eziphilayo ezichongiweyo njengokuphucula ixesha lokuphila. Inkcazo ewanikwayo kukuba abantu abatshatileyo bavame ukuthatha ingozi kwimpilo yabo kwaye banempilo engqondweni nangokomzwelo.
Umtshato uphinde unike inkxaso eninzi yoluntu kunye nezinto eziphathekayo, oku kuthetha ukuba umntu athathe wena kudokotela okanye akukhathalele xa ugula.
Nangona kunjalo, uphando lubonisa ukuba umahluko phakathi kwabantu abatshatileyo nabantu abangatshatanga, ngokwempilo, kuncitshiswa. Oku kunokuba kuba iinkcazo zomtshato zitshintsha, okanye ukuba abantu banezinye iindawo zokunyamekela.
Ubunjani Bokutshintsha Umtshato Nokulindela Ubomi
Akukho mntu uthi inqaku lephepha elithi "utshatile" kuyo liya kuphucula ixesha lokuphila kwakho. Nangona kunjalo, kukho into ephathelele abantu abahlala emtshatweni ophucula ukulindela ubomi - okanye ukuchaneka ngakumbi, kwakukhona into malunga nabantu abahlala emtshatweni kwiminyaka engama-70 eyathotyelwa ukuphucula ixesha lokuphila.
Ngoku, abantu bangabhaniswa "abangatshatanga bengazange batshatile" kwidatha yolwazi, kodwa bahlale kunye nomntu kwaye bafumana zonke iinzuzo zempilo zomtshato ngaphandle kokufumana isatifiketi somtshato.
Oku kuhambelana nophando ngomtshato kunye nempilo.
Ukuba ongatshatanga Unokuphila
Uphando lubonisa ukuba abantu abangatshatanga, ikakhulukazi amadoda, baphila ixesha elide kunanini ngaphambili. Ngexesha elidlulileyo, amadoda angakaze atshate ayenokuhlala kwexesha eliphantsi kunabo bonke, kodwa ngoku awanamadoda athile abatshatileyo abavale ngokumalunga nabo.
Iingcali zikholelwa ukuba umehluko ekulindelekeni kobomi kuya kuba mncinci kuba amadoda angatshatanga ngoku anako ukufumana inkxaso kunye nezibonelelo zempilo ezithi, ngexesha elidlulileyo, lize kuphela ngenxa yokuba umfazi wabo uyabanakekela. Ngamanye amazwi, kwiminyaka engama-40 edlulileyo, amadoda athile abatshatileyo anenzuzo (ngaphaya kwamadoda angatshatanga) ngenxa yokuba babe nabafazi babo ukuqinisekisa ukuba baya kudokotela kwaye bazinyamekela. Ngoku, amadoda ayithatha uxanduva olongezelelweyo kwimpilo yawo kwaye kuyaqhelekileyo ukuba umntu akhathazeke ngokukhathazeka ngempilo yakhe kwaye athathe inyathelo.
Kutheni Ukufa Kubuhlungu
Ukulahlekelwa ngumlingane oye wahlala kunye nobomi bakho buhlungu kubayeni nabafazi ngokufanayo. Ngenxa yoko, uphando lubonisa ukuba abantu abafelokazi banempilo embi kunabantu abatshatileyo. Lo mbandela oye wanda kakhulu kwiminyaka yamuva: Akukho mntu uyazi ukuba kutheni amava okuba ngumhlolokazi okhathaza impilo kunokuba abe ngumhlolokazi ngaphambili, nangona kunokwenzeka ukuba abantu banabantu abaninzi kunye noluntu olude bancede. Ngoku, umhlolokazi unokuthi ahlale esecaleni.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ungatshatanga, utshatile okanye ungumhlolokazi, kukho izinto onokuzenza ngokwakho ukuphucula ubude bakho ngaphandle kobudlelwane.
Umthombo:
Liu H, Umberson DJ. Ixesha Baye Bangu-Changin ': Imeko Yemitshato Nezohlukeneyo zezeMpilo Ukususela ngo-1972 ukuya ku-2003. J Health Soc Behav 49 (3), 2008.