Obawo kufuneka baqonde ukubaluleka kobudlelwane obusondelene nabo emtshatweni wabo nakwimitshato yabahlobo babo. Xa ulwalamano olusondeleyo lwentlungu, imitshato iyahlupheka kwaye ngezinye izihlandlo ihluleka. Ukubuyiselwa kobudlelwane obusondeleyo obubuhlungu xa sele bulahlekile bunokuba nzima - kuninzi kunzima kunokuba usebenze kanzima ukuze ulondoloze endleleni.
Ngokomzekelo, umfazi osanda kutshatyalaliswa kumyeni wakhe kwaye wabhala ukuba wayeboniwe ngokupheleleyo ngenxa yokushiya umyeni wakhe.
Ukujonga emva kweminyaka engama-20 + yomtshato wabo, wayenokubona amaxesha apho kwakukho umgama ongumzwelo phakathi kwakhe nomyeni wakhe, kwaye njengoko evuselela ikhalenda yomtshato emva kokufunda imicimbi yokuphandana emfihlelo ngokuphindaphindiweyo, wabona ukulungiswa. Xa kwakukho iimfihlelo, umtshato wahlupheka. Iiyure zakhe ezinde "emsebenzini" zachithwa kunye nabanye abafazi kunye nomfazi kunye nosapho.
Ubuhlobo obusondeleyo ngokomzwelo buboniswe ngokuqhelekileyo njengento esondeleyo apho amaqabane omabini eziva ekhuselekile kwaye ethandwa kunye nokuthembana kunye nokunxibelelana. Xa usondelene neqabane lakho, uvakalelwa ngathi unako ukubona komnye umphefumlo, ukwazi ithemba, amaphupha, kunye nokwesaba nokuziqonda kumgangatho ophantsi. Ubudlelwane obungekho buhlobo obusondelene nabo buhlala bubonakaliswa ukungabi nethemba, ukunxibelelana kakubi, iimfihlelo kunye neemvakalelo ezifihlakeleyo.
Ngoko ke, ukuba ubuhlobo bakho bomtshato bubonakala bubuthathaka obusondelene nabo, kukho izinto ezininzi wena kunye nomlingane wakho onokuzenza ukuze uqinise kwaye ukhulise ubuhlobo obusondeleyo.
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Ulwalamano olunzulu nolunentsingiselo olusisondelene nolwalamano luxhomekeke kumgangatho wokusebenzisana kwabantu. Ukuthumela imiyalezo kunye nokuthumela i-imeyile kubalulekile, kodwa bavame ukuphazamisa ukuxhatshazwa kobuhlobo bokwenene xa kungekho mntu uzinzileyo, umntu, kunye nomnye. Ngoko cinga ukucima ikompyutha, umabonwakude, ikhonsoli yemidlalo yevidiyo, ifowuni kunye nethebhulethi xa uhlangene kwaye uchithe ixesha lokuthetha nokubelana.
Isixhobo esisodwa esineziqabane ezininzi eziphumelelayo zisetyenziselwa ukucima iifowuni zazo kwaye ziwaxhomeke kwibhaksi elincinane okanye ibhokisi xa zifika ekhaya kwaye zivuma ukuba ziyeke ikhefu okanye ezimbini xa zihlangene.
Ukwandisa ixesha elidibeneyo kunye
Kwihlabathi elinzima kakhulu nelinxinzekayo, kunokuba nzima ukufumana ixesha kunye nesibini. Ukuba nabantwana ekhaya kungadla ngokukhawuleza loo bunzima. Enye intsapho yezobuchwephesha yabelana ngombono wokwenza imizuzu engama-30 ngalunye ngokuhlwa emva kokuba abantwana belele embhedeni ukuba bangaphikiswanga ixesha kunye nomlingane. Wacetyisa ukuba amaqabane atya kunye kunye ukuze afike kufuphi kodwa ayenzi zinto ezibalulekileyo ezenziwe.
Esinye isibini sagqiba ekubeni nekomityi yokutshisa i-cocoa eshushu okanye i-herbal tea phakathi kwesiqingatha seyure ukwenzela ukuba bazive bekhululekile kwaye banakho ukuthetha ngcokola. Emva koko lo mpilo wachaza ukuba ubusuku bunye busuku. Izibini ezimbalwa ezisebenzisana nazo zafumana abahlobo kunye nabo ukuba bathengise ukunakekelwa kwabantwana ukuze omnye umbhangqwana aphume ngoLwesihlanu ebusuku ngelixa elinye i-babysat, kwaye emva koko batshintsha ngokuhlwa. Ezinye izibini zicwangcisa isidlo sasemini kanye kunye okanye kabini ngeveki ukwenzela ukuba banokwandisa ixesha abachitha kunye kunye.
Ukufumana iindlela zokuchitha ixesha ndawonye ngaphandle kwezingane okanye ezinye iziphazamiso zibalulekile ukugcina ubungqina obusondeleyo.
