Ukufa kwesilwanyana esithandekayo nangasiphi na isizathu kunokubangela ukudabuka nentlungu ebonakalisa nje njengento enjengeyona nto yabona emva kokulahlekelwa ilungu losapho okanye umhlobo osondeleyo. Kwezinye iimeko, abantu banomuzwa wokungabikho owenziwe ngokufa kweenja zabo, ikati, ihashe okanye nayiphi na enye inwele, ihlawulwe okanye iyingxowanqa engeyena mntu ingumntu ngakumbi ngenxa yokuba sikhetha izilwanyana zethu kwaye sixabisa kakhulu ukungazibandakanyi, uthando olungenammiselo.
Sinikeza iziphakamiso zokukunceda ukujamelana nokufa kwesilwanyana esithandekayo ngendlela enempilo nangenjongo.
Yamkela iimvakalelo zakho
Kulula ukuwela kwisicupho sokugxotha intlungu kunye nentlungu esiziva ngayo emva kokufa kwesilwanyana ngokuzixelela esithi, "Oo, yayingenja inja ... ikati ..." njl., Nokulinganisa intlungu ukuba sinokuziva / sizive emva kokufa kwesihlobo okanye umhlobo. Okwenyani, nangona kunjalo, kukuba abantu bathanda into abayithandayo, kwaye akukho ntlawulo ngenxa yokufa kufuneka ibhekwe njengento engaphantsi kwayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintlobo yelifa.
Usizi lubuhlungu kunye nemiphumo yaso inokuchaphazela ngokukodwa-ngokwenyama, ngokwengqondo nangokwengqondo-nokuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba "u-Rex" nguyihlo okanye uyi-retriever yakho yegolide. Ngako oko, akufanele uvume kuphela ukuba inyaniso yeemvakalelo zakho malunga nokufa kwesilwanyana sakho kodwa uyamkela intlungu yakho njengempendulo efanelekileyo, eqhelekileyo neyimfuneko ekulahlekeni.
Isilwanyana sakho sasilungu elibalulekileyo lentsapho / intsapho yakho kwaye ukuzama ukunciphisa iimvakalelo zakho kunokukhokelela ekubeni uzive unetyala, ukuxinezeleka okanye ezinye iziphumo ezingekho emzimbeni ezibangelwa intlungu engapheliyo.
Melana neSilingo
Enye yezinto ezimbi ezibangelwa ukulahleka ngonaphakade komntu okanye into esiyithandayo yintsilelo yokungabi nalutho kudala, kokubili ezintliziyweni zethu nakumakhaya ethu, okusoloko kusenza sibe nzima ukujamelana nentlungu yethu.
Ngokomzekelo, ngelixa unokuba uthathe ixesha elide ungathatywanga, ukuvuya-ukubona-ubukho bakho inja ngaphesheya komnyango wakho nanini na xa ubuyela ekhaya, ukungahambi kwakhe xa uhamba emva koko kunokukuchaphazela kwaye mhlawumbi kubangela ukudabuka kunye neinyembezi.
Ukufa komntu othandekayo kudala inxeba ezintliziyweni zethu nasemiphefumlweni yokuba kuphela ixesha lokuphilisa, kodwa ngokungafani nokulahlekelwa ngumntu, ilinga ukuphumeza kwaye ufumane "isilwanyana esitshintshileyo," njengentaka entsha okanye intsha entsha. Kufuneka uxhathise isilingo sokuzisa ikhaya elitsha kwilwanyana elitsha ngoku nje ukuzalisa ukungenanto kwintliziyo yakho nasekhaya. Izilwanyana, njengabantu, zinobuqu obuzimeleyo kwaye akukho zilwanyana eziza kubakho ziza kuthatha indawo yesikhumba sakho somlilo, esinesigxina okanye seentlanga ezingekhoyo umntu njengokuba "akukho nto eyenzekayo." Endaweni yoko, vumela ixesha lokulila ngokufa kwesilwanyana sakho de uze wazi, entliziyweni yakho ukuba ulungele ukuvelisa isilwanyana esitsha ekhaya lakho kwaye umnike yena-kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, uyifumana -isipho nothando olungenanto ngaphandle kokuba obini bakha ubuhlobo obutsha, obuyingqayizivele.
Ungayithobeli i-Nattering Nabobs
I-Vice-President we-US uSpiro Agnew wachaza ngokugqithiseleyo ukungathembeki kwamaphephandaba njengemveliso ye "nattering nabobs of negativism." Ngokufanayo, unokuthi udibane namalungu entsapho, abahlobo, abasebenzisana nabo, okanye abanye abacebisa ngokungafanelekileyo ukuba kufuneka "ufumane iimvakalelo zakho," ukuba "ixesha lokuhamba" emva kokufa kwesilwanyana sakho, okanye "Uhlala ufumana enye." Nangona mhlawumbi iinjongo ezilungileyo, ezi binzana kunye nabanye ziphakathi kwezinto ezimbi kunazo zonke ezithethayo kumntu osiziwayo ngokufa kwesilwanyana esithandayo.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ubulumko obuqhelekileyo, intlungu ayikulandeleli ixesha okanye ayihambelani "nezigaba" eziqikelelweyo. Ngaloo ndlela, iimvakalelo zakho nentlungu emva kokufa kwenja yakho, ikati, intlanzi, inyoka, njl njl., Kuya kuhlala ixesha elide. Abanye "abazali bezilwanyana" balungisa ngokukhawuleza ukulahlekelwa kwezilwanyana xa abanye bethatha ixesha elide. Ingongoma kukuba iimvakalelo zakho malunga nokufa kwesilwanyana sakho sizodwa kwaye kufuneka uhloniphe impendulo yakho yentlungu kungakhathaliseki ukuba abanye bathini / bathethe ukuba wenze.
Hlonipha i-Pet yakho
Njengoko kuphawuliwe ngasentla, isilwanyana sakho sasiyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yendlu / intsapho yakho ngexesha lokuphila kwakhe.
Ngaloo ndlela, njengokuba sihlonipha kwaye sikhumbuza amalungu ethu entsapho, abahlobo kunye nabanye emva kokufa, kufuneka uqikelele iinkonzo, iinkonzo kunye nokukhethwa kwezikhumbuzo ezikhoyo ezifumanekayo kwizilwanyana ezifuywayo namhlanje. Ngokomzekelo, inani elikhulayo lamangcwaba kuphela elinikezelwe ekuqhutyweni kwabahlobo bethu abathandekayo abangabantu, nokuba bangcwatywe okanye baqeshwe. Ukungcwaba kuloo mangcwaba, okanye ukubeka "umlotha" wepilesi yakho kwi-columbarium, kunokubonelela ngokufanelekileyo, indawo ephumayo yokuphumla ebonakalisa ukubaluleka kwesilwanyana sakho kwimpilo yakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho ezihlala emva kokufa kwakhe.
Ngokufanayo, ungakhetha kwiinketho ezininzi ukukhumbuza ubumnandi bakho obathandayo, ogqityiweyo okanye obusetyhini abangengowomntu, kuquka ukutshala umthi okanye isitulo kwipropati yakho, ukuyila u-urn lomntu okanye ukukhunjulwa kwesikhumbuzo, okanye ukudubula isilwanyana sakho esitshiswayo sihlala esibhakabhakeni njengemisebenzi yomlilo ngexesha leenkonzo zakho zokwakha.