Ngaba Kuya Kusebenza?
Ukuba umtshato wakho unenkinga, ngokuqinisekileyo akufanele ulinde ixesha elide ukufuna uncedo lobuchwepheshe. Kungaba nzima ukufumana umcebisi olungileyo kunye nezakhono ukunceda ulwalamano lwakho, kodwa balapho kwaye bazimisele ukunceda. Kukho iindlela zokufumana umcebisi onobuchule bomtshato okanye izibhedlele zonyango. Unokufuneka udibane nabaninzi ukufumana okufanelekileyo.
Kukho iindlela zokulinganisa ukuba ukululekwa kuya kusebenza kumtshato wakho. Ngethamsanqa, sinalo ulwazi malunga neendidi zebinibini ezithatha kakhulu, kunye ncinane, ukusuka kumcebisi womtshato.
Nazi ezinye iimbuzo okumele uziqwalasele:
- Ngaba utshatile usemncinane?
- Ngaba awuphumelelanga esikolweni esiphakeme?
- Ngaba unesibhakabhaka esincinci?
- Ngaba ungumtshato ophakathi kwamakholwa?
- Ngaba abazali bakho baqhawule?
- Ngaba uhlala ugxeka omnye?
- Ngaba kuninzi ukukhusela kumtshato wakho?
- Ngaba ujwayele ukuhoxisana?
- Ngaba uziva udelelwe kunye nomsindo omnye komnye?
- Ngaba ukholelwa ukuba unxibelelwano luhluphekile?
- Ngaba kukho ubungqina bokungathembeki, umlutha, okanye ukusetyenziswa kakubi kumtshato wakho?
Ukuba uphendule "ewe" kule mininzi yale mibuzo, ngoko ubalekele ingozi enkulu yokuqhawula umtshato. Akuthethi ukuba umtshato ungenakuphepheka, kusenokuthetha ukuba kufuneka usebenze kanzima ukugcina ubudlelwane bakho ngendlela.
Ezi zibini ezilindeleke ngokwenene kunye nomtshato wazo, zithethe kakuhle, zisebenzise izakhono zokusombulula iingxabano, kwaye ziyahambelana zingaphantsi komngcipheko wokuqhawula umtshato.
Ukusebenza komcebisi ngomtshato
Inzululwazi malunga nokusebenza komcebisi womtshato ifundelwa ngokubanzi ngale mihla.
Idatha kwizifundo ziye zaxutyushwa ngamanye amaxesha. Olunye uphando luye lwabonisa ukuba ukululekwa komtshato akuphumelelanga njengoko abantu bacinga, ukuba abafazi babonakala befumana ngaphezulu kuyo kunamadoda kwaye kungenakho ukuba kube nomphumo ongapheliyo kumtshato wesibini. Nangona kunjalo, sicinga ukuba ukufumana uncedo lwezakhono phambi kokuba iingxaki zifikelele kwisigaba esibalulekileyo luncedo kumtshato.
Ifom yeyona ndlela ifunyenwe kakhulu, kwaye isebenzayo, yonyango olulinganisekile lwengqondo (EFT) oluphuhliswe nguDkt. Sue Johnson. Iziphumo zibonisa ukuba olu unyango luhlala luhlala luhlala luncedo kwaye luncedo kunye nalabo beenkcubeko ezahlukeneyo kunye neenkcubeko. Kwakhona, uphando olwenziwa yi-American Association for Marriage and Family Treatment (AAMFT) lubonise ukuba ngokubanzi, iintsapho zifuna unyango kwaye zibeka ixabiso eliphezulu kumava.
Luhlobo luni lomtshato olufumana uncedo oluthe lwabakho kumtshato?
- Imibhangqwana eselula
- Iingqingili ezingezona zesini kunye nezobodwa
- Abantu abatshatileyo abathandanayo
- Amaqabane avulelekile kunyango kunye noshintsho
- Abalingani bazimisele ukuzijonga ngokwabo kunye neziphoso zabo
Luhlobo luni lobhangqwana oluthola oluhle kakhulu kwi-Counseling Marriage?
- Ababini abalinde ixesha elide ngaphambi kokufuna uncedo
- Imitshato enye okanye omnye umlingane isetyenziselwe ukuqhawula umtshato
- Abantu abatshatileyo abavaliweyo naziphi na iingcebiso ezingasindisa umtshato
- Imitshato kunye nomlingane omnye onomlutha wotywala, iziyobisi okanye ucoceko
- Umtshato kunye neqabane elinye libonisa ukuya kwiiseshini kodwa lingenalo imali kumsebenzi
Isisombululo Esifundwe Kuzobini Abonwabileyo
Uphando lukaJohn Gottman lubheka izibini ezonwabileyo zokufumana izisombululo. Ufumanise ukuba nangona zonke izibini zidibana nemibango yazo, imibhangqwana evuyayo ibonakala iyayazi indlela yokusingatha ukungavumelani kwabo ngenxa yesiseko sothando kunye nobuhlobo. Imibhangqwana engonwabileyo ayinalo isakhono esetyenziswe. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umtshato kunye nobudlelwane babalingani bacetyisa ukuba injongo yonyango lwenkcazo kufuneka iguqulwe iipatheni zokusebenzisana, uxhumano lwengqondo, kunye noqhagamshelwano phakathi kwesi sibini.
Musa ukulinda Uncedo
Ukuba ucinga ukuba umtshato wakho usenkingeni, ungalindi. Funa uncedo ngokukhawuleza. Cwangcisa uhlahlo lwabiwo mali kunye nexesha kule nyango. Xa usalinde ixesha elide, kuya kuba nzima ukufumana ubuhlobo bakho emva kwindlela. Qinisekisa ukuba ufumana iingcebiso zentshabini ezicebisi okanye ukuya kwiinkqubo zemitshato okanye amava eveki ngokukhawuleza ukuba izibonakaliso zengcebiso zivele.