Zikhuselekile kuMlingane wakho
Kwiminyaka edlulileyo, ndava intetho ngomtshato kumongameli weyunivesithi apho ndafunda khona. Wathetha ngobudlelwane obuthathaka kwiimimiselo:
Njengoko uthando lwethu lukhule kwaye ubudlelwane bethu bukhula, siye savuleka ngokubanzi malunga nazo zonke iminyaka engamashumi amabini anesixhenxe ngoku, kwaye umphumo kukuba ndiyazi ngokucacileyo ngakumbi ukuba ndingamnceda njani kwaye ndiyazi kakuhle indlela yokulimaza wakhe. Mna ndingayazi onke amaqhosha ukuba ndiqhube, kodwa ndiyazi abaninzi babo. Yaye ngokuqinisekileyo uThixo uya kundiphendula ngenxa yantoni na endiyibangela ngayo ngokunyanzela ababenzakalayo xa ethembele kum. Ukudlala ngokuthemba okunjalo-umzimba wakhe, umoya wakhe kunye nekamva lakhe elingunaphakade-kwaye baxhaphaze abo bafumana inzuzo, nokuba ngaba bafumana ukuzuza ngokomoya, bamele bandenzele ukuba bangaba ngumyeni wabo kwaye bafanele bawuthabathe umphefumlo wam onesidima esihogweni. - uJeffrey R. Holland
Sidinga ukuba siqaphele ukuba siphephile kubaqabane bethu - ukuqonda into enokubangela ubuhlungu nokukhusela oko, size senze into esinokuyenza ukuze sincede amaqabane ethu azive esithandwa kwaye axabiseke kwaye akwenza oko. Xa senza indawo ekhuselekileyo kumntu esitshatileyo, ulwalamano olusondeleyo lwentlungu lufumana umgca.
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Ukufunda incwadi efanayo kunye ngexesha elifanayo, kwaye uthabathe ixesha lokumisa uze uxoxe ngezinto ozifundayo, inokuba isithuthi esihle sokwandisa ubudlelwane obusondeleyo. Kukho ezinye iincwadi ezinzulu malunga nokuqinisa umtshato onokuyifunda kunye, kodwa akufanele ukuba yincwadi malunga nomtshato kunye nobudlelwane. Ingaba yinveli yomnandi, i-biography okanye incwadi malunga nomdla oqhelekileyo. Inyaniso yokuba ufunda kunye kunye nokuthetha inokuqinisa intembeko kunye neenkcukacha zokunxibelelana.
Funa ukulingana phakathi kobuNtu kunye neBabane
Ubuhlobo bomtshato obuqinileyo banamalingani amabini adibeneyo. Ngamnye umntu unobomi obutyebi obuthile kwaye batyala imali kunye kunye. Ukubambisana kakhulu kunokuba yinto engalunganga ukuba iyanciphisa ubudlelwane bobutyebi obuza kubambisana. Ngoko qiniseka ukuba udibanise ukuzinyamekela njengomyeni kunye noyise, kwaye uvumele umfazi wakho enze okufanayo ebomini bakhe. Emva koko beza kunye njengombini okhuselekileyo kunye othembekileyo.
Hlanganisa "Uluhlu Olonwabo"
UMcebisi uDkt. Tony Ferretti uncoma ukuba izibini zidibanise into awabiza ngayo uluhlu olulonwabo - uludwe lwezinto izinto ezidibanisayo kunye kunye kunye nokudala ixesha lokwenza izinto kwiluhlu lokuzonwabisa. Ukuchitha ixesha ekuphandeleni le nto isibini sinandipha kunye kunye nokwenza iimbono kunye namava afanayo kunye nokomeleza ukuthandana. Cinga ngezinto ozenzayo xa usandulana okanye usandul 'ukutshata okwenze ukuba ujabulele ixesha kunye, kwaye uzibeke kwiluhlu lwakho lokuzonwabisa. Emva koko qiniseka ukuba wenza into eluhlu lwamanqaku rhoqo.
Cinga ngemisebenzi yoNcedo lomtshato
Imimandla eninzi, iicawa kunye nemibutho yoluntu ibambe iiklasi zokucebisa umtshato okanye ukutshata komtshato kwizibini ezibini. Izibini ezininzi ziye zafumanisa ukuba olu hlobo lotyalo-mali lwabo bobudlelwane babo luhlawula igalelo ezinkulu. Ukufikelela kwisimo esilungileyo kunye nezinye izibini kunye nomcebisi weengcali okanye abefundisi banokukunceda ekuphuhliseni ubudlelwane bomtshato obunzulu nangakumbi. Olu hlobo lokuzibophezela ekuphuculeni ukutshatyalaliswa kobuhlobo obuthatywayo bubutyalo-mali obukhulu, kodwa buzisa iintlawulo ezinkulu. Kwaye, ukuba uziva ulwalamano lwakho lwangaphakathi, ungathanda ukucinga ngokufuna uncedo kwi-family-qualified clinic.
Ukuba nolwalamano oluqinileyo kumtshato umtshato lubalulekile kwaye lufanelekile umzamo. Ukuthatha amanyathelo athile ekukhombiseni ubudlelwane obusondeleyo kwimitshato yomtshato kuyinto ebalulekileyo yokwenza kwaye ubonise ukuzimisela kwakho kumtshato omde, oqinileyo novuyo. Yaye loo mtshato oqinileyo unceda ukuba ube nguyise ongcono kunye nomyeni omangalisayo.